TLDR: 1) If I'm already outranking (SMV) my wife, is widening the gap really going to help? 2) What are the chances my vasectomy has already doomed these efforts?
Have been lurking here a while. I read NMMNG but a lot of the Nice Guy traits didn't really resonate with me. Yes, I have some Alpha work to do, but I'm not a total sap. I'm now about halfway through MMSLP, and it has been really eye opening - lots of very refreshing, hard truths there. I'm working on my MAP - actually had been doing that for a few months already before learning it had a name. But MMSLP has really left me with some doubts, and I'm looking for some feedback.
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I've realized I'm already at least a couple of SMV points (if not more) above my wife. I'm fit, reasonably attractive, fairly outgoing, a great dad, and hold an executive leadership position at work. She's attractive (at least to me) but has become overweight, is somewhat of a social pariah, and would be completely fucked if she had to support herself financially. She obviously isn't thinking about things this way and doesn't see any of this as a risk, or at least it certainly doesn't seem to make her any more attracted to me. Is widening that gap even more really going to get me anywhere? While I realize the end game solves the problem one way or the other, I'm more interested in making my marriage work than starting over with a new woman, which I'm sure I could easily find. I'm wondering if others here had this situation going in and saw any results from widening an already imbalanced SMV gap.
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MMSLP's mention of the importance of sperm and what a vasectomy can do (and the what he adds to that on his website) is freaking me out a little. Our sex life dried up shortly after we had our only child, and its around that time I got a vasectomy (several years ago now). This is obviously something I can't really "work on". What are the chances this is the reason there is no attraction, and my MAP is not going to make much if any difference?
In the end, I'm doing the MAP for me, not for her. But I'd like to go into this with my eyes open and not get my hopes too high if there's a good chance it's not going to go anywhere.
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