Should I inform wife of job hunting?

justpickanyusername · 2018-08-06T19:10:25+00:00

Should I bother telling the wife that I'm on the market or just wait until I have actual information to share. In the vein of STFU and not telling people my goals and just working the problem, it seems like I should just keep it to myself for now.

Pretty sure I just answered my own question, but any community input is welcome.

You already know the answer. Bring her in the loop when you have a legitimate job offer you are planning to accept. I can't think of any advantages and only disadvantages to bringing her onto the job hunting roller coaster.

chachaChad · 2018-08-06T20:42:48+00:00

My wife is a valuable resource in the household. She often has different, valid viewpoints on things. I don't see anything wrong with talking to her about it. She also understands that what I do for work is up to me and trusts my decisions.

boy_named_su · 2018-08-06T19:28:21+00:00

Women don't care about your potential. Just outcomes

FlyingSexistPig · 2018-08-06T20:07:54+00:00

Your redpill journey includes self-validation. If you are going to lead, you don't ask permission. If you ask permission, you aren't leading.

[deleted] · 2018-08-06T22:00:16+00:00

Remember that MRP is a captain/first mate hierarchy, not a master/slave.

Personally, I'd discuss a major life event like this with my first mate and get her input.

Obviously the final decision is yours to make, but she might have valuable input that you hadn't thought of. More information is always better than less.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-08-06T22:31:44+00:00

Mommy, look at me, look at me.. bla bla bla.

If you don’t get the job, she’ll see you as a failure that you are. If you do get the job, she’ll already have plans on how she will spend the extra $30k. Probably a new kitchen upgrade or down payment on an inground swimming pool.

She doesn’t give a fuck about you. She doesn’t even “love” you. She only cares about the feelz & resources you can provide.

Red-Curious · 2018-08-07T15:10:16+00:00

So much of this stuff never pans out. When you mentioned that you were getting offers, but without an actual offer in-hand yet, she interpreted that as, "He's a hopeful dreamer with nothing practical to offer from keeping his head in the clouds." That wasn't a test. That was her pointing out how you screwed up. Oh well, keep lifting and move on.

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2018-08-07T15:55:58+00:00

Telling anyone would be virba non acta .

Persaeus · 2018-08-09T17:53:34+00:00

I can't rely on her for support in my decisions at this point in my RP journey. Gotta do some navel gazing on that one.

if she chooses to support your decisions, great. however, you can't ever RELY or NEED a woman's support on anything. might as well throw sand in her vagina. burden of performance

Rhynovirus · 2018-08-07T00:29:31+00:00

Wait till you have actual news. But in a marriage you can't keep something as important as your family income a secret. If you get a solid offer you'd like to interview for, you're required to mention it.

Title	Should I inform wife of job hunting?
Author	shadowycoder
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Comments	38
Date	August 6, 2018 6:57 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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