Are you a man living a lifestyle that somehow doesn’t feel, right?

Do you feel as though there is this void, this sense of missed satisfaction and incomplete daily regret?

If you fall into this category, understand that you aren’t alone. This sense of missing something is shared by thousands, if not millions of men out there. It’s not just the married guys either, single dudes, guys in LTR’s – they all have this fucking void that they can’t fill.

This feeling of emptiness and this feeling of being ‘weighed down’ is a result of repressed masculinity. This feeling of having a weight vest on, one that prevents you from taking those actions, telling those jokes, achieving those goals, and just barely allowing you to keep your head above water is a direct result of you repressing who you are as a man.

For the guys who just discovered the manosphere, it’s not your fault – the cards were stacked against you and from birth your reality and frame were stripped from you, molded by society and the white knight fucks supporting the female imperative, then given back to you with the warning that If you think outside this box you are wrong, ungrateful, pathetic, and weak - stay inside this box, keep your picture in this frame, and DON’T EVER CHALLENGE THE STATUS QUO.

Sad, but true.

For the guys who have discovered the manosphere and continue to push back, you are a weaksauce fuck and while it sucks to have your reality shattered the way MRP does so efficiently, it is still the truth and you must find comfort in this discomfort.

The void where regret, indecisiveness, sadness, and self loathing fester and grow is surrounded by a wall that was created by those who are looking out for themselves. the people who say you shouldn't be confrontational, that you shouldn't express your true desires, that you should take it all, bottle it up, and shove it deep inside - those people aren't doing that, they want you to do it because that supports their goals.

Here are a few truths:

  • You will never get the best of your life or the women who are lucky enough to enjoy it until you accept the truth, embrace who you are as a man, and live an irrationally confident lifestyle.

  • You will never fill that void until you find a way to love who you are as a man. For guys who get it this is natural, these are the guys who are able to stand in front of a group of people, tell a joke which lands flat, lay out a witty remark, and continue to smile and grab a drink. Other men would sulk, think deeply on why the joke sucked, and the rest of the night they would be lost in their head thinking of where they went wrong and why nobody likes them. Do you see the difference? A man is happy and confident no matter what.

  • You will go to your death bed with regrets if you don’t pull your head out of your ass and start completely immersing yourself in the moments of life all the while expressing your masculine nature vice repressing it.

The last point is probably the most heart wrenching in my eyes. If you do not find your ‘self’ you will look back on your entire life wondering why you squandered your most precious gift away, your time.

I look at the guys who are asking for help and just want to throat punch them through the screen. There are men on MRP and AskMRP who are looking for support of their decisions to stay with their repetitive cheating lady, as if their world would crumble if somehow THAT relationship didn’t work. If she is cheating you probably deserve it and it’s most likely already dead, move the fuck on.

The same can be said for the guys who want to know what decisions they should make in their lives. Gentlemen, it’s your life, make the decision you feel is best to getting you to where you want to be.

In both of these cases we see men who don’t know where they want to be, they don’t know who they are so therefore how can they plan and act in accordance with reaching that end goal?

This is why it is so oft repeated it’s about YOU. You have to know who you are and what it is you want from this life. Do you know how you find out who you are?

You Lift

You Read

You Listen

You Act

You Observe

You Change

In each of these moments you will discover something about yourself. You will see where you stand physically, mentally, socially, your level of confidence, and that you aren’t perfect, which is great because there is no fun to be had if there is no room to grow.

Fill that void gentlemen, stop wasting your precious time with the feeling of regret that I know creeps into your mind at night, during rides to work, and while you are alone. That isn’t how life should be lived. You do not need your wife, your house, your kids, your money, your car – you need you.

Once you realize that if everything were to be stripped away and you’d still smile - only then can you start taking actions and leading others towards where it is you want to be, without the fear and void that plagues so many of our brothers.