So how?

Short of it is I let it slip. I used to be romantic as fuck. But I let it go.

I recognize this is why my game sucks with my wife. For a variety reasons I let it go. But now as I try to exercise that muscle again I get rolled eyes, pity thank you or the dreaded "that's nice".

If it's a matter of time I can accept that.

So how do you get this back?