I had a recent comfort test after sex. Maybe a few weeks ago or so. Time is compressed for me atm. Each time we have sex I caveman the shit out of her. I ride her hard and put her up wet. Then I immediately get up from the bed. No cuddling, no pillow talk. I reward her with my time outside of the bedroom instead. She grabbed my hand as I was getting up and said "Please dont get up, cuddle with me". This was a comfort test. I wrapped her up in my arms and legs and whispered sweet nothings in her ear for the next 15 minutes and one thing led to another. Round two was well under way. How to distinguish is the key. It's the tone, the body language, and her timing.

Overview

  • Tone is sweet and slightly stressed? Comfort.
  • Tone is shitty and snappy? Shit.
  • Body language is open and inviting? Comfort.
  • Body Language is closed and stand offish? Shit.
  • She asks you when you are just lazing on the couch? Comfort.
  • She asks right before your planned leaving time for dinner with your male friends? Shit.

Discussion

Each and every man is his own captain. You have to decide the criteria on your own but this little guide will help you alot.

Here is a scenario you may have seen before (shit test):

Your wife stands there, arms crossed or flailing in the air. Feet are spaced apart and she is harping about that 90% ground beef you had the gall to buy. She cant believe you would to go the grocery store and not even buy EXACTLY what she told you to buy. She is shitty and you are almost starting to feel like a child. This is a shit test. Give her a big smile, leave the room and Ignore it. If you got enough game built up, try Amused Mastery. When she follows you and asks why you left the room? Tell her because she is being a bitch and you had to go do.

Yet another (shit test):

Your wife stands there, hands on her hips. One foot is more forward than other. Leaning towards you. Tone is shitty and snappy at the same time. You are always going out with your friends. You need to make time for me and the kids. Everytime you leave its the gym or friends. Never just staying the night in with her. You are about to leave out the door and she starts directly into you. Very direct and very accusatorial. This is a shit test. The worst thing you could do is stay home. Instead deploy amused mastery or a&a and then leave. Deal with the comfort test when you get home. Whatever you do, don't apologize for leaving and dont agree to change your plans. Change nights, but dont lower the amount of me time you have decided that you need.

Maybe another scenario you seen before (comfort test):

Your wife is laying next to you in bed and complains about something stupid you did today. You a&a it naturally. She is rolled over on her side facing you and speaking to you in a respectable tone. Her head is laying down on the pillow and you guys are about ready for bed. She then goes into all you want from me is sex and you dont show me you love me anymore. ^This ^is ^not ^a ^comedy ^scene, ^but ^I ^go ^through ^this ^alot. This is a comfort test. You need to wrap her up in your strong arms and squeeze moderately hard, give her a kiss on the forehead, and tell her "Don't worry princess, you are still my woman". Deploy some kino and get cuddly for until her storm passes. I can almost bet she initiates sex first. If she doesn't then roll over and enjoy a good nights sleep.

Finally another scenario:

Here we go. Another night of being a harpy because she had a really bad day at work. Can't seem to do anything right. She is standing in the kitchen, feet crossed and one is pointed at you, arms at her sides, locking eye contact with you. She cant believe the day she has had. Glances to the floor alot. Eyes are all big and doey. Body is straight on at you. She is stressed visibly and is attempting to use you as an emotional tampon about all the shit she has had to put up with today. She is pleading with you that you just dont show your emotions and love to her anymore. She is begging you to treat her like an equal. Dinner needs to be started and she knows this, because she said dinner is going to be late now. Comfort test or shit test?

You better know your woman, because this could be both, one or the other, she is all shaken up like a beer can. You have to be the oak and act accordingly. If this is my wife, its a comfort test. She needs someone to show her its going to be ok. Not tell her. Not get into "I would do this" or "You should do that" bull shit. She just needs a big manly hug from her rock solid oak and passionate kiss. Tell her you love her and that her big strong man is here now. No need to go into anything else. If you show that your are unphased she is going to start feeling unphased. Your showing rock solid temperament (even if it isnt) and thats going to calm her down a little.