I go interstate for work about once a month for 2-4 days at a time. I don't really msg or call my wife (4 years together) that much but we do FaceTime with our daughter (2yo) after the day's work is done.
She asks me if I miss her (I don't. I don't miss anyone except my daughter a little.) and I'll deflect or try and make a joke out of it. Am I being a cold asshole? It's the truth but I'm being autistic about it instead of making her feel.
How do you approach this kind of thing? I'm too focused on myself (work, training, nutrition etc) to care when she's not around. She tells me she loves me or whatever and I don't really feel like saying it back. I've got no time for those emotions. I feel like a dick basically but I don't want to lose focus on whats most important
Context = I'm 26, earn about $10k less pa than her, nearing the end of the recruitment process for local state police, 16% BF @ 76kg/166lb, I was obese 8 months ago, I look good and am generally in a good mood. Dead bedroom is happening - sex at once a month or less... last head I got must have been 6 months + ago.... Drunk captain has been dramatically reduced over the last year...
Thoughts? Replies much appreciated
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