I am interested to hear the views of those who are more informed and more knowledgable on the subject of depression and how dread relates to it in my situation.

I’m in Dread Level 2. However, I may as well be in dread level 8+.

u/Red-Curious has an excellent post on signs your wife might have a personality disorder. I can’t link as on app now due to OPSEC.

Background and how my question applies to my situation. I’ve been all up in my wife’s frame and my faggotry knows no bounds. My wife has had depression for years. My NMMNG deceptive history has compounded this and I regularly get told that it’s my fault or I’ve made it worse due to my actions.

2 years ago I got too close to a younger coworker (more background in this weeks OYS). Wife calls it an emotional affair. It’s not the first one in her view. I still work with the coworker.

This week I was faced with what could be a shitty comfort compliance test. Essentially, don’t go out drinking with buddies because i don’t know where you’ll be or if you’ll be with coworker and I need you here because of recent stressful events” I went drinking with buddies.

The fallout was: You had an emotional affair. I can’t compare with her. Why am I not good enough. Doesn’t have the energy after looking after kids to do anything for herself. I needed you here so I wouldn’t stress about where you were. You’re always at the gym (my stats will prove this to be false).

Does depression have a detrimental effect on the effectiveness of dread? Is there another path forward?

For the record, she is receiving professional help and medication.