tl:dr - epiphany leads to forward motion. TRP is neither a sprint, nor a marathon. Let go of the idea of a 'finish line' or fail.

Intro

Early 30's man. Young ish marriage. Young son. Been red pill aware for 3-4 years. (Talk About Marriage forum > Athol Kay> MMSL forum> wider manosphere) Landed at reddit/MRP 6 weeks ago. Have read extensively on masculinity, red pill thought etc etc. Read NMMNMNG and, MMSL, SGM, Rollos's works, etc. The Manosphere seems to me in great part to be outrage whoring on the latest SJW transgression. I get it. The wider world is fucked. Feminism has ruined everything.

Except in my world, my tiny sphere of influence.

I don’t live in the wider world. I live in my world. I choose who to spend time and attention with, whos opinions are of value to me, and all the rest of it. My world contains: my wife, our son and my dog. That’s it - my duty is to them. I must lead my wife, I must guide my son, and my dog - he's my oak. A woman will never love a man unconditionally - a dog will, always. Friends and family pass in and out, strangers sometimes, but everyone is here by my invitation. It takes much more digging through the Manosphere to find gold than shit nowadays. MRP gleamed like a shiny gleamy yellow nugget to me.

I’m refreshed to find a place where Men are held to high standards by their peers, and they give each other help rather than bleating on about how fucked everything is. I have a son, therefore it is my duty to raise him to be a Man. That’s my purpose. He will follow my example, whatever that is- so it’s on me to make it an exemplary one. My catalyst to recent changes has been a mindset shift, which I may expand upon in later posts. I've lurked for long enough, I want to thank you for inspiration and advice by chucking my own philosophical hat in the ring and testing a concept.

I'll run with the caveat that as there is nothing new under the Sun, that another man has said the same, more eloquently than I will- however, this was my epiphany and I share it both to thank you for making fireside conversation which has been valuable to me, and as an introduction of a little value as I push my way onto a log with you by the fire.

Body

Only you have the power to end the anger phase - and it is simple, but not 'easy.' Here's how I did it:

Abandon the mental objective of one single 'finish line.'

Why? Because you are a man. There is no finish line, no destination, no prolonged respite. Your wife will not be waiting with a glass of beer, a sloppy beej and a sunny disposition at the tape. She will not be transformed forever into your perfect vision of wifeliness in reflection of your development. This is why you must be utterly at peace with the fact that as a Man, the only validation worth paying attention to is internal. You are a Man. Marching into a headwind is your lot in life, just as her eggs running out is hers. Embrace it. Revel in the sensations of each boot striking the ground in front of you, rather than some nebulous goal which doesn’t exist.

How many of us have started this journey, seen progress, gotten complacent, and lost Dem Gainz, all because our mental point of reference is calibrated to the idea of an ‘achievement’ being distinct, finite, attainable? Study a course> pass exam> rest. Train for a competition> do competition> rest. Life isn't like that - sorry you've been told it is. We all were.

Lesson

My journey started because I finally understood the nature of what I had to do. What is different this time around is I know what I have to do, and how to do it.

The sooner you accept that your path to being a Man is perpetual, rather than finite, the easier the anger will smoulder out, and you will learn to take satisfaction from placing one boot in front of the next, and revelling in the scenery.

External validation is for women. You must learn to abandon your reliance on it.

‘Alpha’ (Fuck I hate that term) cannot be a destination. For the newly awakened, it is best that you accept it now- your life will always be a struggle. She will always test you.

The game is always being played.

Edit: typo, expand on 'my world' point. And F'ING formatting.