If you are reading MarriedRedPill then you are with a Woman who is either your wife or LTR. When it comes to daily interactions with the same person the possibility of complacency is amplified. It is human nature, the more you’re exposed to a stress the more you adapt to it ultimately becoming desensitized.

This is why, as the Family Alpha you need to consistently change the stress you’re exposing your wife too (Mix It The Fuck Up). This post spawned from an observation I had made reading /u/theultmatecad 's post here where he and RedPope laid out these two gems:

However loyal, faithful, and dependable you may have been -- I have no doubt you were a great father and provider -- after 19 years of daily companionship, your attention is valueless to her.” - RP

&

Women dont love men. They love how men make them feel” – UC

I responded to these points with a comment that can be found in the cited post talking about not becoming complacent, etc. Then /u/BluePillProfessor mentioned making a sort of list where we can all drop some of our best ‘Things I do so my wife is never comfortable with Me’ moments.

I will provide 10 and I encourage any and every Man on this sub to share what you do to keep your wife’s Fire of Tingles from going out.

Before I share my 10 actions and let you see inside /u/TrainingTheBrain ’s marriage, I want to reiterate something to you. Women do NOT Love you in the manner you love them.

As Men we are the more Romantic of the Sexes and it only makes sense that the burden of keeping the Fire of Tingles alive lands on our shoulders. Do not be discouraged by this as women are simply acting in accordance with their nature. As Masculine Men we embrace challenge and find comfort in the discomfort of knowing society is against us and our success. We still, do not give a fucking fuck we will act in the manner that Men act and whether it’s viewed as acceptable or not, we do not care. Our successful Marriage will speak for itself, fuck approval from the majority.

This list is something you can take and apply, today, in your marriage. I hope others contribute so we have a thread of ideas that will keep marriages from getting stagnant for years to come.

Keep what you think will work, disregard the rest.

1. Sex Outside The Bedroom

One of the biggest ‘routines’ that couples find themselves in is only having sex in the bedroom and at night.

You are adults; you no longer have to sneak around your parent’s house to fuck. You are (probably) living in your own place, claim it all. Fuck in every room, on every piece of furniture, at every point of the day.

  • Kids are napping? Fuck on the couch.

  • Kids are watching a show? Sneak downstairs to get a blowjob.

  • Wife is doing dishes? Pick her up, carry her to the garage, pin her to a wall, and makeout with her hard and fast; then just fucking leave and go sit somewhere with a book. She’ll be in the garage dripping wet wondering what in the actual fuck just happened to her.

The reasoning behind this action is twofold. Not only are you breaking routine by fucking in a ‘foreign’ place, but you’re also making new ‘sexy’ inside jokes & memories with your lady.

For Example: When you have company over and someone asks if the table they are leaning against is sturdy, you and your wife will flash back and smile to the time you were railing her on that exact table. Whenever you see any room or piece of furniture in your house, it will have a story.

2. Surprise Vacations

The routine of wake up, go to work, come home, do whatever, weekend time, start again is all too common in our day and age.

People get stuck in these loops, I hate loops. In the Navy I called it, ‘Redundancy without Progress’ and in the military there is quite a bit of that, but I digress…

To break the loop I had saved some cash specifically for this trip, didn’t tell the wife anything. On a weekend where I knew we had nothing going on I booked us a room at the Great Wolf Lodge a hotel that is aimed towards kids (waterpark, arcade, interactive stuff, etc.).

I then messaged my wife that when she got out of work (this was Friday) that she needed to pack our stuff for 3 days and be sure to include bathing suits and that we’d be spending our Weekend at the Lodge.

She responded with, “well what about the cat & dog?” (I’d handled it) “& Money” (I’d handled it) “This is short notice”(I told her that I’ve given her instructions as to what I wanted done and that when I got home she needed the gear packed, kids ready to go, and everyone standing by)

She had them ready, the trip was awesome, and she kept ranting and raving about how excited she was and that it was an amazing adventure, sex was awesome the entire time.

(Follow behavior, not words)

3. Removing ‘Vanilla’ Sex

There is a time and place for your standard missionary position. That time is not every time. You need to make sex your fucking play place. It is completely fair game to turn your sex into something from a Lewis Carroll Novel.

Yesterday I bought a bunch of those glow sticks that are necklaces. We were at the Dollar Tree and I saw them and an entire fucking fantasy filled my mind. Without telling anyone why, I put them into the cart.

Fast forward and it’s getting dark so I let the kids crack them and run around the yard playing. The kids get put to bed then I tell my wife to go to the room and get undressed and that we’d shower together.

