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Louis Theroux did a documentary film about a brothel in Nevada not long ago. What was interesting was a lot of the women refused to do the "girl friend experience" and had running joke about the men who came for that purpose. It would seem that it was more degrading to them to pretend to like the John--kissing was more violating than even the most expensive items on the menu. The "best" prostitutes were taking pride in their ability to get clients off as quickly as possible, like a waitress makes more money turning tables more often in a shift.
I think the point I'm trying to make you need to cultivate affection for your spouse internally first, or else all the other gestures will feel like "work" and it will show. Remind yourself daily of their good qualities and allow that appreciation to bubble up organically with your actions.
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DO NOT use his condition of spiritual repose as an opportunity to ask about the direction of the relationship, how good you were (he came, didn't he?) or whether or not this means that you can go shopping this weekend with your mother. Just . . . go away. Not for a long while, but for long enough for your dude to appreciate your gift in solitude.
This is the hardest part for me. I tend to get very clingy, needy, and over affectionate post-sex. I've even attempted the DTR talk right after orgasming, doh D:
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I love Ian Ironwood, his blog was he first one I found when I was first introduced to red pill.
[–]Kittenkajira[S] 7 points8 points9 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sharing this old, but excellent article for those who haven't read it yet. It's a great insight into what men want.
It's no secret why "sudden renewed interest in sex" is often listed as a sign your husband might be having an affair: a good GFE is like Popeye eating a can of spinach. You feel like someone really thinks you're worth a damn, even if you had to pay her to think it. And if that gives a dude enough juice to go home and royally take his wife to Pound Town, then if nothing else you can ascertain that something important happened during his GFE, something sexually and psychologically empowering. I'm not arguing for married men to seek out whores to fulfill their sense of masculinity. Quite the contrary. I'm trying to explain to wives just why a man might consider doing such a thing when he has a loving, sexually permissive wife at home. And how wives might use the GFE as part of their own sexual repertoire.
It's no secret why "sudden renewed interest in sex" is often listed as a sign your husband might be having an affair: a good GFE is like Popeye eating a can of spinach. You feel like someone really thinks you're worth a damn, even if you had to pay her to think it. And if that gives a dude enough juice to go home and royally take his wife to Pound Town, then if nothing else you can ascertain that something important happened during his GFE, something sexually and psychologically empowering.
I'm not arguing for married men to seek out whores to fulfill their sense of masculinity. Quite the contrary. I'm trying to explain to wives just why a man might consider doing such a thing when he has a loving, sexually permissive wife at home. And how wives might use the GFE as part of their own sexual repertoire.
[–]jade_cat2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This was an awesome article, very interesting and well written. It describes some things I noticed with my husband when I give him the GFE, and reading this really helped me understand more the underlying reasons and thought process of my husband. Thank you for sharing!
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