Read all Sidebar, Swallowed the pill almost 7 months ago. Lift 4-5 days per week. 6' 1", 192, no idea on body fat, but pretty lean.

Biggest lesson lately is it's ok to loosen up. When I first swallowed the pill, I became an asshole, which seems to be a fairly common theme. From my observations on MRP, some of the directions after a 2-3 months of assholeism are A) Become purple, and then eventually slip back into BP and B) Dust yourself off, learn from your mistakes, keep reading and lifting, and realize that all you can expect is progress as long as you keep putting the work in, C) Blame all your problems on your wife, Go nuclear, and decide that you want to find a snowflake (good luck with that), or D) Stop reading but keep lifting, and become purple for an indefinitely amount of time.

All but B seem to keep RP seekers in the anger phase.

I have chosen B.

It has been a tough road so far, and sometimes I can still go into the anger phase, but I seem to come out of it faster as long as I keep doing the work. Usually, if I read enough status updates and comments, the answer will come, and usually the problem is in the same room as me - hint: it's not my wife.

At some point, I realized that my actions were in fact creating more sex because I was being more alpha, but I saw the end game as a dead end road. More sex is not the ultimate goal, and if it is used as the end goal, it will lead to a dead end. Frame and self improvement is the goal, and sex is a side effect.

More on that: I have always lifted, so my sex life never really went below one duty sex per week. Now, I pretty much have sex any day I want unless she is sore, which can happen since we are now having sex 3-4 times a week, and much higher quality or I need a break - I'm 48, and my body seems like 3-4 times a week is about right, and actually that's about all I want in a week. Important: I stopped jacking off and watching porn. I don't have a desire to do that now that I am getting it as much as I want, sometimes up to 8 out of 10 days if she is ovulating. I've found that when she is ovulating, I am more turned on by her.

One of the biggest revelations I've had is just try to have fun in my life. I'm rebuilding a social life, which was pretty much nonexistent for several years, and the oneitis was strong. Loosening up the oneitis is a natural byproduct of developing a social life. Women can feel the abundance on an intuitive level and it gives them the tingles. It also keeps me in a better mood and gives me an abundance mentality... in general, life becomes more fun, and my sense of humor is better. Again, this is good for me, and she gets to enjoy it, or "fill my container" if you will.

I see lots of guys coming on after 60 days, frustrated, thinking about divorce, and wondering why she's not responding to their MAP or dread. Holy crap, after years of betization, it takes time. Patience is a key in swallowing the RP. Swallowing the RP is a process, not an event. It's a change of mindset... a mindset where your frame resides, and if your significant other decides to join great, if not... still great. Abundance. Give it time, work through the anger. Never make big decisions in a state of anger. Keep reading, keep lifting, keep working on social life, keep day gaming, and most of all, keep a damn sense of humor. Don't take her so seriously, it only feeds into her mood and draws you into her frame. If she doesn't want to join your good mood, STFU and leave. Maybe she will when you get back. Maybe she won't. It doesn't matter. Life is too short to not enjoy. Eventually, as long as your girl isn't too damaged, jaded, or bitter, she will come around because leadership by example is what works.

Some other general observations: don't negotiate sex- you can't negotiate desire, and it's a turn off. Don't try to use logic too much, unless you want her pussy to be so dry that the duty sex you will get will require KY. Don't mate guard - that's something I've had to work on, and I've made progress - its a great way to be unattractive. Don't DEER - this is a big one, and this was a turning point in my BP "recovery." If you start to DEER, STFU in mid sentence. She will be very inquisitive as to what you were saying, just say "never mind, it wasn't important." Change the subject. STFU is used when shit tested for starters, but have fun when you're not being shit tested, or you will just become "brooding." Later, AM and AA can be mixed in, but don't try to mix these in too soon - you will mess up and make it worse: Master STFU first. When all else fails, leave, regroup, and come back when your frame is strong again.

I didn't think this was going to be a wall of text, but there you have it....