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"And no one wants the nice guy because just like a slut, he gives his love to anyone who will take it"

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14 September 2014 02:14 PM UTC

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Long time lurker. Saw this pop up on my twitter feed and it just really resonated with me.

....I don't really know where this post is going. I just felt the power of this quote and wanted to share it with the community. It makes sense on so many levels.

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Title "And no one wants the nice guy because just like a slut, he gives his love to anyone who will take it"
Upvotes 733
Comments 153
Date 14 September 2014 02:14 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit TheRedPill
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/21089
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134 upvotestrpSenator5 years ago

I'm a bit tipsy for The Lord's Sunday Football, so excuse me if I am incoherent.

Every slut, EVERY -- NO EXCEPTIONS -- Every single slut I've ever met or fucked is the product some fucked up shit in their past. There is absolutely no exception to this law. They were either abused sexually, physically, mentally, neglected, and so on... There is NO exception to this law. Every slut has a ton of psychological baggage. To this day, I've never met a girl that sleeps around with a ton of men that doesn't have some issue that roots back to some paternal figure. It just doesn't happen if they had a decent upbringing.

Sure, women get horny and want dick all the time. Especially the quality women, they love getting fucked for all the right reasons. The quality women tend to find a guy, even a FWB, and stick to them. They don't go around looking for new men to fuck to validate themselves.

I much rather get with a girl who got fucked 20 times in the past 10 days by one guy, than a girl who got fucked 5 times in the past 10 days by 5 different guys. I don't give a shit about what sort of political feminists spin they try and throw on it, the reality is, bitches that fuck multiple dudes at such a high frequency, are nothing more than an airport terminal loaded with baggage.

26 upvotessumdumguy-throwaway5 years ago

so... nice guys have some fucked up shit in their past, too?

71 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

As a reformed nice guy, yes, they don't value themselves enough as people and they feel that they have to shower people in grandiose kindness and compliments in order to be accepted, often they do this because they want more than anything for someone to do that for them, but it doesn't work like that, some of them learn and become men, some of them don't and become like elliot rodgers. We need to do a much better and more honest and pragmatic job of teaching boys how the world works.

12 upvotespirateted5 years ago

Former "nice guy" here and I did it for that exact reason.

0 upvotesI_HaveAHat5 years ago

My old friend was a real nice guy. His family treated him like dirt. His older sister would party come home late shower then go to her own room, while he, a teenager, had to share his room with his younger brother.

2 upvotesJazzerciseMaster5 years ago

Where does an older sister coming home and showering fit into this?

0 upvotesI_HaveAHat5 years ago

Well she showered presumably to wash the smell of alcohol and whatever else she was stinking of off herself. She was partying and his parents didnt care and wouldnt even let my friend stay out past 9

1 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

This is why I try to give every younger man in my life who's straying towards niceguy/blue pill behaviours hints of red pill without it being obvious as such, as stated here many times before most people agree with many principles of the red pill but aren't willing to show it in public or act on it.

18 upvotesOb1Kn00b5 years ago

Yes, actually. Nice guys are men that have had their masculinity derided and devalued for their entire lives. They are told that things that make them men are less then worthless, and thus build themselves around avoiding those things.

12 upvotescntthnko15 years ago

As a guy who doesn't get any, my problem is not having any sort of social or cultural guidance whatsoever.

4 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

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3 upvotescntthnko15 years ago

Thats interesting... They really arent repelled by shit like that?

3 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

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1 upvotescntthnko15 years ago

Im going to blame my lack of results on lack of trying. The thing that would stop me is being "new" to the whole thing and literally not having ANYTHING to fall back on. What you said does give me hope to at least try, thanks.

Most of the time when someone thinks they are autistic, they usually aren't; it's usually just a lack of proper experience in certain social scenarios that is the cause of awkward behavior.

1 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

Being able to not give a fuck IS a social skill, and it had seemed to work for you

1 upvotesSeasons_In_The_Abyss5 years ago

You can't fuck me with social skills.

1 upvotespimpy5435 years ago

same here,learning is the fun part though!

4 upvotestrpSenator5 years ago

Most likely.... I don't have any data on it other than personal life experience, but every nice guy I have ever met has been the product of some fucked up shit rooting back to some demasuclating experience.

1 upvotesJazzerciseMaster5 years ago

Just curious - aren't there in fact less powerful males out there who actually have less testosterone, and thus don't get laid regardless of being raised by women, etc.?

