I have been giving a lot of thought to the problems faced by men on this sub. Mainly it is "my wife is not fucking me enough". So this is my second attempt to take a fresh look at this problem (my first was rambling and lacked cohesion). The general advice on here is "lift, implement dread, read NMMNG, do these things for yourself". That advice is effective and will probably lead to you having more sex with your wife. Rollo's recent posts about reconstruction have made point that you cannot use red pill methods to obtain blue pill goals. He also pointed out that the red pill you probably would not even chose your current wife as a partner. Well attempting to be "alpha" enough to make a marriage into a Disney fantasy is the epitome of attempting to use red pill methods for a blue pill goal. I am not much of a writer but I am old and experienced with LTRs and bitches generally so here I go with my take on things.
I personally do not think you should need to be jacked just to get your bitch wife to fuck you. So long as you are in reasonable shape (and this would include having a dad bod in your 40s), and she is not 2-3 points above you in SMV, you have every right to expect sex. If you are not a slob, work decent hours, you have a decent personality and take good care of your family then why on earth isn't she happy to fuck you? Standard red pill logic says "you are not alpha enough", "it is your fault", "lift, be more alpha, blah blah". Well fuck that, maybe it is her fault as well. Maybe you picked the wrong partner when you were blue pill, maybe she has turned into a horrible harpy since she secured commitment from you. Maybe the relationship has run it's course or decades with the same person has just gotten old (humans are not monogamous, very few species in the animal kingdom are). I personally think that relationships all have a used by date. The idea of happily ever after is a blue pill lie.
So again, where does this leave you? Each reader will be in a different position, some will want to save their marriage because they still love her (why, she obviously does not love you), some want to avoid divorce rape, I get it, the legal system is stacked against you. You do not want to hurt the kids, a laudable and honourable concern. Still the problem remains, she is not fucking you enough so here you are on this sub. So you can get divorced, you can follow all the standard advice on here, so you get to stick your dick into the dragon that forced you onto the internet to get advice from strangers. Or - you can get out there and get yourself some strange.
My view is that it is not all your fault, fuck Patrice O'Neal's opinion that it is always the man's fault, fuck the idea that you need to be some alpha with a body like Duane Johnson. So if your wife is not fucking you, and you are a good guy in decent shape then I say go get yourself some pussy elsewhere. Why uphold your end of a bargain if she is not? That is like fighting fair when your opponent is a cheat. Before you embark on your journey into a new (or many new) vaginas, understand that you may blow up your marriage. You should fully accept that before you go ahead. Then mentally divorce that woman who is not fucking you. You should follow all the usual red pill advice, lift, learn game, follow your mission, do it for yourself. Then go out and get laid. Choose your poison, hookers are low risk, cheating is high risk, high reward, sugar babies are somewhere in between. Just stop focussing on your wife, if she does not fuck you, and you are in decent shape, then she deserves to get cheated on.
Thoughts?
EDIT: I did not say do not lift or do not improve, read back, I said do all of the usual red pill advice. I did not reduce emphasis or importance of that. I am saying that if your wife is not fucking you and you are basically the same guy she married then do not do it for her, or to save your marriage. Do it for you and stop blaming yourself for her lack of interest. Take care of you and get out there among other women.
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