Quick FR: She Doesn't Love You

armwithnutrition · 2016-10-31T16:09:52+00:00

In this context, however, it does seem to be an "us" situation, right?
Had it been something more specific to you, would she say "God, I love you"?
Do you, in contrast, look at something that entails the both of you creating something, and think "God, I love you" about her?
I'm not disagreeing with this female psychology at all, I'm just trying to understand if your (and my) approach might be even a little skewed.

MindfulStoic · 2016-10-31T19:18:14+00:00

This is something I managed to tap into myself, thank you for sharing.

My wife and I are fortunate in that we enjoy the same social activities, so we do a lot together. We have an active social life with several friends where we've created this persona of being the fun couple that parties together. We don't do regular nights out apart, because we honestly enjoy letting loose and blowing off steam with each other.

So I started using the moniker "Partner in Crime" or "P.I.C." to refer to her. She fucking loves it and refers to it all the time. She hashtags everything "#myPIC" and often says the same "I love us" line in the same context the OP mentioned.

I essentially created this narrative of us as a couple that she buys into fully. I don't lie to myself and pretend that she just loves me for who I am...she loves the identity that we've established as a duo.

WhiteTrashKiller · 2016-11-02T10:54:32+00:00

You are misinterpreting AWALT and female psyche in general. As for your post, you assume a woman is aware of the future, as in what you can provide or how we look together. They are not, that is why at the drop of a dime you're dead and new Chad is Jesus Christ with a 10" dick and she is praying at his altar....

You need to accept that you are only as good as what you have provided to her previously. Just as she looked at the pictures in realtime, they have become a memory with a shelf life that is degrading daily.

It hurts when you realize you are all alone out here. Friends, brothers, women they will all sacrifice you(not themselves) to benefit themselves. Cash in what equity you were given and play a hand. There are a lot more bluffers out there than you think......

You may just grab a nut flush! Or you may get your nuts flushed. Either way you're a man and life is grand........

Persaeus · 2016-10-31T22:32:38+00:00

No shit, Sherlock. All love is conditional, as it should be. I love my LTR, but he knows that if he gets out of shape, stops lifting, turns religious, wants kids, or breaks any of my deal breakers, my love is gone. I know well that if I got fat, lived off his money, turned feminist, etc., he would stop loving me.

This isn't a female thing. Any being with self-worth knows love, respect and friendship are CONDITIONAL on your getting value out of the transaction. I love my LTR so long as he is valuable to me. Vice versa as well. Romantic love does not overwrite value.

The men love women, women love children, children love puppies flow is often stated but dead wrong. Even a parent's love is conditional, a man's love is conditional based on his priorities and deal breakers, and children don't have the brain development to love at all.

All love is conditional. When you stop seeking revenge for heartbreak and realize she fell out of love for you based on her subjective values (the same you possess), you'll stop feeling bad.

BobbyPeru · 2016-11-01T03:52:37+00:00

Women love how you make them feel, they love how your relationship appears to the general public, they love the relationship not the man.

Appearances My wife checks obsessively when she posts something to see how many likes it is getting. Most of her posts are of us as a couple, and one of her coworkers (who never met me before) told her she's "so lucky to have a husband who loves her so much." It doesn't hurt that I've been lifting like a madman, so she posts even more lately. If I stop working out and get fat face, I guarantee the quantity of posts will go down. But, I won't.

Feelz Tonight she was all in a crappy mood, and I told her she was great and everything was going to be OK (since it was a comfort test, not a shit test). She had the biggest smile, and it changed her whole night and she told me she "loved me so much." She loved the way I made her feel tonight. Tomorrow night, if I say the wrong thing at the wrong time, I will be the devil. Also, it's important to point out that it depends on her mood. I could have said the same thing I said tonight (her being great) on the wrong night, and it might have backfired. Trial and error, intuition, and a little luck go a long way.

spexer · 2016-10-31T15:54:08+00:00

Women love how you make them feel

This.

