tl;dr
- How do I withdraw attention when we both work from home, in the same room?
- In general, how do you not make it obvious that you are withdrawing in response to something she did?
- Is working from home together just a bad situation for MRP?
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I've seen it mentioned here that a good consequence for disrespect or other undesirable behavior from your wife is to withdraw attention/presence for a while.
This is a bit difficult for me because we both work from home (about 15ft. from each other) and sometimes my wife can be disrespectful or shit test me during this time.
In our apartment we don't really have another choice but to work in the same room unless one of us moves to the bedroom. I think I could find a coffee shop to go to and work from, but she knows that I like my home office area and it would be odd if I started doing that. It seems like it would show lack of frame because I'm being transparent that I'm removing myself the situation and I'm putting myself in a suboptimal work environment. Even if I show no emotion and STFU as I'm leaving it still seems obvious.
I could find something to do, like take a walk, even though I'd want to limit my time doing this to not seem flaky at work. I usually lift in the mornings before work, so that's not usually an option.
But this leads to a more general question about withdrawing: how do you not make it seem like you are reacting to the situation and getting chased out of your own house? If you only take walks after your wife acts like a bitch then she could get the sense that she is controlling you and can make you leave at any time.
Am I overthinking this?
Tack-on question: is this working from home situation bad to begin with? Am I too available to my wife every day? I'm starting to book up my evenings with activities away from her, but I feel like she might be getting too much presence from me, minimum 40 hours a week, and it's hard to create dread.
Thanks for helping a noob.
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