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TL;DR Guy becomes nearly suicidal as marriage descends into complete deadbedroom. Rediscovers his own needs, buries his depression at the gym, achieves OI and dread, retakes the captain's chair.

His own tl;dr:

Ignored my wife. Worked on myself. That fixed my marriage.

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