1 upvotestrpSenator5 years ago

Of course, but that's extremely rare and extremely exceptional. Even the guys that seem to have perfect upbringings, after looking into it you find out they had a lot of neglect, or some shit. Also, I don't think testosterone has a whole lot to do it. I knew plenty of weak low test guys that got laid on the regular. Heck, my buddy growing up was a bean pole and borderline anorexic looking, but pulled in women.

Not being able to get with women roots back to nervousness' outlet through social anxiety for one reason or another. If you aren't nervous, you'll be able to get with a chick one way or another.

11 upvotesjohnnight5 years ago



In the area I grew up in I knew girls who were having sex at 13, 14, 15. All of them were promiscuous and as far as I could tell, had not-so-good relationships with their fathers. I do remember the 14-year-old ended up in some sort of home for wayward girls. My gut, even then, told me it had something to do with the parents. Studies have confirmed my intuition

If excessive promiscuity is usually due to a poor relationship with a father, and is a search for love, then the break-up of marriages (or their failure to form) is going to lead to promiscuous girls who are unable to sustain a successful relationship with a man. This is the main reason I refer to women who purposely have have children without being married as "monsters."


Do absent dads make for promiscuous daughters? Study finds lack of father figure triggers risky sexual behavior among young girls


Associations Between Father Absence and Age of First Sexual Intercourse


As the divorce rate in the United States climbs to nearly 50 percent, fathers seem to be disappearing from their daughters‟ lives. Research shows that girls and young women who have an unstable father figure are more liable to unplanned pregnancy, low self-esteem, high school and college drop-out, poverty, divorce and sexually promiscuous behavior. This thesis examines the research linking father absence to daughter problems.


During harsh conditions, the evolutionary imperative of 'survival of the fittest' favours a shortened 'reproductive timetable'. This ensures passing on genes to future generations before perishing.

DelPriore and Hill point out that previous research indeed confirms this evolutionary theory by finding that girls growing up in father-absent homes - or in homes characterized by low-quality paternal investment -experience accelerated pubertal development, initiation of sexual intercourse and becoming pregnant earlier. They also have a greater number of sexual partners, and are more likely to get divorced; relative to girls growing up in households with two 'investing' parents.


Father Absence, Father Deficit, Father Hunger


Clearly, the reason girls without fathers are more likely to be sexually promiscuous than girls with fathers is because they often have low self-esteem, lack confidence, lack of independence, lack the ability to form long lasting relationships with men, and crave the male attention that they have lost. So even today when we see the supermom, who thinks that she can be both parents, we now know that it is still better for girls to have an active father in their life than supermom.


Not everyone agrees. "Absent Fathers Create Slutty Thoughts, Says Idiotic Study" say the whores at Jezebel.

3 upvotesPoor_cReddit5 years ago

Thank you for providing the actual research to my feelings all along! Yup, after sleeping with countless women I've come to the conclusion that "Daddy issues" is a real thing. These women are batshit crazy and clingy. Never again.

3 upvotesLt_Muffintoes5 years ago

Of course, the mother's shitty, irresponsible choice in father is the father's fault.

6 upvotesNaughtyAudio5 years ago

I think you mean an airport filled with baggage and seamen.

7 upvotesRougepellet5 years ago

What would seamen be doing at an airport? They belong at sea... ooh i sea what you did there

1 upvotesRedPill1155 years ago

Every slut, EVERY -- NO EXCEPTIONS -- Every single slut I've ever met or fucked is the product some fucked up shit in their past. There is absolutely no exception to this law. They were either abused sexually, physically, mentally, neglected, and so on... There is NO exception to this law. ... I don't give a shit about what sort of political feminists spin they try and throw on it,

Look at the history of feminism, and you'll find that most of the main figures in feminism had that exact past - abused, neglected, etc...

5 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

The original supporters of feminism were bratty rich white girls saying they were gay so they didn't have to marry the guy their father wanted them to. They knew marriage requires real work and they wanted to remain spoiled by their fathers so they said they wanted to work instead knowing they would be too old to actually have to by the time it happened.

1 upvotesRedPill1155 years ago

Eh, I don't know about that. The real original authors of feminism seemed to be rich men who wanted to double their work force. After that, it seemed like it was run by disgruntled women who did what people do and promote their way of thinking onto everyone else.

Feminism has increased female power, but decreased female happiness. Is this something women would actually do to themselves if they knew what they were getting into?

1 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

I didn't mean the authors who engineered it, I just meant the original group of girls the supported and followed it.

