"It Just Happened"

shneakypete · 2017-10-22T01:19:33+00:00

Man. This post is amazing. I don't understand why it has all the hate that it does but this man put something into words that I've been feeling for the past two years.

Worst part of red pill is how brutal the community is to noobs. "What!? Your wife won't give you BJ's on command? Side bar and lift, neck beard!"

This post is solid gold. It helped me a ton man. Good job.

oak_water · 2017-10-21T12:51:14+00:00

Anti-slut defense is not the girl having to deal with responsibility. Anti-slut defense has to do with the social impact (either the view of her friends/people around her out in public, or her compiled view of herself compared to society's image of being a 'proper woman') that entertaining sex with you will have on her. Literally "I'm not a slut" defense.

Being the oldest child in the house, your wife doesn't want or need that responsibility if she is to be your babe.

This is true, but the reason this is a problem has everything to do with how she views you as low status. If you were to give it a name, beta shaming instinct might be the right one.

Other things that confused me:

if I officially begin the process of coitus

Present tense? Are you writing about it as you're still doing it?

I come out of left field sometimes

and

it's more of a slight ramp up

Don't mesh

She feels no guilt in not having sex with me immediately, because she's not letting down my hornily constructed expectations.

I think this is saying that because you don't expect sex immediately then she doesn't feel the beta neediness to have sex and/or 'let you down' right? I had to re-read a bunch, the writing style is a bit rough.

crimson_chris · 2017-10-21T22:39:28+00:00

BUT. If you are a fat autistic fuck, you don't start here. You start with the basics. Yes the fucking basics. Lift. STFU. Sidebar. Then learn AM and A&A. Then you move on gaining Frame, OI and Abundance Mentality. There are no shortcuts or magic bullets. Only work.

Look. I have ALWAYS been overtly sexual/flirty with my wife. I have also been in relatively decent shape. So when I started MRP, I was able to implement ABC (always be closing) relatively fast. It was an old behavior that I let fade away (and yea, it does work). If this is new to you, don't just jump into it. If you would not fuck you, don't expect your wife to respond positively to you "flirting". There are pretty predictable steps of progressions here. Some fat, antisocial fuck here is going to flirt with his wife and get rejected, get butthurt (no OI) and the go Rambo and say this shit does not work.

But, again it does work if you follow the progression and put in the work. Today my wife had a small victory. I literally just texted her congtats and suggested that we get some chocolate cake to celebrate. Her response "oh, so you can lick some chocolate frosting off me later tonight". My response was "no, so you can suck some off me". She is conditioned to know that sex is always on the table with me. I barely have to lead her there. I make anything I can fun and sexual.

Tldr; Don't be fat. Don't be autistic. Learn the basics. THEN flirt with your wife. (Oh, and remember YOU are the prize).

red-sfpplus · 2017-10-20T17:52:26+00:00

Was expecting this to be a post from a guy who's woman cheated on him and she used this excuse as to why...

Flagfootball99 · 2017-10-22T18:01:06+00:00

Great post..

"it's a spectrum , it's not binary. "..

Great. as a stem tard, i tend to think black and white, on or off. What helped me is learning to have fun, cocky funny attitude, .stop over thinking shit when it's not necessary. Always be sexual. yes, my wife saw me coming a mile away when i wanted sex and it.was.probably cringe worthy.

As far as the negative comments goes, you really need to think of these post as a locker room, sharing of ideas and field reports. Take what's useful for you and ignore the rest. Add to.your.tool.box...

Any good profession; engineering, medicine, teaching, law, etc. Are all PRACTICES, not absolutes. Yes, we learn them from sidebar of textbooks and classroom training,but.you.need.to practice it out in the field. That's where the real learning takes.place. Same.with this place. It's a Practice. I choose to think of this place as such.

thewrightstuff88 · 2017-10-25T18:48:32+00:00

This correlated with the notion that men operate like a switch, on and off, while women are more like a volume knob, they have to be turned on gradually

donedreadpirate · 2017-10-20T18:40:17+00:00

So you are a socially autistic dude who's wife cringes when he escalates too quickly. That's what I got from this.

screechhater · 2017-10-21T11:22:06+00:00

So you brought up her "dread -ing" having to fuck you, but then you don't mention dread

Dread in itself is the time she met you and then fucked you repeatedly to seal the deal and then you go all lax, putting her on a shelf, only to Fuck her at your convience. She knows this and then you got fat - add autistic and well, you got dreading to fuck and dreading having to stay with you at all

Re set. Monk mode or whatever, working on yourself, And your keying into a few principles, but your missing dread.properly studied and applied, she's finding places and times to fuck.

umh, excuse me- screechhater, what did you just say ?.

