So I have a plate over and we bang. She has been bitching a lot about us getting exclusive lately. I was on the bubble whether or not I should make her a LTR (as I do enjoying being in LTR's myself), but this day she was being awfully bitchy.
After the bang she starts shit testing.
"You know, us having all of this sex could get me pregnant."
- No it won't. (Then silence)
"You know, it's bullshit how you'll fuck me but not want to be with me."
"You're an asshole. You'd rather check your email than spend time with me." (Notice, she had already been on her phone like 3 times at this point and even had another dude calling her, which she had to mention which I did not respond to.)
- I think it's time for you to go home now.
"OH I WILL! You don't think I'll leave? I Will!
She gets up and starts putting her clothes on.
"Such a jerk, blah blah, asshole, blah blah, never having sex with you again blah blah."
- Go home and collect yourself and when you learn to not talk to me like that you can come back another day.
"Blah, blah, babbety blah asshole blah."
- Say Nothing, still checking email on phone.
(She starts crying and lays back down with me.)
"I know I'm a crazy emotional mess. I'm sorry, I've always had emotional problems. I can't help it."
- You still need to leave. I will not deal with these kind of outbursts and it's why we're not exclusive. Come back when you learn how to speak to me in a respectful manner.
(More crying and rationalizing, finally leaves. I am still on the bed responding to emails on my phone. 5 mins later hear a knock at my door. She comes walking in still crying.)
"I'm sorry, just let me lay with you. Please, blah, blah."
No. You can come back another time when you learn how to speak with me. It's time to go."
I held frame and she crumbled. She recognized her ridiculous behavior, apologized for it, and wanted me to crumble and say come lay back in bed. I wanted her to go home and think about how she acted and how I did not reward her actions. I wanted her to have to ride home thinking about it and then realize I will not tolerate emotional outbursts for no reason. In the past I'd let it slide off of my back, or just cave when she started crying and apologizing. This time I held frame, and it slapped me in my face when I continued checking my email while she was getting dressed. I learned that I don't hold frame long enough sometimes and I need to learn to hold it longer when needed. Seeing her melt when I didn't chase after her when she started getting dressed or begged her to stay was the biggest slap in my face to how holding frame works at its finest.
Thanks for all of the frame talk on here, fellas. I'm not a noob, but I still find myself learning new things every day.
Cheers
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