Hi all. we are planning to book a venue , and have scoured our options. And we are ready to pill the trigger. We don't really have a budget for the wedding perse, but all in (venue + photos + etc etc) probably would amount to almost 40k which is insane yet still affordable to us, especially since it won't all be due in one fell swoop all at once. We are certainly looking forward to the party. We aren't too worried about the cost. He and I are both excited. But a part of me is still anxious. I don't want to misplace my priorities, have this crazy great wedding and have our marriage fall into dispair shortly after. I just am looking for some encouragement that you can have both an expensive wedding + an amazing marriage and there's no old wives tale about even if you're not spending beyond your means, if you spend more than X dollars on your wedding it's over π
I suppose I just find myself second guessing if this is the right choice. I hope it will be. I think it will be. And fiance is 100% on the same page. So why am I so fearful? Why do I think that sacrificing this tradition would make our marriage more strong? Is is possible to strengthen the bond with your future husband throughout the process of wedding planning? We have been great so far. Just choosing the venue has been fun, but I'm worried it's a false sense since we haven't committed to anything yet! But that's about to change so naturally I'm nervous. What do you ladies think?
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