I am one year in, and plan on doing a large overview of the year in the near future. Let's just say understanding these concepts has totally turned my life around and my marriage is actually starting to improve. Remember, this is not a quick fix, take the long and steady approach and your life will improve (with or without your wife).

In the meantime, here is a quick shark week field report (period posts have been my specialty since last April).

Since I have know her, my wife has always been extra emotional during shark week. It is her favorite time to shit test. Her goal is to have me ride her emotional roller-coaster hand in hand with her. Blue pill me would happily cooperate.

On top of that, she is extremely anxious and loves to start fights right before guests come over to our house. Seriously this happens all the time about 45 minutes before people come over. She has always done this, and the problem is blue pill me allowed this shitty behavior, so obviously she now still thinks it is appropriate.

Right on time, 45 minutes before our friends arrive, my wife comes storming into the bedroom. I had just finished showering and was now wet shaving to get ready for the night. She gives me her best shots.

She lays into me stating I need to watch the kids RIGHT NOW because she does everything around the house. (Look here new guys, she wants me to DEER or jump to her command. Old me would DEER right away. I could go on and on about everything I do for my family and did that day, but only a sexless pussy would do that. Why the hell did I use to do that?)

Then she follows up with how it is all about me and she doesn't get to do anything she wants to do. (In her mind she is wondering if this will get me to bite? Is he in his frame or my frame? She hopes I am in my frame because she need a strong man.)

Two failed pitches both fended off, so she throws the "asshole" pitch. (Man she needs some new pitches. I have been knocking that one out of the park since month 4).

So, after she let out all her steam, instead of DEERing or taking the bait and fighting back, I went with the playful mocking route.

I said, "you know, your really do have an asshole for a husband. You should call up your friends and tell them I had the nerve to take a shower!"

Pretending to be her talking to her friend, I follow: "And do you know what that jerk husband of mine did after he showered? That bastard shaved his face! What an asshole!"

She tried to start again, but I totally redirected the conversation at this point and said, "I think we will have pizza for dinner" as happily as can be.

I finished shaving, got dressed and left her with a good laugh. A few minutes later, I went back into the bedroom to grab my phone which was right by her, gave her a nice slap on the ass, and told her she had been bad and was going to be punished later. She ate that shit up.

God it is liberating to understand shit tests. But even more liberating is when you reach the point where you can have fun with them. Blue pill me would have Deered and looked like a weak man, or fought back and looked bitter, or sulked and still been pissed off when our friends got to the house. Or when I was new to the red pill, I would have faked it, but still be fuming under the surface. That was better than before, but she would still sniff it out.

Now I just see her acting like a bratty little girl. No need for me to get worked up over her. In fact, it is best to make fun of her ridiculousness or just laugh off the outburst as exhibits of her feminine nature.

Of course, I had sex twice this weekend and she doted on me all that night. This is what both she and I wanted all along. Keep following the course.