Monk Mode And RPW

If you look up the term “monk mode” you will find hundreds of guides and discussions on various websites. Many women who are new to RPW assume that these posts are applicable to their own lives, and that since the red pill is “about self improvement”, they should embrace monk mode and spend a lot of time working on themselves. This misconception is very prevalent, so this post will clarify what the RPW position is on the matter.

The most important thing to understand is that “the red pill” is not about “self improvement”. While there are several facets of RP, the fundamental concepts that unite each subsection are an awareness of reality and an understanding that actions have consequences. When it comes to relationships, red pill thought is centred around the true natures of men and women, and how to obtain what you want from the opposite sex. Manosphere blogs and forums may give self improvement advice, however improvement for the sake of improvement is not the point.

Making changes in your life for the better is only relevant to RP when it is related to increasing your SMV or RMV. So to be clear, RPW is not about self improvement, it is about female sexual strategy, which encompasses everything involved in entering and maintaining a harmonious relationship.

Now while men have multiple RP strategies (platespinning, LTR/Marriage, MGTOW), there is only one RPW strategy, and that is securing permanent commitment from the best man possible. There is no such thing as a WGTOW. And there is no way to be an RPW without pursuing the singular female strategy. You must be actively attempting to obtain a relationship, improve your relationship, or maintain your relationship. Monk mode should only be used in extreme circumstances, so that a woman can prepare herself for the dating process.


Why is it important that women have a monk mode period?

Having your ducks in a row will allow you to position yourself as best as possible, so that you can attract a great man. You will have fewer things to worry about as you date, allowing you to focus on and enjoy finding the right guy. You want to be able to enhance someone else’s life and be an asset, instead of being a burden or an embarrassment.

Monk mode is not for everyone.

The only women who should enter into this enhanced period of dedication to self improvement are:

  • Women with an SMV below 5. Anyone who is overweight and/or looks terrible should sort themselves out prior to dating.

  • Women with an RMV below 5. Some reasons your RMV will be below 5 - crippling mental health issues, severe personality problems, alpha widow status, drug addiction, etc.

Of course people still date and marry if they are below 5 in either categories, so if you are fine with how you are and don’t want to change then don’t. RP is descriptive not prescriptive, but if you come to RPW for advice you’ll be told to fix yourself before you try to date. When you are below 5, your options are very limited, and the men are of lower value. If you work on everything that is fixable, you increase the pool of men who will find you worth committing to.

What does monk mode consist of?

While in monk mode you may need to lose weight, seek professional help, move, get a new job, detox, buy a new wardrobe, have plastic surgery, get a new hairstyle, practise patience, get over a guy, read RPW, and/or get disciplined. Monk mode is not a time for wallowing in misery or not actively advancing towards your goals. It is also not a time where you can sleep around or busy yourself with self improvement that is completely unrelated to sexual strategy.

How long should monk mode last?

It can be anywhere from 2 weeks to 6 months, depending on what you have to do to get to a 5 in both SMV and RMV. And you need to be consistently a 5, one day of feeling improved is not enough.

Priorities are extremely important in monk mode. Once you figure out what needs to change, decide on your goals, make a plan, and stick to the plan. If your SMV is below 5, this will show you where to concentrate your efforts. If both your SMV and RMV are below 5, start with whatever is the most crucial (make an advice post if you’d like some guidance!).

After the monk mode period is over, you are now ready to date. You can continue to work on SMV and RMV as you meet and vet men. In fact, the best way to increase RMV is by interacting with romantic interests. You can read “Psychological Femininity” and be as sweet as possible to friends and family but that is not the same as interacting with and respecting a man. There is no substitute for that dynamic.


Thanks for reading! I am interested in hearing your thoughts on female monk mode, and do share any tips you may have for those currently in monk mode. Women who are in monk mode can also ask questions!

P.S. Alternate names for “monk mode” are fine. If anyone can think of a good one, leave it in the comments! “Nun mode” is not an option :)