1 upvoteswaynebradysworld5 years ago

I'd argue feminism was created by extremely low value women who were jealous of people above them in the social hierarchy.

In terms of social privilege... Hot women > average women > hot men > average men > bottom of barrel guys > bottom of barrel women.

Classic feminists fall into bottom of barrel women category. Green with envy and steamed up because they can't cash in on a pussy pass since they are just too stank

Can't compete? Change the game. Feminism is for uggos by uggos.

0 upvotesLt_Muffintoes5 years ago

Rich kids can still be neglected.

7 upvotesHumankeg5 years ago

I get what you are saying, but there is ALWAYS an exception to the rule.

But yea, when I hear about a traumatic child hood, daddy issues, or see the girls on /r/gonewild, all I think is "slut, easy to fuck".

11 upvotesWordsNotToLiveBy5 years ago

I don't think girls on GW are necessarily easy to fuck. I'm sure there are some on there that are, but being an exhibitionist goes much deeper. You'd have to break down the desire of a woman to want to "show off" her goods.

For instance, if they have pretty pussies, they'll want to show it off. NAWALT, but if they know their snatch is not as nice as some of the others, then they'll definitely be self conscience of it. Same goes for breasts and their entire body.

It comes down to validation. They like having strangers tell them they look good. It's the reason why they love having friendzones around to shower them with praise.

7 upvotespctomm5 years ago

Man, you're bang on. In my life, every slut I've known was going through some shit. It's important to define slut by chick who nails a ton of people. I dated this chick that was so sexual, she'd wear see through tops, have sex shows at clubs, turns out she was with very few people. Other girls I've known with a high count always had something that explained it. Absentee parents, abuse etc. Or generally just a rough time at that particular stage in life. Anyway, I learned there is a BIG difference between a slut who sleeps around, and a sexy lady who isn't afraid of using her body, but they have less partners than you would imagine.

1 upvotesJaereth5 years ago

I don't think girls on GW are necessarily easy to fuck.

Probably not. That's why they get their validation from straight up exposing themselves. If they fucked all the time they wouldn't need that.

0 upvotesHumankeg5 years ago

Eh, anecdotal evidence on my part. In my experience they all seem easy enough.

4 upvotesWordsNotToLiveBy5 years ago

Could be because your RP game is strong.

3 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

In my BP days I went on a date with a slut. Knew of her promiscuous past but still living in ignorance we went out for a couple drinks. She told me that her and her dad bumped heads a lot. Biggest red flag in the world. She doesn't respect authority. This women also disobeyed a cop and was in court for it. If she won't obey someone who's armed....why the fuck would I think she would listen to me?! Jesus...thank god I'm here now.

1 upvotestrpSenator5 years ago

Of course there are always exceptions to the rule. But we aren't talking about outliers here, we are talking about the bulk of the bell curve.

-12 upvotesmindscrambler265 years ago

what about women who are emotionally detached, and can separate sex from emotion like most men can? I mean I think I'm a nice guy, but emotionally detached and would LOVE the opportunity to have an attractive slutty friend, as I like the concept of mixing sexuality with a social life in some cool way. And also I think that the majority of people in general, have some kind of issues/baggage.

11 upvotesIramohs5 years ago

You're on the wrong subreddit buddy.

10 upvotesHonor2None5 years ago

I think he's on the perfect sub

4 upvotesIramohs5 years ago

To learn yes, but what he's talking about is irrelevant.

1 upvotesmindscrambler265 years ago

then where's the right one?

-14 upvotesabcd_z5 years ago

I much rather get with a girl who got fucked 20 times in the past 10 days by one guy, than a girl who got fucked 5 times in the past 10 days by 5 different guys.

Yes, but that's only if you eventually want a long-term monogamous relationship with the woman. I practice PUA Polyamory, which means I get to fuck both of them without worrying about their sexual history.

6 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

So, how many STDs do you have?

2 upvotesabcd_z5 years ago

Why does everybody assume that because I sleep around I automatically have unprotected sex? I wear a condom. I am promiscuous, but that doesn't mean I'm stupid about it.

And I haven't been tested for a while, but AFAIK I'm clean.

2 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

You can get STDs even if you wear a condom. Vaginal fluids touching your scrotum, stomach, and legs, can all give you STDs. In terms of preventing STDs, condoms are more effective for women than they are for men.

2 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

If that shit doesn't get inside your body, you'll be fine (unless it is herpes sores).

