Warning: I jerk myself off pretty hard in the following text. Get a napkin and deal with it. Most of this should align with general RPT, but this is more of a FR/overview on what I bring to the table in my relationships and why it works. The anecdotes below bounce between my wife's perception of me and people outside of my marriage. You'll need to read between the lines. Mods feel free to nuke this if you feel it's irrelevant or doesn't adhere to the "quality post" standards.

Me (for context): Married a year or so. Compete in a team sport twice a week. Not lifting often enough - no excuse. Work from home. $155-160k annually, projected to triple within the next year through equity and investments coming to fruition - live in an area with median household income of $20-30k. I handle the finances and make almost every decision when it comes to our unit while allowing input from her as my first mate. Wife was a super feminist. Now mostly supports equal pay and doesn't think women should be in positions of power. Huh.

Introduction

Due to growing up poor, my wife typically hung out with other poor or “alternative” kids in high school as she had more in common with them - no vacations or small luxuries to talk about or use together. She also grew to despise wealthy people and the lifestyles they lived because from the outside looking in, it appeared to be wasteful and greedy. This habit continued throughout her life and bled into her dating life. She dated low quality men with little drive or a slew of mental health problems because she felt like that’s what she deserved. The result was a very negative and toxic outlook on relationships, marriage, and men in general after being continually let down due to her poor choices in men. As most of us know, women who don’t have their needs met become controlling and anxiety-ridden beasts who can’t bring themselves to trust even the most diligent leader.

Be Valuable - Professional Life

Soon after meeting me, my wife realized that I have a significant network of high-profile contacts within my field that bordered on the professional/personal line. She sat in my office while I was in a conference call with a venture capitalist who was asking me for insights on a tech company. She listened in on another one where a close friend/CEO/multi-millionaire told his employee that I was the best INSERT_PROFESSION_HERE that he’s ever met. It didn’t take long for her to realize that I was not only extremely competent in several branches of my field, but that I was influential to very powerful and well-known people.

After these conversations, she expressed (almost embarrassingly) that she loves having a partner that is valuable to society and important people. She loves the fact that I have money and the potential (and the ability) to increase that exponentially. We don’t worry about financial stability, which takes away the reason most couples fight in the first place. No worry = no stress = minimal emotional shit tests.

Take-away: Be an asset to whatever your career or business venture may be. You should be doing this anyways unless you’re a dumbfuck with no ambition.

Be Valuable - Social Life

I rarely meet anyone that doesn’t like me after speaking with me for a few minutes. I make people comfortable, ask questions, and engage them. I’m witty, generally outgoing and happy, and my humor can be tailored to the setting that I’m in fairly easily. I have many hobbies, play multiple musical instruments, enjoy working with my hands, and have experience in many different fields of work.

My social clout within my wife’s friend group is fairly good as well. She’s constantly posting to Instagram/Facebook about our general activities. Anniversary trip to a luxury retreat, entirely new makeup collection so she can look nice for me (holy fuck this shit is expensive), cooking nice meals, my professional accomplishments. I’ve had her female classmates come up to me on multiple occasions stating that they wish all men were like me.

Take-away: Be the guy everyone’s feet point to in the circle, whose words are met with eagerness.

Be Valuable - Sex Life

This topic I feel is over-covered in this sub, but I’ll go over my thoughts on the matter regardless. I’ll focus on having better sex more than “just getting it”.

In the physical/touch realm of a woman’s psyche, they only really want/need a couple of things - Dominance & Comfort.

If you’re not a valuable man who your wife doesn’t want to submit to, you’re probably not going to want to even try to lead out of the gate with dominance. You have to train her to accept that her role - initially at least sometimes - in the bedroom is to be submissive and purely a tool for your release. Chances are you’re not getting the sex you want and are pestering her for that shit, which is going to make her less likely to want to be nude or anything less than pyjama’d around you. You’ve got that engine seized up, buddy. You’re going to have to apply the oil liberally and probably replace a gasket.

The easiest way to unlock this need to be dominated is to prime it with some comfort - they crave the rollercoaster. Spoon her. Rub her abductors and inner thighs with an oily/lotion-covered hand. Go slow so that she gradually Put your dick in then take it out. Repeat, but delay each entrance by 30 seconds each time until she realizes that she NEEDS dick and asks/begs for it. This puts her in the mindset that you’re in charge for this encounter and she needs to submit to you. Tell her what to do. Don’t ask her to change positions - pick her up and move her where you want her. If she’s clitoral, don’t let her touch herself for awhile and tell her she’s not allowed to climax. Slap her ass, choke her with her own hair, push your thumb down on her asshole, stand up and make her blow you while she’s on her knees (this is beneficial to the whole dominating persona as it puts her in a “serving” position). Make her ask permission to orgasm. Caveman her and finish wherever is most disrespectful. Get her a wet wipe and some paper towels because you’re a gentleman.

The aforementioned sexual dominance tactics are all things I employ with my wife and she typically orgasms 4-6 times per encounter. This is entirely due to her willingness to submit to and focus on the rollercoaster with me, not the size of my tool. She’s comfortable, trusts me, and loves what I do to her. I also take initiative and make her pick out sexy underwear from VS, nighties, nice makeup, etc. If your lady doesn’t feel sexy, she’ll have a harder time being comfortable with you. Supplement her appearance and react accordingly depending on how it looks - you’ll run into comfort tests here. AA/AM.

Take-away: Don’t jump in the pool if it’s not filled yet. It’ll be dry and unforgiving.

Enjoy Your Life (and by proxy, your marriage)

My wife and I have a very happy, loving, and mostly traditional marriage due to my personal developments as a man. I saw value in her and brought her along with me for my journey. I’ve told her what my goals are and she’s fallen in line with them completely.

She knows that if she ever has the desire to be a SAHM, I’d be okay with that. She has the choice to either follow her career and give me children in a few years or choose to not pursue it and give me them sooner. She respects me greatly when I’m leading appropriately and shit tests me when I slip up - which is something I truly appreciate as it keeps my leadership in check and pushes me forward. I get the quality and quantity of sex I’m okay with (I always want better/more), the right dose of female companionship that I can handle, and somebody to just generally enjoy my life with.

I had to fix her anxious and controlling behavior by showing her that everything would be okay with me at the helm. She pushed back hard at first, but has fallen almost completely into the traditional wife role. She was heavily invested in 3rd/4th-wave feminism theory and now spends her free time reading TRP and occasionally this sub - a feat, indeed. She no longer has ill feelings towards wealthy people now that she has a small taste of it.

I live a fantastic life because I focus on myself, and my wife adds value to my life in many ways so she gets to come along for the ride.

Conclusion

You’re constantly in competition with other men. You can succeed in any number of areas, but if your wife sees someone doing better than you, she’ll almost always wish that was her man. We can’t all be tall with great bone structure and monster dongs, however we do have the ability to be physically fit, mentally sharp, stoic, and financially secure. These are all things that can be achieved through persistence and hard work. Be the guy other men don’t want their women around - the one they make excuses to avoid socializing with because they feel - and are - inferior. Let your wife hit social media and brag about all of the awesome shit you do. Make her friends seethe with jealousy and anger because Billy Beta just isn’t cutting it. Make your money and flaunt it every once in awhile - the abundance mentality that you should have doesn’t stop at gaming women. And for the love of god, fuck your woman hard and frequently until her ears ring and she can’t walk to the bathroom to cleanup without help. Only when she passes out have you done your job.

Are you the husband your wife brags about, or the one she hopes doesn't come up in conversation because you're such a miserable embarrassment?