I don't want this to be a starfish post, but if it lacks in content per community standards, delete it.

She was in a text conversation with her brother and was getting annoyed with it so I said "fog him."

HER: "What does that mean?"

ME: "You've never heard of fogging? I'd think they'd teach teachers that for parent anger defusion."

HER: "Is that what you do to me? Because I do t like it."

ME: "No I don't use it much, you don't need it."

HER: "Well whatever you do to me I don't like it."

ME: "What do I do to you?" With a grin.

HER: "I don't know... I can't describe it... you just have a way of calmly dealing with what I say to you." She says with a smile.

ME: "Give an example."

HER: "I can't... I told you I can't describe it... I don't know when you do it... You just do it."

ME: "Hmm. I don't know what your talking about then."

The whole encounter just reminded me how effective the correct communication can be... She notices because her arguments are shut down, she "doesn't like it" but her actions speak otherwise: sex frequency doesn't change, her ass grabs and arm gropes don't change... But she "doesn't like it." Which we all know means, It frustrates me that you won't play my game... You are out of control... I better have some more sex with you to give myself some control and proof you still really do like me!

All I do is maintain AM, A&A bullshit, make boundaries clear, stay C/F all the time. Read the KISS post for more info.