1 upvotesabcd_z5 years ago

...and the only absolutely certain way to prevent pregnancy is to be abstinent, but we still have sex. It's not about avoiding all risk, it's about balancing risk with reward and personal safety.

Besides, the only STDs that can't be easily cleared up and isn't otherwise harmless (*cough* herpes *cough*) is HIV, which is far lower risk than you might think, and condoms provide a high degree of protection against it.

Your Honest-To-God Guide to STDs

7 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

Things happen. I'm just being a dick, though, don't worry about it. Good luck with your fun degeneracy.

14 upvotesBluepillProfessor5 years ago

I think this post was from an RP-woman explaining the facts of life to a nice guy.

The full quote from the thread as I recall (paraphrasing) is:

No one likes a slut because a slut gives away for free what she is supposed to be guarding and no one wants the nice guy because like the slut he gives his affection and love away freely to anyone who will take it. He is an emotional slut to be bled on and taken advantage of for his emotional love just like the slut is pumped and dumped for her sexual love.

145 upvotesSolonzzo5 years ago

The problem is that the nice guy gives without taking, the badboy takes without giving. Women crave being in the position of being taken advantage of, because it will always be by the badboys initiative, and as he is the one who started, ultimately if anything goes wrong it's his fault. As for the nice guy, he is passionate and passive, if anything goes wrong with him it will be her fault, because she in a sense has to take the initiative. Nice guy means work for women. Badboys stand for fun and pleasure, guilty free.

219 upvotesRedPope5 years ago

Everything you said is correct, but change your outlook from this:

Women crave being in the position of being taken advantage of

To this:

Women crave being taken

No one is being taken advantage of. The badboy is giving her exactly what she wants. Pleasure, attention, excitement, etc. Girls are not victims, they are willing and eager participants in this exchange. Take them off the pedestal.

59 upvotesfrasfralla5 years ago

So much this. Im so tired of the bitchy whining about 'alphas' take advantage of women etc. If you think like that you have understood nothing

33 upvotesilike2partyhowaboutu5 years ago

"And then we were alone and SOMEHOW THROUGH THE POWER OF MAGIC we started fucking"

Um.. lady. you shaved your twat, plucked your eyebrows, slapped on a skimpy outfit and did shots while grinding on guys at the club until one took the hint and brought you home to fuck... that's not magic.

38 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

Lack of strong male role models has pussified our generation. It's very hard to break free of the brainwashing.

0 upvotesTaylorWolf5 years ago

So true. The first male role model of today that came to mind is Seth Macfarline... (Since everyone loves family guy and now he is on the oscars/etc.)

And he is so effeminate he could easily be mistaken for gay.

6 upvoteschakravanti5 years ago

But how else will she manipulate your dumbass "friends" into white knighting you?

Always save the proof if your dudes teeter like that. Serves as great awakening material.

6 upvotesAKnightAlone5 years ago

Well stated. I got banned from /r/offmychest for vaguely defending Red Pill theory despite the fact that I consider myself all the equality-based "isms." Apparently TRP is "a hate group." lel

6 upvotesLaidBackStrat5 years ago

Same with me really. The thread was called "TRP is such bullshit" or something like that, the OP was bashing TRP without justification and the commenters were all nodding. Keep in mind that sub rule #4 is "Do not mention other subreddits or users in posts, for you will seen as enticing brigading and will get banned". But that post was fine, apparently.

All I said was something "To an outsider, that sub might seem a bit harsh, but it's got a some truth in its core". Boom, banned, labelled as a misogynist and, when asking the mods for a reason, the answer was "You don't get it". Nice...

7 upvotesAKnightAlone5 years ago

Yeah, I'd never seriously used the term femnazi before that day, but that's all I could think of after how quickly I got banned for a generally positive statement. The entire thread looked like an SRS circlejerk, and our bannings confirmed it.

3 upvotesteeelo5 years ago

Holy hell that pisses me off.

0 upvotesThinkcali5 years ago

No one really has the desire to feel used/taken. They have the desire to feel useful. Badboys are not the only type of man capable of making a woman feel useful. Thinkers, alphas, daredevils, leaders pretty much any man who lives by his own rules.

Pushovers whom are easily influenced always love others more than they love their self. Men can't expect anyone to learn to love them, if they don't know how love their self. Why should a woman show a man attention, if he doesn't even show his self attention?

2 upvotesRedPope5 years ago

You added the word "used" to the conversation. That is your bullshit belief, not mine. My message was that women are not being taken advantage of. Desiring sex does not make a woman a victim or weak person.

