Men must work hard and improve themselves to earn the lives they want. Women get what they want by being pretty, manipulative, and putting out. These are ideas that I commonly see popping up in the red pill community. What I've been wondering lately is if gay men necessarily fit into these same confines.

Does a gay man need to be alpha to be happy? Or can he simply align himself with higher value men to get what he wants?

I find that I exhibit few of the alpha traits I often see praised. I'm not tall or muscular, I don't make a lot of money and never plan to, and I am not an overly dominant person nor do I want to be. I am in good shape, in a few short years I will have a personally fulfilling job as a HS chemistry teacher, I have been told that I'm a sex guru, and I put out enthusiastically.

My question is this: will gay men like myself hit a wall (the gay death) similar to women or is it possible that with the right man we can be happy without strictly adhering to TRP values?

Edit: I already have a great man in my life. No longer riding the CC.