Since I started coming here and being more aware of my behavior, I will occasionally catch myself ALMOST acting shrewy, and then I'm like, "Damn, what is my problem?" It happened today. I brought out all 15 or whatever of my husband's pairs of jeans, and asked him to try them on to see if we could get rid of any. He was 100% willing to do so and friendly about it. He was wearing a big, long-ish coat when I asked him. When he took his pants off and went to put the first pair of jeans on, he didn't take his coat off. Now, there is no way that I would do what he was doing. I would totally take the coat off. It would drive me nuts to have the coat on. I came soooo close to saying something like, "Why don't you take your coat off? Shouldn't you take your coat off? Or, Take your coat off!" I stopped myself, and I was just amazed at how annoying and controlling I have been in the past. WHY was it bugging me so much that the coat was on? I have no idea. Well, I did not say anything about the coat. I told myself that he is a grown-up who is perfectly capable of deciding whether or not to leave a coat on. A little bit later, we were cuddling and making out on the couch. I'm sure that had I annoyed him about his coat, there would have been no cuddling. We'd probably be fighting, or at the very least, he would be irritated and turned off by me.