Nearly every new Alpha coming in here isn't on their game. At all. I guess I shouldn't be surprised but I am. Most of you are lacking in some of the reading. A few are choosing some of the more graduate level reading in favor of the beginning. I have even read statements that have said they know this stuff.....if you do why the fuck are you asking simple questions.

Amazingly I think you are even failing at being betas. You are not doing your research nor, amazingly enough, reading. We can tell in what you say, how you say it, and the simple questions you are asking. And if you aren't posting OYS then I have no idea what you are doing. Words like kind of, mostly, I've been working on it....these are passive and bullshit. We have a process here. All of us have done it. It works if you work it.

Most of you are getting too introspective. Way too much in your head. How do I know? It happened to me. I nearly wiped out myself. It was not pleasant. Everything I loved, enjoyed....destroyed it. Gone in favor of the work. It was difficult to see I was so focused on outcomes, analysis, and had my head down plowing through. /u/Persaeus pointed it out and showed me the way. Take this weekend and get out of your head. Most of you are spending time in deep analysis. Not entirely bad but there is little action following it. I can tell because is your successes are incidental of your actions. You are not seeing the forest because of the trees. You act surprised when things turn out OR you are misinterpreting them. Its like a cave man discovering fire and thinking he made the lightening strike.

In my early awakening one of the most alpha moments I had was to wake up and I just left the house and came back with everything I needed to build a fire pit in my back yard. Weak sauce to me now but at that point? Paradigm changing. You need to wake up and follow your instincts.

Do the one thing you want to do without permission or telling. Just do it. Then sit back with a beer and enjoy it. Thats your challenge this weekend. Build something. Fix something. Get your hands dirty...doesn't matter but....be spontaneous. Bonus points if it supports your mission and includes the family.

Your Gift

So....here. Me being nice. I literally spent a couple minutes and gathered just a few of the flared members Posts about Comfort Tests.

The reason there isn't some guide, or deep research is because they are different and vary with each girl. This is based on where she sees the relationship and how much dread you've applied. A delicate balance. The Oak Concept is how you righten the ship after you've been an asshole.

As /u/A_Rex has said loving your wife isn't weak and nor is being romantic. Men are. We want to be. Rollo has even said to keep on being poetic, creative, and artistic. Most betas allow their women to crush this spirit or betas misplace it. You are things because its who you are. Fuck the other shit.

Now, certainly you can be the hard core Alpha of Alphas if you want. Just don't be surprised if your relationships don't last too long. But then...I don't think you would be concerned.

here's your guide.

Newbies: No, your wife doesn't "comfort test" you.

Comfort tests and attachment theory

How to distinguish between a shit test and comfort test.

Bluepillprofessor's 5th Video/Podcast: Comfort Tests, Alpha, Beta, Omega and Oaks

My first comfort test that I knew was real

Theory The Shit-Comfort Continuum