I feel sort of stupid for asking this, but here we go.

Wife has been meeting my needs sexually for a while now since I discovered and implemented RP. Which is great.

Now my in-laws (I get along with them very well), needed a favor that took the better part of a day for me to do. I did not see this as any sort of shit test.

When I got back from day of helping her elderly parents (moving heavy stuff in another state), I got the first hard no sexual denial I've had in months, along with a lot of "I detest you" bitchiness from the wife. Which I handled with STFU and indifference.

I don't think there's any covert contract going on, it just seems like being helpful to her family now is "beta bait".

A true alpha asshole that she want's to fuck would have left her family out in the cold?

AWALT?

How do you help out in-laws while still looking like a selfish prick?

This morning re-connected sexually after basically re-asserting myself as a self-interested alpha asshole. Wife told I'm unbelievably selfish, which I took as a compliment and a sign that my frame is holding up.

So my question is how do you do a good deed without it being interpreted as weakness? No good deed goes unpunished?

Has anyone had similar experiences or figured out a good way to handle these sorts of situations?

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Edit: Apparently I did a lousy job of asking my question. My question is if you want to do something selfless for your own reasons, can you do it without your wife thinking you're a pussy? Let's say you want to send $100 to Save The Whales because you like whales, or rescue puppy dogs or something. Can you do that without harming your alpha cred?

In the case I'm asking about, I did a favor for her parents because I wanted to help them. Wife seems to have misinterpreted this as my doing them a favor because I want to get laid (covert contract). I get laid all the time. I did not think that doing them a favor would help me get laid. I found out after the fact that it apparently screwed up my ability to get laid.

Follow-up: I was over-thinking this. Sex life is back on track. My own hamster got thrown for a spin around the wheel. Thanks guys!