Hello RedPillWives,

I'm in need of some advice. Back story: My boyfriend,G,(36 yrs old) and I(24 yrs old) began dating almost a year ago. He is a wonderful and loving man. He hasn't openly talked about Red Pill, but judging how he carries himself and what is on his bookshelf, I'm pretty sure he has. We are madly in love, and have discussed getting married and eventually starting a family. When we began dating, G was taking some time off for getting more schooling, but I knew our relationship was going to have a third party always lingering in the background...the defense industry. He is a veteran, and after leaving the Navy, he found great career success being a defense contractor overseas. G loves what he does and spent 4 years in Afghanistan and Iraq.

In December 2015, he was offered another contract which he accepted. At the time, he was assigned to a region that was safe, but then a month later he was needed in a very dangerous area and has been working there since. Being the amazing man that he is, nothing worried him over there. In fact, when we talk on the phone it sounds like he's having a blast.

In early May, he asked if I would be willing to move into his home. I accepted and have been loving living here. I've been able to plant some flowers and have been enjoying meeting new neighbors and exploring a new city. He has given me the task to "hold down the fort" while he is away and "de-bachelor padding" the house.

Without him around, and due to limited communication at times, he instructed me to take control of the household, and I don't need to ask for advice as much as I have been. He says he wants it to be "our" home not just his home.

I wouldn't say I'm completely lost, but I am a bit overwhelmed. Where do I draw the line about asking for random advice about the house? How can I go about "de-bachelor padding" his place in a non-threatening way? He's working so hard, and when he's back for a few weeks at the midway point of his contract, I want him to come back to an amazing household so he can have a nice and relaxing vacation. I know his career means that long term time overseas is inevitable, so I am eager to learn how to be the best possible girlfriend (and hopefully wife in the future!) to him.

TLDR: Boyfriend is away kicking ISIS butt. How can I be a kickbutt first mate?