This topic came to my mind the other day when I was browsing the front page of Reddit. Since they made the changes to that landing page recently lots of stuff from different subs is coming up.

There was something from some sort of reaction gif sub. It was basically a character from a film saying 'No' in a somewhat exaggerated way. And the poster had captioned it 'My reaction when she asks if she can stay the night so we can have sex again in the morning'.

Most of the replies were debating whether or not morning sex was enjoyable or worth it. There were a lot of replies so I didn't read them all but none of the ones I saw picked up on what I was feeling, which was shock that it was now considered normal to kick out someone you've had a one night stand with, without even allowing them to spend the whole night, and that staying the night was something you sort of had to plead and negotiate for. It seemed that this as a concept was totally accepted and normal now.

Admittedly I've never had a one night stand so I don't know how it's supposed to work. But I still believe that when I was younger it was common practice that if you had a ONS you at least slept there till the morning. It was such an established idea that it was a common trope in comedies, dramas and even adverts.

Is this really what happens now? Do women really hook up with a guy at 1am and find themselves walking the streets or clambering for an Uber at 2am? Are they really happy about this and prefer to go home to their own space, or do they just put up with it because that's the best they can get or because they feel it's what is expected?

The other thing that depressed me was watching the film 'Risky Drinking'. It was produced by HBO and it's an exploration of alcohol abuse in America. Amongst others it features a late 20s girl called Kenzie who split up with her partner a year before and has been drinking to excess on weekends to cope with her sadness.

In the film, while very drunk, she debates with her friends which of the boys she knows that she is going to sleep with. Eventually she has sex with one of them in a public toilet and confess that the sex was 'just OK'. There is no evidence that she gets any actually enjoyment from it or that she has any real feelings for this boy. We see her later on in the night, sobbing her heart out in her apartment because she is so miserable.

Drunken hookups have always been a thing, but watching Kenzie it felt like her and her friends had a very clinical approach to it. There seemed to be no passion, true desire or joy, it just seemed to be a sort of crossing off of a list of 'How to have fun'. It was as though that was what she thought she ought to be doing to have 'a fun night' so she just did it, even though her heart wasn't in it.

It just seems like socially everything is falling apart to the detriment of women.