I've been a subscriber (and lurker) for a few months. I've incorporated much of the lessons I've learned here in my relationship, most notably what I learned from reading "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands."

To my surprise I'm actually beginning to see positive changes! Things aren't perfect of course, I'm still learning, but it is way better than before and more so by the day.

Best of all, I no longer feel like I am doomed to become my mother (an ultra domineering hyper-aggressive bully who made the entire family miserable and my father alternate between completely checked out and raging beast). I no longer fear letting the man I love be a man I be a woman, because I now know what it really means and the joy it can bring. I no longer fear having children. I finally have some tools to create a marriage and family that operates in relative peace and harmony.

I know this all probably sounds cheesy, but I really cannot thank you ladies enough!