I cracked the rest of the glow sticks and hung them from everywhere inside the shower. The shower head, the water knob, the bar that holds the shower curtain and then I through a few on the ground.

She came in and it was fucking game on.

I then got out and took the glow sticks with me. She was drying off and I staged them in our bedroom. I had them hooked to the fan, everywhere. Sex was had again and she said at one point she “Didn’t know which way was up”. It was awesome.

This can be done in any way you’d like, I recently got some white rope, new white boxer briefs(fancy), installed black lights in our room and tied her hands up while I stood over her in white and had my way shooting my glowing load like a shooting star over her.

If you are in shape and own your shit your wife will do anything, and I mean anything.

4. Be Mysterious

When guys on MRP give the advice to just, Get Out and Go somewhere Alone I think some people think it is this complex Rubik’s cube of advice.

Let’s clear it up now.

Men, when another Man says something, obviously think it over as to whether it is good or bad advice. If the person giving the advice has proven their worth, just fucking listen and don’t become some fucking scientist looking for all of the how’s and whys, just follow the advice.

Men Do, Women Talk.

Let the women ponder all of the ramifications, you can just do. So don’t over think it like a woman - “do what? Go Where? Do I tell her? Etc….”

I will just leave and do anything randomly. The kids go to bed or some other opportunity where you know you aren’t needed, it should go something that ‘roughly’ follows this outline:

Man:Hey babe, I’m heading out, I’ll be back in like an hour.

Woman: “Where are you going?”

Man:Out/Who knows/I’ll figure it out when I get there/To Slay Dragons/To pick up a hooker/etc……….

Woman: “HamsterHamsterHamsterHamster”

It doesn’t matter if you fucking drive to the closest parking lot and read a book or you go to the bar or you get a hotel room and call an escort, you do whatever you need to do ensure that you’re making time For. You. It’s healthy and it allows your wife time to miss you. (Stolen From /u/IanIronwood)

Your wife needs to miss you and more importantly you need to have an aspect to who you are as a Man that she is not involved in. If she isn’t involved and you aren’t spewing your life to her daily, then there is an element to you that she doesn’t know, and that is a good thing.

Mystery fosters the growth of tingles.

5. Being Romantic

I won’t lie, my most recent ‘romantic’ action was ripped completely from TheRedPillRoom’s Perfect RedPill Date. The kids went to bed and I told my wife to throw a hoody and booty shorts on. She asked why, as she was looking to just sit and read. I told her to just do it and I’d be back.

I went into our basement and opened the bulkhead which leads to the back yard where I had pre-staged a picnic.

I lit tea candles on the steps leading up to the yard, the moon was full, and the sky was clear. It was sweet, I brought her down to the basement and towards the bulkhead door; She was overwhelmed by the candles before she even saw the blanket.

The sex was awesome.

As Men, we are the Romantics. If I ever text her ‘I Love You’ I always capitalize the words, I go out of my way to make the ‘little things’ line up for her, and a whole host of other things. It will be dependent on the Man, but remind yourself that you’re doing these little things for you not her. She is a woman and won’t see your actions the way you do.

She’ll appreciate them, but it won’t hit as deep as it does in your heart. That’s fine, she’s a woman and you’re doing it because you find joy in doing romantic shit, Own It don't make covert contracts just own your role as a Romantic Masculine Male.

6. Goal Setting/Leading

You are the Family Alpha, the leader of your clan. How are they supposed to flourish under your guidance if you are unwilling to set aside time to their development?

My wife is a PreSchool teacher; she’s very organized and has a solid understanding of Early Childhood Development and dealing with special attention kids, as well as their parents. What she lacks is the ability to set goals for herself and take actions towards those goals.

She says she wants to weigh a certain weight, run a certain time, and achieve a certain life goal. But when I ask how she is making progress towards those goals, it’s aimless actions (See: Redundancy without progress).

I sat my wife down and together we grabbed a notebook and wrote down what our short term goals were individually. One of hers is to write a children’s book so we’ll use that as an example, I then had to create a rough timeline/map towards her achieving that.

Now, she’s well on her way.

Your wife needs YOU to help her stay on the straight and narrow. If she is stagnant, don’t come to MRP saying my wife is unmotivated, sedentary, etc. Because that’s your fault for not motivating her and if she doesn’t give a shit and has no passion for life, what value is she bringing to yours? If there isn’t an answer to that question, then why are you keeping her around?

Because it’s easier, ??? Fuck that, step up and make it happen.

This isn’t just your wife. Are you putting the necessary time in with your kids as well? Your entire family is operating under your guidance. Set the time aside to mentor, assist, and guide them all to where you/they want to go.

