Yesterday, I get a text from my wife: “Sexy time tonight?” Cool, she is initiating. But, as we all know that should really read “I feel like I want sex tonight right now.” We flirt a little back and forth by text and then I cut off communication until I get home from work.

At home, we again flirt a little, but also get on with our routine. We both work, so when we get home with the two small kids there is a lot to do. Cooking, cleaning, baths etc. We finally put the kids in their room and hang out before they go to sleep. Once asleep, we cuddle on the couch and watch some TV. The problem here is after work, chores, and putting the kids to sleep, she is pretty tired. (I know, I know, she would not be tired for Chad).

At this point, we go to the bedroom, and I initiate. But she is saying stuff about being tired and getting this over with. Not exactly the hot sex I want. We begin having “sex” and she is complaining and making funny noises (something she does if she is disinterested, it is weird). I give her a look, and she keeps it up. At this point, I stop, pull out and say this isn't doing anything for me.

I have never stopped starfish sex before, but having read about not accepting it here, I thought I would give it a try. I do not act butt hurt, just act like I normally do before we go to bed, and leave the room to go read.

I bet you can guess what happened this morning. Her hamster was in overdrive all night. I awake to my hot naked wife jumping on top of me for some great morning sex. Women love rejection!

A couple of notes:

  1. Moves like these are for more intermediate and advanced students. If you are new and are not getting any sex at all in the relationship, take what you can get. Do not reject sex at first, even starfish sex. I, however, didn't swallow the pill because of lack of sex. Having said that, the sex is now better and more consistent than before my red pill days.

  2. It is important not to be bitter or butt hurt when pulling this off. If I had, she would not have been turned on this morning.

  3. Finally, this is an example of keeping frame and letting the hamster work for you. You cannot pull this off if you don't have frame. So, keep lifting, setting boundaries, and being awesome.