And some people would see this as a problem to bemoan... However it can also be seen as an opportunity.

Create the feelz. Don't worry about the "love".

BluepillProfessor · 2016-10-31T15:51:34+00:00

Ouch for the reminder.

Turd Flinging Monkey's "She'll Never Love You" explains this in more detail for those who care to follow the rabbit down the hole. Everybody else, don't forget to read the TRP sidebar on Men and women in love.

drty_pr · 2016-11-01T15:59:29+00:00

Women love men for: - feelz - how you make her get butterflies, cry and laugh all in a neat little basket. If you can fuck her good, even better - provisions - what you provide for her in terms of financial, household maintenance and duties. The level of carefree she obtains from your relationship - perception - what she looks like in the social sphere from being in a relationship with you

Men love women for: - conquest - she is a representation of everything you have done to get her - possession - she is among the things you value like a good deer rifle or a chainsaw. The more she does for you, the higher of a value she has to you. Like how a real good cordless drill is beloved. - perception - like it or not, you love how you look with that fine woman around your arm in a social setting. When you buddy complements you on her ass, beta you is scared he will try for her, alpha you thinks 'fuckin right'

The problem from this dynamic arises when a man is conditioned with a blue pill mind set. They think that love is just the gooey feeling in their stomach. A fairy tale in which all your stupid little quarks are what she is attracted to.

Women are aware of this and use it to their fullest advantage. They have watched their mom, sisters and aunts play the game this way.

This is why BP men are so frustrated. How many times pre RP did you say to yourself (or even her) "Why can't she love me the way I do her?" or "Why doesn't she let me know that she is mine forever through feelz and not just empty words?"

When it becomes interesting, is when a man becomes RP aware. Suddenly he understands this paradigm and starts playing the game to his advantage. When he fully embraces "she isn't yours, it's just your turn", a women recognizes immediately and gets nervous.

donkeypunchdrunklove · 2016-11-14T20:43:55+00:00

I recall reading your post, at the beginning of a two week out-of-town business trip. A day or so after my return home, I said to my wife, "I've missed you", to which she replied, "I miss who we are when we are together."

RuleZeroDAD · 2016-10-31T17:25:07+00:00

Westworld is awesome by the way! I have to send the kids out when watching it.

A more interesting HBO series is "Divorce". This is a show about feminine primacy in entertainment and current culture, as it's just divorce porn for women. For RP guys, it's a good test of how much BP BS you can spot, and how many preparing for divorce mistakes one AFC can make.

Willow-girl · 2016-11-01T17:23:33+00:00

Women love how you make them feel

Ehh. I met my boyfriend over the Internet; we both participated in a chat forum. I was blown away by his arguments -- their insightfulness and his awesome sense of humor. I was kinda crazy about him before we had any sort of personal interaction; hell, I didn't even know how old he was or where he lived! Never thought we'd meet IRL, let alone end up together, but what the hell.

TL;DR: My attraction was to my BF's personality and intellect, not necessarily anything he was doing for or with me.

JaneeCathartica · 2016-11-01T20:32:45+00:00

You shouldn't need to be mothered by your partner, anyway. You can love someone unconditionally andromantically, without getting all weird and parental. & If she doesn't love you in your fat and boring phases. fuck her. Literally or figuratively, honestly. Either could work. But, yeah. If you can't stick by your man in the low down times, set him free to find a woman that can. And when I say stand by, I mean as you figure yourself out, I don't mean expecting her to do it for you. I feel like there's some general confusion about that going on here, to be completely honest.

[deleted] · 2016-10-31T17:21:51+00:00

Her: " Why are all the female robots there for sex? Like , they should have more features"

Me: " It's what the customers want. Apparently Even the female ones. "

Title	Quick FR: She Doesn't Love You
Author	RP_SuitScholar
Upvotes	38
Comments	81
Date	October 31, 2016 2:37 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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