How do you let your Man know he’s gone too far?

There are plenty of things our Men do that we as feminine women, forgive instantly and take in stride.

We don’t nag when he leaves his dishes at the table, at least we don’t in this house, but what about when he says something hurtful and unconstructive to you?

Let him have it! Don’t yell or scream, just blow off your steam by coming up with a creative insult. The more masculine and outlandish your insult, the more oddly flattered he’ll be. Bonus: because of your immediate reaction, he will know exactly what he did wrong. Stewing and exploding later doesn’t teach him any lessons, but immediately reacting does!

Don’t:

  • Demean his masculinity

ie: calling him a wimp, making fun of his penis, dredging up past mistakes, insulting his intelligence

  • Scream or yell

this will kill his love for you, this is supposed to be fun, not a tantrum

  • Whip the technique out too often

Don’t wear it out. This will greatly devalue the technique and it will lose the novelty. Only insult your man when he has done something to you personally. Not for little things that should be let go of, and definitely not for mistakes he makes at work

Do:

  • Use masculine words

ie: brute, bully, big man, bear,

  • Exaggerate

ie: How could you be so nasty and mean to a pretty little thing like me?, I’m going to tell your Mama what a big bully you are!

  • Combine this with other childlike behavior, but cute things, NOT tantrum-like

ie: Stomp a foot, toss your hair, start to walk away and look back at him to make sure he sees you’re mad, cross your arms and refuse to look his way

I would love to hear some of your ideas for appropriate insults. When I started using this method, my husband was baffled for a second, then rushed to try and calm me down even chuckling and saying “you’re so cute” under his breath.

Men want to please and protect a childlike woman, this is a valuable skill to master.

Comment your ideas below!