I'll be posting some about myself and my own MRP progress eventually, but I wanted to share a quick heart-wrenching, but totally expected tale of my wife's cousin who is in the middle of a bad divorce. TL;DR: AWALT; lift; improve yourself before this happens to you; never get seriously involved with a chick who has a history of cheating.
My wife's male cousin, early 30s has been with his soon-to-be-ex wife for about 6-7 years, married for about the last 5. When they were dating she cheated on him with an ex. He initially left her, but she came back to him when she realized he was a good beta bux. He had oneitis for her, got back with her, and got her pregnant.
He's always been pretty overweight, and has a very passive quiet demeanor. She was always above his SMV but also kinda dumb and they live in a small town without many options. They get married after kid one, and then she pops out kid two. After kid two, he puts on even more weight, while she's a SAHM and gets back into shape. Her SMV is much higher than his basically throughout their whole relationship, but now it was a stark difference.
Recently she went back to work doing real estate and starts making more than him. She started complaining that he had no drive or passion for improving himself or direction in life and was just floating along. Then they stopped having sex, which went on for about 4-5 months, and he doesn't see this or her complaining as a red flag, but just keeps going on with the same. Eventually, he suspects she's cheating (with her ex who just got out of jail) due to some unexplained time, and then finds proof when she left her ipad logged into her account and was syncing with her phone's texts. Around this time I thought about telling him about the red pill so he could get out, improve himself, and move on. Upon hearing this I said, "watch her get pregnant," and sure enough, she does. She makes the other guy pay for an abortion.
After confirmation of her cheating, he gets a lawyer and is preparing for divorce. After he serves her/files, she freaks out and starts demanding full custody so he'll pay child support. He knows that with her making more, he won't have to pay as long as it's 50/50 custody. She then fraudulently takes out a credit card in his name to pay for new stuff in her new apartment, which he cancels but doesn't call the cops on her for it.
Then last night she comes home and demands he leave the house and that she get 75% custody. He says no. She hits him and calls the cops. Then hits herself before the cops get there. They take him away and she gets a restraining order. Now he is staying at his parents, and she has the house and the kids. Worst part is that I think all this was in front of their young kids, and he could lose his job over it because he works for the state (I think as a social worker).
Hopefully he'll be able to prove she hit herself and get her charged with filing a false police report, but I don't know how difficult that will be or if there's any evidence. He could also charge her with CC fraud for opening the card in his name. Just such a terrible situation all around.
I just wanted to share this as a warning, and see if anyone has any advice that I could give him.
UPDATE: She told the court he has guns and she's scared for her life. She hasn't let anyone in his family see the kids, so he's considering having her charged with kidnapping. He filed a restraining order against her this morning. He's already $10k deep in lawyer fees.
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