Update: After chatting with the ladies in IRC we have determined that he's not the right one for me. I won't be going on a date with him. I appreciate everyones posts though, and will take this as a learning opportunity! Thank you all.

  • How old are you and how familiar are you with RPW? 24, and yes.

  • What is your relationship status? Dating

  • What is the problem? (Don’t badmouth your SO!)

Tonight I am excited to say I am going on a coffee date. This will be our first time meeting and I am wondering about trust.

We have spoken on the phone and I think I find him attractive but won't know until we meet. He's brought up wanting to kiss (tongue). I had always assumed that a kiss was best after a couple of dates. However he has called me out on my "overthinking" (I appreciate a man who can do that...) of the situation. His train of thought is that a kiss can create a spark and connection and would be necessary. I can understand this but find myself lacking in trust...

Is it too soon to trust? At what point did you trust your SO for these kinds of decisions?

To clarify a couple of things...

  1. He has made it clear that he will not be dating anyone else while dating me.
  2. He considers kissing a symbol of commitment.
  3. He is much more sexual than I am, without meeting yet. Perhaps this is throwing me off?
  • How have you contributed to the problem? I am overthinking the situation. I lack experience in this matter.

  • How long has this been an issue? 1 day...

  • What have you done to resolve this problem? Ask RPW :)