RPW is more than sexual strategy, I think. This may be up for debate, but I'd like to think not too much. That's why we get to discuss more fun things RPW carrots and the like.

Kidding, but this post is to acknowledge what RPW brings outside of relationship; I'd like to think I'm not the only one who has seen all-around improvements.

A Gratitude Attitude extends beyond your lover

It's easier to be grateful for smaller things; even if the emotion doesn't come naturally quite yet, the conscious decision to recognize what we are fortunate for is a huge step. For those of us who are wound up so tight we could fly across a hemisphere if we let ourselves snap, it's nice making a practice of feeling grateful for the things we have.

You can't change people, only yourself

Family isn't perfect, and for many of us, our family is why we struggle in our relationships. Poor habits and dynamics learned by example makes for a difficult time learning to be better. And one thing we all have in common (I believe) is the will to have a happy family life. Both with our SOs, and our children -- whether you have these things yet or not, it can likely still be agreed the quality of those relationships are of the highest priority.

That being said, I've also learned to love my own nuclear family more in the process. Maybe my divorced parents and spineless father weren't the best role models, but I can't change them. As an adult, the options are to love them as they are, or not at all. I don't wish things were different anymore, I choose to be proud of my dad for other things and focus less on his shortcomings. Even if your relationship with your own folks is so damaged there is no retribution (I know at least a few folks in here are not unfamiliar with /r/raisedbynarcissists), at least you can take comfort in what you cannot change and continue to move forward by improving your own life -- the only life that you have the ability to improve.

This may change from person to person, and maybe it's your friends that are the negative influence. Or coworkers. Whoever it is to you, there is power in accepting accountability for yourself and only yourself.

There's no honour in winning for its own sake

Vying for dominance is an ignoble act, and aggression is an ugly trait. There is a difference between being a doormat, and being a pleasant and humble person. I know I try to be 'right' an awful lot less than I used to; what purpose does it serve? Aside from a time-sensitive debate as to how to most efficiently remove victims from a burning building to save the most lives, being 'right' rarely wins you or anybody anything aside from bad feelings.

Whether it's in the workplace, or casual conversation, I find myself conceding far more often. Why not? I'm not going to walk out with a prize for berating the other person into submission. I'd rather leave them with a good impression of me than winning my own crappy game that nobody else is playing.

Femininity offers you and others more than an enhanced SMV

We live in a world of binaries. Light/dark. Warm/cold. Happy/sad.

Femininity/masculinity go far less noticed than the above examples, and are so often absent from situations. A touch of feminine grace brings an improvement to any atmosphere, be it a social setting or simply in the workplace. In much of the older text, there was a lot more emphasis in the strength of femininity and the ability to bend. Not everyone can achieve it, and I certainly make no claims to be an authority, but I do try and that is far more than most are accustomed to in these times. To be warm of presence and soft spoken are wildly undervalued traits. I'm naturally rather loud and boisterous, and that's a hard disposition to break free of. But even now, if I lose control of my speaking volume I lose less control over what it is I'm speaking about. There's much less negativity and abrasiveness than there used to be. Baby steps, everybody.

Happiness is a choice

It's a choice I try to make every day, and admittedly fail at much of the time. But the day you take accountability for your own emotions is a good one, and releases you from the victim-mentality that's all too pervasive today. Your 'cup of life', so to speak, is a zero-sum game. We all have the same number of hours in the day and the week, and how we spend those hours is up to us, not to mention with whom we spend them. Prioritizing those who add to the quality of our cup and allotting them more space, while weeding out those who add only bitterness, increases happiness in all aspects of your life. It absolutely influences what you bring home to your man, but I'm talking about what you carry in your own heart and what it does for you in every part of your life. A happy person surrounded by love and goodwill is a better partner, but also a better person.


TL;DR Carry the words of RPW regarding positivity and femininity with you in all parts of life, even those outside your relationship, and you will be a happier and better person for it.

Edit: Didn't know what to flair so I went with 'discussion' instead of 'insightful'. I'm not all that deep and I'd rather hear and discuss all your thoughts anyway (: