Do you feel closer to your wives after MRP?

redwall92 · 2018-10-05T15:42:47+00:00

So, I’m asking if you can help me feel better about this pathway.

Honey, get the lube.

ac3jc · 2018-10-05T17:00:56+00:00

The redpill only gets you closer to yourself. She does not matter in the equation. Only you.

Rian_Stone · 2018-10-05T16:33:53+00:00

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IRunYourRiver · 2018-10-05T19:49:02+00:00

I figured out a few things before actually swallowing the pill and one of them was that I am fundamentally alone. My wife and I are in a relationship, but we are not "one body" and certainly not "one spirit". But, I think you'll soon discover that you do a better job supporting yourself. And that seeking inner peace from your wife has been a fool's errand. The community here helps a lot. But, in the end, its just you.

JudgeDoom69 · 2018-10-05T17:27:04+00:00

Your wife being your only friend is needy. Needy is unattractive. So ask yourself, are you looking for a friend or a lover. She can't be both.

You need to build a life apart from your wife. Get a hobby, join some club, join a movement. Then you'll get some friends independent of your marriage in whom you can confide.

ReddJive · 2018-10-05T15:58:20+00:00

it's misguided. Completely.

She will judge you by your actions. She doesn't GAF what you think. At all. Though it's what they say. All they need to know is that you are engaged and not going to rape them then kill them.

Just go over and read Red Pill Women sub. It's all blow jobs and unicorns over there and you may think. Dayum. I need to show this to the girl. But don't do that.

Thing is she won't see it like you do. Hypergamy. In fact reading the unicorn zoo there is a deep deep lesson in hypergamy and solipsism right from the horse's mouth themselves.

They. Don't. Give. A. Fuck. About you, about anyone other than getting that relationship and keeping it. You can get her to suck your dick and be just as happy as if she read it on some women's red pill sub. Without having to deal with all the other bullshit.

She isn't your friend. She never will be. She can be a companion. But never your friend.

hystericalbonding · 2018-10-05T16:07:16+00:00

She doesn't want to know how the sausage is made. She wants a guy who just gets it.

A big part of seduction is the dance between intimacy and mystery. Push and pull. Building and breaking rapport. Most guys who come here are all pull, so the beginning of the journey is learning how to use distance. You will feel more distant at times. Some guys find it easier to maintain or increase that distance, and others draw their wives back in, but on their own terms.

You need to build more relationships with people around you - she can't be your only friend, your only source of intimacy.

[deleted] · 2018-10-06T00:09:54+00:00

Do you feel closer to your wives after MRP? Well I'm not polygamous, so I only have one wife.

When I stopped blaming her for my weakness and pulled my head out of my ass and took charge of my life, then yes I did feel closer to her.

weakandsensitive · 2018-10-05T15:45:49+00:00

I honestly don’t have a close enough friend that I feel comfortable talking with like I’m able to talk to her.

lol

I want to talk to her about my goals with MRP

lol.

Quick follow-up, do you want her to tuck you in at night and kiss you good night too?

You are the epitome of a caricature.

wkndatbernardus · 2018-10-06T02:27:11+00:00

What you're talking about is more in the realm of a mother/son relationship where the boy gets support and nurturing from his caring mother. The husband/wife dynamic is different in that the woman looks to the man to be a strong leader who makes her feel safe, secure, and part of a greater purpose. The husband provides this by moving towards his mission with single-minded focus. If any closeness happens for a married couple, it's in this dynamic where the wife follows and supports the man on a mission.

So, yes, there is a closeness that occurs but it isn't the one your post alludes to. Think less nurturing and more support on mission.

470_2_700_nm · 2018-10-06T10:48:11+00:00

Why are talking to your wife about MRP? Didn’t you get the memo?

oytrp · 2018-10-05T16:10:18+00:00

You won't FEEL closer.

When you were blue pilled you probably FELT that you were soulmates and loved each other unconditionally. We know that FEELING was just an illusion.

Now that you know her true nature, of course you won't match that feeling again ever. But what does that matter if that feeling was fake?

What's important is if the relationship is better.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-10-05T15:47:48+00:00

“you guys feel like you have a closer relationship with your wife”

No, but I feel closer to yours..

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2018-10-05T16:54:21+00:00

She's closer to my dick ya. Stop thinking about your wife.

470_2_700_nm · 2018-10-06T12:21:11+00:00

My dick does?

mattizie · 2018-10-07T07:22:10+00:00

Unfortunately for you, she doesn't want that in her relationship.

Find someone else like a close friend or a cat/dog, to confide all your feelings to. Eventually, you'll stop the behaviour all together.

gameoflibidos · 2018-10-09T15:19:40+00:00

No. If anything I think about whether I still want her around.

light-----------dark · 2018-10-05T15:49:39+00:00

Cute..

screechhater · 2018-10-06T01:54:08+00:00

I call bullshit on your reading and, your lifting.

In no fucking way are your internalizing shit if you are not working toward finding a confidant other than the wife

Title	Do you feel closer to your wives after MRP?
Author	slodojo
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Date	October 5, 2018 3:38 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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