One of the first things we would do when we would bring a new guy into our church's Red Pill type group was always to find out if they were a porn addict or engaged in any other repeated addictive pattern. I always believed that this was just a Christian aspect of the group. But actually giving up porn is very RP. Porn tends to distort your perception of sexual and relational reality in the same way that only consuming biased mainstream media distorts your perception of world events. You're not gaining a sober picture of anything, because you're looking at sexuality through a specific lens. You're lusting after low value but high attraction women and it's evident even in mainstream society because the lowest value men worship them and mid to high value men generally use them in secret and never reveal the compulsion.

And don't get me twisted, I'm not saying abstaining from porn has an end goal of respecting women, rather the end goal is respecting yourself and your own value. Very much in the same way that if you believe your body is a temple that you abstain from junk food you don't consume pornography for the same reason. It's unearned pleasure. Cheap. Anything cheap and temporary cannot provide lasting impact to your life.

I would much rather tell my wife I look at porn and not actually do it then I would live the other way around. Because jealousy has it's rewards... but delusional perception of sexuality does not. Most men in the group I previously ran learn a great deal about their patterns of self sabotage when they remove all the consumption based coping mechanisms. They come out and show their faces. With that warped lens of distraction and cheap "self-fulfillment" gone, you are forced to fight your ego for a peek at your true situation. You have to live in reality. And that's a fight worth fighting. Now tell me I'm wrong. I'd love to hear why.