7. Educate her

I believe that as Men we are all walking our path alone. What I say will work and won't is based solely off of my experience.

I’m not guessing, these things have worked and I have used them in real life With MY Wife, your mileage may vary, especially when it comes to discussing sociology, psychology, etc.

I wrote a post a while back about how my wife had told me straight up that she wanted to be a submissive women and has been reading about Dominant/submissive relationships. I told her I thought that was what we had going and she said it is, but that she wanted to tell me that she’s always wanted to be a submissive woman and be told what to do and that she feels that is wrong.

I have always taken the Dominant role in the relationship, never saying, “I don’t know” always taking point and leading to where we needed to be. I’ve used the word Dominant to her and on these forums, but I realized that she’s never spoken the title ‘Submissive’. She hadn't owned it.

It was then that a few things clicked and while she was crying like a son who had come out of the closet as gay to his dad, I knew I had an opportunity at a critical moment to make a lasting impact.

I explained how all of the modern day feminists had warped the word submissive, how all of the SJW who make a domestic wife a bad thing are fucking wrong, and I clarified to her that her biology as a woman makes her more submissive where mine as a Man is more dominant and that she was simply at the point where she wanted to be open about the dynamic of our relationship.

Your woman may not understand why you are making the life improving changes that you’ve implemented. Share some of it, educate her on why you’re eating better, lifting more, reading more, fucking more.

Don’t let it just be the ‘new you’ let her understand that you’re raising your standard and tell her that never again will she be forced to assume the leadership role of your clan.

Women do not want to wear the pants and when your weaksauce behavior forces them to, the build resentment. You may even want to explain that aspect so she understands why she feels angry towards you.

This is entirely dependent on your woman, but explaining these things made my wife not feel alone like she was the only woman to have these feels. It allowed her to embrace her submissiveness towards me and not make her feel ashamed when she says, I follow TrainingTheBrain’s lead. Now, she owns it.

You have to understand your wife and how her hamster works, then you make the call on what knowledge would make her better understand the path you’re taking her and yourself down.

8. Text Game

A lot of guys here keep texts to logistics and for 90% of the guys, I agree. For those who know how to use texts as a sort of IV drip of arousal until you see her in person, I think texts have their place.

For example, one morning I fucked my wife. It was nice hard sex followed by a shower then off to work.

A few hours into the day I was rock hard daydreaming about the sex. So I went to the bathroom and took a dick pic and sent it to my wife telling her apparently I didn’t get enough that morning.

Her response was, “It looks as hard as granite, I love when you’re that hard inside me, I feel it spread me wide.” Then I went radio silent, 15-20 minutes later she sends me a text saying how wet she is, then she sends a pic of her tits, then a message about if I like them, etc.

My text elicited the response that sent her down the rabbit hole all day and solid sex was had when I got home.

If you do it right and don’t come across as needy or creepy, you can use text and pics to set the stage. Do not solely rely on texts, but you can certainly use them as accessories to your arsenal of weapons that are employed to reach your end goal.

9. Fuck With Her

I fuck with my wife constantly. You know the whole, Pick on the girls at the playground concept? I do that and I have since we were together.

Why?, because it fucking works.

Talking shit, pulling pranks, just straight fucking with your wife in a tactful way leads to a solid relationship. I would never pull the chair out from under her as that would make her look stupid in front of everyone or she’d break her ass. But I would replace her incense with a sparkler.

I’ll hide shit, put things where she can’t reach them, refuse to give a direct answer or give an overly complicated answer to any questions that she should know.

There is a fine line between being a mischievous Man and being a Dick. Be mischievous in your dealings and always have her looking over her shoulder. It can also be sexual.

We were having a barbecue and I saw my wife go inside to get something. I snuck in, pulled her to the bathroom, fingered her to just before she came, then I hopped out of the bathroom and heard her yell how big of an asshole I was. The rest of the party she was giving me the ‘angry eyes’ with a head shake showing she was pissed, she came hard that night.

10. Refuse to Lower the Standard From Which Excellence is Measured

You set the bar Gentlemen.

You set the bar from which your wife will judge other Men and you set the bar from which your family will perform to. If you are out lifting and improving yourself, then your family should reflect that.

If you are doing all of the steps provided, then your wife should be so busy trying to keep up with your next move that she doesn’t need the ‘newness’ of another Man.

It’s on you.

I have shared some insight into how I’ve kept my wife leaking and craving my dick for the past 7 years of our Marriage and I hope to get some ideas from you to help me keep it fresh.

As of right now this post is roughly 3,000 words. That’s irrelevant as I could write a novel, if we do not apply what we read and write, then it’s useless.

Acta, Non Verba