Run through each level properly. By levels 4 and 5, the anti slut goes away at times and grabs you and puts you into a soaking wet box or pushes your head down there with nails making your scalp bleed, while keeping the action going, allowing enough break time for air or swallowing

Watching what she does at this Level vs what she used to say about being too old for this, tells the tail tell signs of Dread and the work in MRP at hand, pays off

Congrats. You've scratched the surface, but get off the covert contractual betaism

ReddJive · 2017-10-20T18:39:36+00:00

Yeah see...what this really is a typical TRP post where we get RP barfed back at us.

Where’s the insight? The introspection? What did you learn how did you learn it that may help other men?

Poofysmoof · 2017-10-20T21:54:35+00:00

Constant improvement, always be pushing yourself. I know I had gotten lazy and all kinds of shit hit The Fan. I grabbed my balls and hit that grind, figured out it was my fault and took care of my business. Now I don’t just get iOi from the woman, I get it everywhere. Shit, I’ve even seen men pointing me out maybe to shit on me but the lady their with licking their fucken lips like I’m prime rib. Don’t do that, women will notice other men without you pointing them out and if it’s a guy like me I’ll wink at her, while she’s salivating haha. Back to my point, keep pushing. This is the MRP, so sometime ago she was attracted to you. She owns half your shit, she liked you maybe loved you, and hopefully at one time she lusted after you. Help her bring back that lust, it will come back if she wants it too. You just have to be the top of your game or heading towards it, I’m far from it but if I get even a little more out of this deal I’ll be on top. I say this because my dick is raw from all the sex I get now. She touches me in the morning, evening I’m her steak now, and the act omg it’s like we are in our youth. It’s good but also no matter how tired you are give it to them like your the Sancho, because that fucker would. Fuck Sancho, bastard. Good luck

makethemflaunt · 2017-10-27T09:24:43+00:00

Solid post, And I want to add something in regards to this:

Then we get horny, so our radar clicks on... The problem is that the bitch can tell when that radar starts up. And she dreads that ping.

and

When a woman has to make sexual decisions (e.g., do I accept this man's offer to slobber up his cock right now?), she will feel the weight of responsibility as the one wearing the sexual pants....your wife doesn't want or need that responsibility...

While it's true that the feminine prefers to be led and to not feel responsibility for things, I think that there is a deeper cause for the guttural female cringe in the example above.

Namely, the man in this example is showing his cards, his end-game, what he really wants; expressing that his actions do not stand in and of themselves as worthwhile contributions to the social exchange, but are only valuable and good if they are moving the woman towards sex. This puts her in an awkward situation.

The sub-conscious thought process goes something like this: "If I reject him, he's going to get butt-hurt and ruin a perfectly good evening. Oh no, I better distract him and get away from this situation!" And so she scrambles desperately to get away from the situation of the thirsty needy male as soon as possible. A whole host of maladies may come up: headache, tiredness, lady cramps, an inexplicable desire to talk about something boner-killing....

When showing hornyness is okay

Women who enjoy being hit on by their man, teased and played with in the ways you describe, don't mind knowing that their man is feeling horny—in fact that makes them feel good—as long as they know he is also totally able to go with the flow with whatever her fickle feminine response may be at any given moment. She wants the safety of being able to "play" with being flirty and even do some initial fore'play', without having to commit to the whole kit and caboodle.

While the ping of a thirsty man will send a woman running for cover, the expression of "I'm feeling horny, and I'm going to flirt with you, because I like your body" coming from a confident outcome-independent man may actually start the chemistry going for the evening.

Title	"It Just Happened"
Author	oak_water
Upvotes	68
Comments	45
Date	October 20, 2017 5:37 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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