"I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person." — Olivia Wilde

Before finding MRP, in your deadbedroom blue-pill marriages, many of you probably felt more alone than you have in your life even though you were still surrounded by people.

Have you ever been truly alone?

But have you ever actually been alone? No one to talk to, no Facebook/Twitter/email to keep you occupied, no gaming consoles, etc.?

In this modern age, we seem to be always surrounded by ways to connect to people, ironically so it seems as many of us have forgotten how to interact with people. So what happens when you disconnect from everyone and everything?

Could you do it?

Soon after discovering MRP and beginning of my unplugging, I found myself with a weekend where my wife and kid were away and I was at home alone. Holy crap was I lost. It took me 1/2 day to realise it, but I felt like I needed people to be around to validate who I was. If that had happened before I would have rushed off to the gaming console for some harpy and guilt free shoot-em-ups, parked in front of the TV watching something dumb or been trolling Facebook to see what everyone else was doing.

Instead, I set about finishing a few unfinished projects, took care of some home maintenance, read a couple of books from the sidebar, lifted, listened to some of my favourite music loud, cooked up a couple of great dinners, enjoyed a few quiet scotches on the porch and just found time to rediscover what being alone was about. Although, I still felt that need to game/Facebook/etc that I didn't indulge.

That weekend is the moment I realised that I wasn't living a life for me and that MRP is definitely the truth. I need to fix myself before I fuck up everything in my life completely. And fixing myself wasn't going to happen if I had no clue who I was.

Make it happen

If you can't spend time alone with only you as your company, you're not living the life you want.

Make it part of your MAP to spend time alone. Truly alone. Benefits of alone time:

  • Decision making

  • Trust in yourself

  • Getting stuff done

  • Enjoying a hobby

  • Time of introspection

  • Sparks your creativity

  • Consume the sidebar in peace

  • Become your own source of validation

And most importantly...

  • You get to spend quality time with someone awesome