You white knights are the true misogynists. Never treating women as adults. Acting like they're frail children needing your gallant protection. Pure bullshit.

25 upvotesDreadnark5 years ago

It's funny because this is the principle that women deny the most on reddit. Whenever they criticise TRP it's on the grounds that they actually hate "bad boys" who will treat them like dirt.

Yet time and time again, they let themselves be taken advantage of. To be honest, they probably know that they're being treated like dirt but try to rationalise that away.

40 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

You also have to understand that unattractive women behave very differently than attractive women. Game is not as effective since their self esteem is pretty low. So telling them they are beautiful may have the opposite effect. The type of women who go on reddit are in large part not attractive. So of course to them this sub will not work.

I know just about everyone everyone has seen that picture of a reddit meetup in Baltimore floating around.

17 upvotesthegayrabbit5 years ago

the picture for anyone curious

11 upvotesJar_of_apples5 years ago

Be warned this is one of those things you cannot unsee.

9 upvotesIramohs5 years ago

NSFL. By that I mean you'll probably stab yourself in the eyes.

4 upvotesRazgriz165 years ago

Oh man that girl in the back right looks so uncomfortable lol

13 upvotesXXXmormon5 years ago

Here's a really accurate cross-section of the kind of redditors you find in Portland at least.


4 upvotesLaidBackStrat5 years ago

Most of those are not that bad to be honest, they seem like fairly normal people.

5 upvotesXXXmormon5 years ago

That was part of the reason why I shared the photo set.

8 upvotesilphae5 years ago

This is a serious life lesson right here boys.

6 upvotesuututhrwa5 years ago

Maybe this is a cultural thing (I'm not from the US, but I still didn't get to see it happening irl whenever I was there), but where do all those people that are "trying to get girls by being nice" or "treat women like dirt" actually exist? In like 98% of the cases they are all moderate and far from those extremes.

I know of a few couples where the guy treats his partner bad, but they don't come off as "le irresistable alpha leader not being nice guy" they come off like dumbasses or as some sort of comic relief.

And I don't understand how you are supposed to get a girl by "being nice"? I am nice to my sick elderly relative, or the disabled person that needs help getting on the bus, or the homeless person asking for money. Wtf would a woman need me to be so nice about? Is she disabled too? It's like some kind of fantasy about them being damsels in distress.

I've seen this nice guy fables on the internet for years, I mean I dont get it. And I like how there isn't a "normal" or "neutral" stereotype it's either nice or "douchebag". Like some other posters probably hinted it must have to do with people on reddit having low self esteem about their image and trying to attribute things to a "moral compass" or something.

edit: oh and the one thing I have the most trouble believing, is this fabled scene, where the nice guy is sitting by his love interest, and she's crying, tears eveywhere, and she is telling the stories of the ways her bf treated her bad and hurt her. And the nice guy is supposed to offer support by this, like a shrink. This scene literally doesn't even happen in rom-coms. Only in the corniest rom com of the decade maybe. I'd probably die of a heart attack laughing if this ever happened in front of my eyes. Why the fuck would that kind of thing even happen in real life?

7 upvotesSolonzzo5 years ago

Nice guy stands for passive male behavior. It's the guy who clearly wants the girl but is afraid of rejection, so much, that he prefers to play a facade where he is not desiring her but just wants to be "friends". He fools no one but himself. The female used to being sexually desired by other males, see in this "pretend sexless friend", which to her is an aberration!! See, she is used be disered for her sexuality, but this phony friend is so passive that he is no threat at all to her, both physically and emotionally, and there goes the excitiment and all the fun!!. This kind of man do exist, he is despised by the other males for he is weak and cant stand for himself, and cannot belong to the group. So he runs to orbit his female friends, and that's it, the nice guy is no more than a modern eunuch.

2 upvotesuututhrwa5 years ago

I see, I can't say I know many people like that irl though. Well except this one guy who ended up giving car rides to the girl that repetedly rejected and crushed him mentally, AND her fiance. Yeah he probably fitted that stereotype a lot.

7 upvotestruchisoft5 years ago

I live in south America and this happened to me. Not anymore but its a real scene. Maybe you never had the nice guy frame so you never got into that situation. Lucky guy.

0 upvotesuututhrwa5 years ago

You mean the whole thing with her telling about her boyfriends etc.? If that ever happened to me (or anyone) it's all up to you, it is very easy to come off neutral or ambigous about it. Trying to validate her for being right or a victim etc. is pointless, you are more like validating her bf than herself.

