How do I stop liking gossip?

Camille11325 · 2017-04-23T03:55:06+00:00

Is this behaviour actually causing problems in your life? Is it affecting your ability to get a man/make your man happy? If the answer to both of those is "no" then I don't really think you need to do anything about it. Many of us here agree that women need a "daily dose of drama" and for some gossip sites scratch that itch. What does "reducing negativity in my life" actually mean for you? If you are having an enjoyable time does that really count as negativity? Identify your own standards based on your lifestyle and values.

If you legitimately want to stop going to those sites then you need willpower and something else to fill the time. There isn't a magic trick. Block the sites with an extension and spend more time with the people you love and/or get some hobbies!

cynicalhousewife · 2017-04-23T15:38:43+00:00

Get a copy of the Sims. You can indulge in all your desire for drama and gossip playing that. Just make sure you don't become too addicted to it.

Camille11325 · 2017-04-23T01:45:47+00:00

Have you checked out RPWi's chat room :)~

Just kidding, I'm supposed to be being helpful! And I really can't be helpful since I'm just as guilty as you!

[deleted] · 2017-04-24T12:46:29+00:00

silly question. if YOU don't like doing it, just don't partake. i like fried chicken, you don't see me running around town every time i have a craving.

sugarcrush · 2017-04-23T02:50:38+00:00

I don't see a problem with enjoying gossip, especially about anonymous/people you aren't related to (unless it's interfering with your life, but that goes for any hobby).

I lurveeee the relationships and subredditdrama forums! I actually find it helps me be more grateful about my husband/life. If I'm feeling annoyed about some little thing, I can just read some of those threads and immediately feel better about my drama-free life, lol 😂

Of course, if you feel that you are spending too much time using the internet or want more authentic hobbies, I totally understand why you want to avoid gossip sites. They are shallow! But if that's the case, then you just need to find a new interest.

sunfloweries · 2017-04-23T22:36:38+00:00

I read plenty of drama, but in the form of many, many books. If you want a "better" way to waste some time or relax, though I honestly don't think reading gossip rags is too terrible, pick up a book and read that!

littlegoosegirl · 2017-04-23T19:13:32+00:00

I agree that this isn't a big deal. I love reading gossip and drama, and living it vicariously keeps me from starting any in my own life. If it's not making you upset or affecting your relationship just keep doing what brings you joy, even if it's a little petty ;)

PyjamaTime · 2017-04-23T21:11:55+00:00

As someone in their mid-forties I can tell you that you will naturally become less interested in it as you age. Yes, celebrity gossip is shallow. However, if your networks at school or work read it, gossip gives you a topic of conversation, a way to connect. Flicking through a shallow story takes your mind off your day and helps you to relax. The pictures teach you what's in fashion, which can be useful since fashion IS a sign of status, whether we follow it or not. As you age you'll find other ways to meet the above. You'll start wondering why the celebrities still mess up their lives and act like teenagers. You'll outgrow them.

darla10 · 2017-04-25T16:06:21+00:00

gossip has an evolutionary purpose. Not all gossip is bad. For example, gossiping about other people's relationships (in a way that makes yours look better in comparison) has been shown to strengthen your own romantic relationship. Just be careful not to be hurtful to others when you gossip. Otherwise, don't be so hard on yourself.

BellaScarletta · 2017-04-23T03:16:42+00:00

I think it's very normal for females to enjoy some good gossip.

Similarly, I also think there is good gossip and bad gossip. Bad gossip is sharing things that aren't your business, stirring up drama in social circles, or being generally malicious.

Aside from that, unless it's affecting your life adversely why fight it (:

RainbowKitty77 · 2017-06-04T01:29:36+00:00

I read Reddit a lot for the drama too. I don't see it as a bad thing.

Title	How do I stop liking gossip?
Author	MoriKei
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Date	April 23, 2017 1:33 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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