TL;DR

My personal observations and experiences from past months after I divorced, moved out and read „The Nine Laws” by Ivan Throne.

Relationships come in cycles

There was that post called „The 6 stages of breaking up”. It actually describes phases of any relationship.

Because every relationship is temporary and it will die. This is the natural order. This is the way nature meant it.

If both people decide to proceed in some kind of LTR, you will have attraction, conception, then the kid grows up then…

… then AWALT.

Marriage is a social construct

Most of my past and recent problems stemmed from the fact that I believed in sanctity of the marriage institution somehow. This is a fallacy and not because women cheat or AWALT or anything like that. This is a fallacy because it has no roots in the natural law.

Marriage is a social construct.

Women are women

They are programmed to get seed from the best male available, to have a kid or two with that best male… and then they are programmed to leave him and mate with some other best male available. Read „Practical Female Psychology” to get the grasp of „betaization” process, where woman after initial phase of loosing attraction through familiarity asks the man to open up, to be more emotional with her. To be her friend first.

And while we’re at it, please stop posting this whole „alpha got cheated on” craze. You need to understand, that Scotty Pippen’s wife cheating on him is actually expected. TRP is not a cheat-proof amor and will never be.

My problems

99% of my problems stemmed from the fact I did not understand that she wants to break up with me. The lack of attraction from her side somehow happened simultaneously to me getting into therapy for alcohol addicts and I did a lot to save the relationship blue-pill way. But it was really much, much simpler. And, if your woman disrespects you, please remember that the medium is the message. Those two posts are really crucial to anyone being in a „complicated” relationship. Guess what, man, it is not complicated. Not complicated at all. You just leave.

Apoptosis

Apoptosis is a process of programmed cell death.

If in nature a cell can die on purpose, the relationship between a man and woman can die on purpose too. What’s the purpose? Higher variability of genotype and phenotype, which improves chances of survival for the population.

Programmed death. We all experience it every day. Feeling a little down on a autumn evening? Maybe hang yourself so the tribe will survive winter more easily. Woman decided you’re not worthy? Maybe hang yourself, maybe you aren’t. Too old to move? Maybe you should die.

Relationships are meant to die in a programmed way.

”These hoes ain’t loyal” - „and that’s the way it is”

They were never meant to be loyal.

I act now like everything I hear from a woman is a lie.

I act like every woman cheats.

Don’t get me wrong - I’m not angry at them.

This approach makes things much simpler.

If everything she says is a lie, then I don’t base my decisions on what she said. Flaking is never a problem, I plan like she already flaked. So is birth control - I assume she wants my seed inside for conception and act accordingly. And, for some girls, I say it up front: if we have a kid together, I’ll want paternity test as soon as possible. And an abortion if there’s anything wrong with the foetus.

That’s insane!

Is a psychopathic person insane? Is a narcissistic person insane?

Here comes the red pill for your red pill. „The Nine Laws” by Ivan Throne, also known as The Dark Triad Man.

My approach is not insane. My current approach is extremely well rooted in the reality of the world as I know it.

And this world is a dark one.

And yes, I speak about this openly. This makes me different. But insane? No, sir. You may not like what I say, but I’m very, very far from insane today.

Discussion

The proper question is, as I always wanted to have a „nuclear family” - what are my options today, when it comes to having and raising kids.

I started to understand women somehow. Hypergamy still causes my stomach to twist and it is the way it should be since the beginning of time, because that’s the instinct that protects me from raising someone else’s offspring… but we live in times when paternity tests are available. Still, hypergamy feels disgusting. But when I detach that emotional charge, I can pretty much understand women. Think about the wall, about the need to secure a provider and collect seed from attractive males while retaining that beta… think about the manipulations needed in order to achieve that. AWALT.

The conflict of sexual strategies is very real. I have an ex wife now. „I don’t want him to cum in her” - that’s what was my final thought when I got jealous of her possible new contact. And still, while I fucked a married girl earlier this week and finished inside her, I didn’t really have to fight her or seduce her to come to my place. I didn’t have to hold her or rape her. She did all of that willingly. Her brain was actually wired in a way, that gave her a dopamine kick when she fucked extramaritally. I approached the end result of the sexual strategy thinking in me - and I realised, that there is pretty much no way to make a woman not-want another guy to cum inside her. That’s how her brain is wired.

And this is why when a relationship dies, you stop rooting through the garbage. Because, when she comes back, it is only for some resources („extraction phase”). You do not resuscitate a failed relationship because when she is done with you it means that she is done. Make it an iron rule.

I focused on controlling hypergamy too much. Both when I was living with then-wife, and when I implemented TRP by then, and then, after I moved out and I started to improve… I was still too much hooked up controlling hypergamy. This is a dead end. Improvement must be in the direction of upgrading oneself to be the most manly man possible given the circumstances - and please note that this covers a very wide range of masculine behaviour. The problem is, that one of the best crews around, when it comes to owning your shit in „extreme ownership” style seems to be still so much invested in controlling hypergamy that, again, it stops making any sense.

MRP friends, help from some of you literally saved my life and improved me, have you heard me? You have wonderful tools but somehow I feel that you’re a bit too invested. You can’t win with hypergamy and you won’t win.

I am grateful for women as they are

I wasn’t hit in my face for a long time, I wasn’t in a situation of extreme danger, there is a plenty of buffers between me and natural order, and those buffers are called „the city”, „the flat”, „the car”, „the grocery store”.

If it was not for woman, I’d probably never had so much contact with the natural order. Simply, she got bored with my beta ass and chose someone else.

A message from nature, a message from the real world. Hey dude, your wife fucks other guys, are you the shit or just shit, what do you think? I ain’t shit and that’s OK.

Did we lost?

Look, different cultures approach woman’s faithfulness differently, but still - if it worked, they wouldn’t need death penalty for infidelity. The deal is, the solutions don’t work. They only lower the chances a bit. And we all know that woman „in love” is able to do anything to get to her „alpha”. Travel 12 hrs on a train? Check. Fuck a prison inmate? Check. Be a teacher, fuck a pupil? Check. Rent him money? Check. Learn how to fly a chopper? Check.

I don’t think anyone can „win” here. I don’t think it is a fight. And if it is, it is not a fight worth fighting. We men look at this with „oh look how stupid and childish they are”. They aren’t. That’s hypergamy in action. She knows exactly what she does and why and what for.

Lessons learned

Extreme, laser-like focus on myself is crucial. Don’t make Machiavelli proud. Make him surprised!

Every relationship is an open relationship. Maybe not exactly Black Dragon’s Alpha 2.0 style but guy nailed it pretty close.

Never base your decisions on what the woman said. They lie too easily.

Hypergamy is an ugly beast and it is better left alone, trust me on this one. Don’t ask, don’t listen, don’t tell. We masculine men aren’t meant to explore it. Be aware of hypergamy, but don’t focus too much on it. Just know it is there.

As you can’t win with hypergamy, stop focusing on a particular woman. Spread the seed instead. The „alphaness” of an aloof male comes from internalizing this single fact only.

Kill your ego. You don’t mean as much as you think, world without you will get along just fine. There are people who will be better with your help, like your kids - but they will get along just fine if you are suddenly missing. So, the situation is serious and not as serious as you might think - at the same time. Throne also writes about it in his book - recognize dualities.

Thanks!

Whew. Had to get it out of my system. What do you think, gentlemen?