Your wife doesn't know the rules have changed.

You've been doing your reading. You've been lifting. You're feeling more abundant. Identifying shit tests. But you just don't think like your wife is accepting the changes yet. She's resisting.

Well, of course that's the case. She hasn't been doing the reading, and you of course follow the first rule of fight club, so she has no idea there's a new sheriff in town.

You've got to give it time. "You lead, she follows". Follow. To come after. It's not "you lead, she paces" No, she follows you. There will be lag.

Going Rambo screws you up and it screws up the process. Not only are you a nubile moron that doesn't know shit yet, but you're also trying to move to fast. Slow your roll. Work the process. Your wife will come after

Same with dread game. One month per level, minimum. This isn't just for you. You need time to internalize the process. But your follow needs time to see the new direction. The U.S.S. Ronald Reagan don't turn on a dime, and neither will your wife.

One line summary: Just because your wife isn't keeping pace with your changes doesn't mean your changes aren't working.