Guy fixes 6 year DB with a textbook MRP approach (xpost from /r/deadbedrooms)

Persaeus · 2016-02-04T13:37:34+00:00

The following comment in the thread caught my eye:

For ~~many~~ALL women, comfort and security kill libido. There is nothing to respond to. When their husband or boyfriend has a constant spontaneous libido, problems arise.

I have mostly read that MRP dogma is that we men are projecting our “caveman” DTF nature (easy for me because it is 100% true). In my case, I am trying to move high frequency / low spontaneity sex to a more varied/spontaneous affair. I have been pondering lately if I should initiate a LOT LESS. I had originally been considering this as part of rebuilding my frame. Now I am also thinking that my 100% DTF nature is both providing her comfort and simultaneously lowering my SMV (thirsty).

Any thoughts from vets on when it is appropriate to really dial back the initiation?

UEMcGill · 2016-02-04T14:15:11+00:00

That sub is full of ego protecting pussies

If a man uses RP knowledge and shares it without using RP jargon then he gets congratulated and given gold.

Mention RP and you are likely to be banned and voted to oblivion

Even this thread has some faggot calling out the OP for "manipulation"

luckie_duckie · 2016-02-05T16:27:38+00:00

So I found this sub from another user's profile in /r/DeadBedrooms . I am OP from this post.

Something I am taking away from this thread is a real question on initiating. I don't initiate at all anymore. It became constant rejection, and lead to her backlashing telling me she felt pressured or what it evolved into which was constantly complaining about everything to preempt a chance at sex. This still hasn't changed to this day, I do not initiate.

How should I change this? What is the best approach to conveying I want sex and I don't want to hear excuses?

I got a taste of RP and I really like it...

FlahFlahFlohi · 2016-02-04T12:51:53+00:00

Without a captain's mindset, does anyone think she won't revert back to her old womanly self?

Redneck001 · 2016-02-04T13:34:18+00:00

The learning experience that applies to MRP (well, just about all of it applies) is that the OP developed real DGAF and real OI.

Then, the wife was left with two options: 1) check out of the relationship; or 2) get on board.

A man displaying value, not because he's trying to fix his marriage but instead trying to fix himself? Wife choose Option 2.

It's been said many times that women won't often abandon an improving ship.

The takeaway for guys struggling with this is concentrate on fixing yourself, not the relationship. OP became attractive to WOMEN. Wife is a woman.

There are several recent posts from guys who would benefit from reading this.

MRPguy · 2016-02-04T17:02:51+00:00

The deadbedroom OP says he has been on a roll for about two weeks now. I worry about him and wonder if he will intuitively figure out the next steps to take. We all know this is a constant work in progress and life-long pursuit.

I think it's relatively easy to jump-start a sex life for a couple of weeks...but after that?

Title	Guy fixes 6 year DB with a textbook MRP approach (xpost from /r/deadbedrooms)
Author	it_is_not_the_spoon
Upvotes	35
Comments	34
Date	February 4, 2016 11:15 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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