Often I see clueless and frustrated men who come into MRP looking for answers. Some of them given even the slightest bit of information take it and run into the closest wall get knocked the fuck out and come right back to us like, "I (insert whatever you thought we meant) and it backfired." It's not frustrating to us anymore because we've come to realize that you're gonna do that. I did it. You'll do it. And even a crusty old RP vet is going to misstep from time to time on a new concept. You can't beat yourself up over your eagerness when you're a newbie and you've been in mental prison. BUT you need to learn how to fail, how to hate failure, how to fix the components, and learn your lessons. Here's some details following the WMP Harpies Post.

Most of you that come here at first are all kinds of fucked up. And I'm going to tell you why but let me explain to you some basics and I'll lead you right into it. "A woman is a reflection of her man." Dante Nero. ACTUALLY "A woman is a reflection of the man she's fucking" is the correct quote. When your woman is making your life an absolute living hell (she's not you most likely are), you need to look to yourself as the source of this hell. Because if she's a reflection there are two possibilities. The first, her condition is showing you every little place where you're falling short and instead of looking at yourself you're trying to fix the reflection. Tell me if you had some stuff on your face would you try to wash the mirror you saw it in? And if you just said you don't like what you see in this mirror and walked to another one that mud is still fucking there. I wonder why...

The other possibility is that some other man is being reflected by her. She's not yours anymore, and this is why some of you freak out when she starts working out and looking better. BUT let's stick to things we can actually change. Sometimes you are putting in work on that MAP of yours, and when she stops whining and protesting and starts putting it work to keep up with you, you freak out because that weird instinct kicks in. And if you haven't put in the work in your head to become your true genuine self and you're just running through the motions of lifting, dressing better, and other forms of dread your brain's going to assume that there's some new guy. Because you haven't truly internalized this change. You don't think, "She better keep up or she doesn't deserve my attention." Like you should. Use that reflection that she is to spot the cracks in your foundation, and when you do that line of thinking comes so much easier because it turns from what you think to what you know.

Listen up freshly unplugging and unplugged. Sometimes a reflection is warped and doesn't give all the details you need to make any informed decisions. And you've lived a long time thinking that mirror is the end all be all and not just a piece of glass. You can't be bitter at a piece of glass because it showed you that you're not perfect. Take in what truths you can confirm from that reflection and let them knock you in the dirt so you can get back up. But CONFIRM CONFIRM CONFIRM kids. When that reflection shows you where you're lacking look down and see with your own eyes. Confirm it's there, accept whatever it is and get to work fixing it. Self awareness is so important. You have to actually be hard on yourself but you're hard about the things you can actually change. You have to absolutely obliterate your ego, often your ego blinds you to obvious truths, and it doesn't help you. You have to murder that thing, and not with self loathing but with a completely sober and true inventory of self.

When I started this journey I was addicted to external validation. I needed people to tell me that I was doing the right thing, and that I was good and worthy. I wanted people to hold up pretty pictures and say that it was a mirror. I wanted to be controlled because I didn't trust myself to make my own choices and pursue my own destiny. I was completely blind and in denial to what that mirror showed and I would run to some other form of validation to have them tell me it's ok and show me a pretty picture of what I am to make me feel better about myself. It's a lot easier than actually putting in work. It's addiction.

Those of you unplugging, you are here because you didn't like what you saw in that mirror and all the pretty pictures you painted of what your life is kept falling off. And you catch a glimpse of yourself and recoil. All that "nice" wallpaper you tried to block that mirror with failed you and made you blind to what things you actually needed to change to because your genuine self. And maybe you tear all those "nice" things down and take a good look at yourself in that sober stark moment. When you feel that deep pain at your failures, you can't blame that mirror, it's just a piece of glass it's NOT actually YOU. And you can't transcribe your blame to it. Just like your wife is JUST a woman like any other. She's beholden to the drives and instincts of a woman. You can't ever blame her for what you let yourself become. They are just mirrors, this is why the alpha loves women and enjoys their company because they reflect his magnificence, and bitter disgraced men HATE them all. If you change what you ARE you change what a woman looks like to you.

So if you're new, stop trying to "fix" her. FIX YOU. Don't ask her to change what she's reflecting. BE BETTER. And that reflection will make you smile instead of wanting to put a gun in your mouth.

(Adding some more notes. I really take almost literally that my wife reflects my actions, mindset, and game right back at me. So when she does something that "bothers" me I can usually trace it back to somewhere I'm lacking. The fundamental difference is extreme ownership of self. I'm not making the change because "she" matters, I'm doing it because "I" matter and I hold myself to a higher standard. It's often painful introspection, but results in a better sharper and stronger version of myself.

The difference is do you want to "be good enough"? Or do you want to transcend that? And be something so much bigger, badder, and better than you even thought you could be?)