Ahoy Men,

The Married Red Pill Reddit is growing quickly with nearly 1/3 expansion and a thousand new subscribers in just the last month. While we welcome the challenge of growing our numbers, we have noticed an increasing number of posts that are low quality.

I write to remind you that /r/Marriedredpill is a Red Pill Reddit devoted to improving our marriages through the use of Red Pill principles. Above all we are RED PILL. Since we are "Married Red Pill" we include some feewings, and concepts like Alpha/Beta Balance, and a few other ideas, that Hard Core Red guys may not like and may even reject, but even so we all need to remember when posting that this is a RED PILL sub.

This is not your mother's sewing circle and we are not a group of Yentas flailing around without any rhyme or reason. Our Rhyme is "Red" and our Reason is "Pill" and we are men either completely Red or we are in the process of unplugging from the Matrix. This sub exists to help us implement RED PILL SEXUAL STRATEGY into our marriages- NOT to transform the Red Pill into some gross, unrecognizable purple monstrosity.

The new TRP moderator recently posted about similar concerns on the main sub:

Moderating lightly vs. moderating heavily.

We walk a constantly-changing tightrope between stifling debate and letting in too many trolls. Overall, our goal has always been, and continues to be, preserving the signal to noise ratio above all, and ensuring the top of the front page remains as useful to the recovering beta as possible.

As such, we tend to remove posts very aggressively, while being somewhat more conservative in banning users. We've settled on a general practice of:

•Remove any post that doesn't clearly add value.

•Issue a short timeout (ban for about two weeks, or some such), for well-intentioned users who clearly didn't understand the rules, and need to lurk more before posting (Note: On MRP we will issue a warning before banning or suspending users for low quality posts)

•Permaban anyone who intends to sabotage the group or hinder recovering betas from achieving happy, self-determined lives.

•Permaban anyone arguing against TRP with postmodern discourse.

Debating against TRP principles is permissible because it helps participants test and explore their ideas, but ultimately the group is here for people who want help, not for people who want to argue. If you want to argue the premises, either keep it about facts and principles, not feelings or moral, or take it to PPD.

If a moderator bans or issues a suspension you may message us and appeal to the entire moderation panel but without a compelling reason we are unlikely to alter a suspension. If you are suspended or your post deleted it just means we are saying that you need to lurk more, read more, learn more before posting again. This is no big deal! Learn some more, read some more, and return with better knowledge and a better, more informed post next time. No Problem!

MRP was formed originally because some posts on The Main Red Pill Reddit /r/theredpill were low quality and we wanted a separate but equal place where a couple things could happen more easily than on the main Red Pill reddit:

  1. We assume a more mature and detailed discussion. There is a slightly older and more mature crowd on MRP compared to TRP. We are married men, many of us for decades. Our High School days (and in most cases our College days) are long gone. (Most of us) don't spin plates and are working on establishing an overwhelmingly monogamous relationship with a nice helping side of Dread. Most of us are established in our first career or trying to break into our second career. Many of us have kids and most of us have a lifetime of mistakes to share.

  2. We want a place where Red Pill married men can go to ask questions and share experiences about the Married Red Pill life without the chorus of 'don't get married' comments we see on TRP, not to mention avoiding advice and remonstrations from all the unmarried, never married, separated, divorced, and MGTOW men.

  3. Finally, we want a sub that is welcoming to newly unplugging men who are trying to implement The Red Pill and possibly save their marriages. That doesn't mean this is not a men's locker room and that giving a new guy a swift kick in the ass is not the proper approach- but try to make it a friendly, helpful kick.

Our goal is to have HIGH QUALITY POSTS. To that end, in light of what we have noticed to be a decline in quality we will begin removing posts that do not meet the standards of MRP.

A few Moderation pointers and tips:

  1. Brevity is the soul of wit. Be BRIEF and to the POINT. If you could say something in 30 words or in 2 words, use 2. DO NOT spend lots of space with dissertation length posts. Say what you want to say, make your point, tell us your conclusion, and get out.

  2. DO NOT HAMSTER about your emotions. Yes men have a hamster and it is damn hard to get that male beast off it's wheel. Please make every effort to work through your hamster before posting and for God's sake don't post anything while you are listening to that Beta Shit Goblin on your shoulder.

  3. If you are posting a theory concept, you MUST base it on Red Pill concepts. A lot of MRP is not fully fleshed out and there is plenty of room to get creative but we do not bend on core Red Pill principles. If you are interested in debating whether Red Pill principles work then take it to PPD. If you want to discuss how a Red Pill principle can be modified to fit the concept of Marriage 2.0 or you want to distinguish how a particular Red Pill principle works or doesn't work with a particular type of woman or a specific type of situation then welcome.

  4. Low effort post are those that do not add to the community and will be deleted. Examples are posts just mentioning songs, movies or apps without sufficient insightful discussion and context that adds to MRP are low effort. Similarly, incoherent stream-of-thought posts are low effort. Posts that are constantly defending how they are red pill without referring to RP principles or that there are many kinds of red pills are hamstering low effort posts. Posts that are mostly defending your own actions preemptively seeking validation are low effort. Posts that are not somehow related to marriage sexual strategy are low effort. Posts that say "I'm new, give me the summary" are low effort.

  5. Posts without reflecting upon your own actions are weak and don't help you nor the community. Day-by-day updates are discouraged because they signal that you are only looking for validation. Posts saying that you just found the red pill and did nuclear dread in a matter of days are tell-tale sign of a beta victim puke. Posts blaming your wife for all the problems are not red pill. Self-reflection is the key to turn your experiences into insightful Red Pill discussions.

  6. We make a strong distinction between new threads and comments on existing threads. Comments like "good job" or "Clap" are low effort comments that are likely to be deleted.

  7. We are especially concerned with the quality of the original threads posted. So when posting a new thread ALWAYS ask yourself: Does this add value? Is my story concise and to the point? Did I use the lowest number of words in my piece? Is it a Red Pill (or Blue Pill) example? Is my intent clear? Often if you include a TLDR from the beginning it keeps your post on point and prevents long, rambling streams of consciousness.

When in doubt save your post to a word processor and sit on it for 24 hours. Then go over it again, edit out unnecessary words, streamline the story, clarify it, and make it better before posting.

If your post is removed don't take it personally and please contact the mods before you attempt to repost the same thing.

If you think a post is low quality, hit that "Report" button and let us know.

We now resume our regularly scheduled Reditting.