5 upvotestruchisoft5 years ago

Old history now, but you imply that all of that is not even possible in the frame of a novel, and i can tell you first hand it does happen.

7 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

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4 upvotesHumankeg5 years ago

The times I have heard "just something about you; hate you are an asshole but... xxxx".

Delusion is my friend.

0 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

They're raped when that happens shitlord

6 upvotesexit_sandman5 years ago

As for the nice guy, he is passionate and passive, if anything goes wrong with him it will be her fault, because she in a sense has to take the initiative.

Yeah, that's probably it - the nice guy means accepting responsibility.

He's more likely to be the one who won't give you a reason to break up (responsibility if things go south), he's more likely to leave every decision to her (responsibility for her present actions), he's also more likely to be intimidated by preexisting sexual experience (responsibility for her past actions).

8 upvotesSolonzzo5 years ago

Exactly, and you can add that the bad boy, or should a I say "bed boy?" is perceived as more authentic and honest since he puts his raw masculine nature upfront instead of a facade of friendliness like the nice guy would.

According to this thought, it will always be the male responsibility for the relationship to work . It has to be, since the female is the passive polarity. So even if the bad boy don't always get the girls he wants , at least he will always be respected as a man for trying, he will never be seen as less of a man. While the nice guy.. well, he is not the kind of "man" who would try to bed his girlfriends, after all he is too nice for that, see? Niceness is a polite way to call the female dual characteristics of vulnerability/weakness, nice is not a characteristic of a man. And here lies the problem, sexual relationships have nothing to do with comfort, they are based on arousal, or in other words, tension. Any perceived "niceness" is a put off, as it intended to build comfort rather than that healthy tension called arousal.

If you're a boy, you shalt not play nice. Leave the niceness facade where it belongs, with the girls, and they will love you for letting them play their favorite role, the nice little pricess who always falls for the troubled jerk.

3 upvotesexit_sandman5 years ago

is perceived as more authentic and honest since he puts his raw masculine nature upfront instead of a facade of friendliness like the nice guy would.

You're falling for the same fallacy as feminists, i.e. believing that the guys' niceness isn't genuine. However, odds are that they're not using "beta game" because they're vindictive or intentionally misleading, but because that's how they're wired and it comes more naturally to them than standard alpha game: they're playing nice because they actually are that way and because they feel compelled to treat their prospective love interest especially friendly and be supportive and helpful towards her. Of course, they'd probably behave differently if they knew that it doesn't get them anywhere, but it would be a more of an act to them.

14 upvotesdallz_beep5 years ago

Imagine taking a girl behind a dumpster. You pull down her pants, turn her around, bend her over, put your dick in, dump a load in her, then carelessly shove her to the ground and leave her there, just walking away while her pants are around her ankles and cum is leaking out and she's all cut up on the gravel she landed on.

That's essentially what's happening to nice guys. They get bent over and fucked, female style. They are simply used by women. It's the female version of being used as a bitch.

Yet, society conditions us from birth to accept this as normal. It's almost as if the whole thing is a scam... an illusion... some sort of... Matrix.

4 upvotesA_White_Male_LOL5 years ago

I find this a bit extreme. How do girls abuse nice guys to this extent? Not marry them the instant you open a door for them?

2 upvotesLukesLikeIt5 years ago

He talking about the women that act like they're interested, lead a guy along until his emotional investment isn't worth the attention or whatever else they get from him and then dump him. Men do they same of course however in many of those situations both parties physical needs are (at least) met, while with a beta guy its all a one way street.

1 upvotesJazzerciseMaster5 years ago

Yeah. A little over the top here.

3 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

We will know women have no work ethic.

1 upvotesoldredder5 years ago

I think honestly women really want men to initiate so any blame subconsciously, emotionally, is on him. She has the power to reject his moves (at any stage of escalation), giving her a sense of emotional security. She has the opportunity to be (approvingly) overwhelmed, feeding her fantasy-need to be desired in a way she feels is powerful. She wants to be surprised, to feel the whole thing is interesting & if she initiates/plans everything it's all on her & she'll get bored and/or won't even have the creativity (depending) to make initiating flirting, sex, hookup places just enough fun.

When you think about it, really, male approach anxiety is irrational. Women want & need men to approach for reasons that aren't just selfish. It makes everything better for her & that means she'll make it better for him when she's DTF. Take the risk because you're doing yourself and her a favour at the same time.

That being said I think there's multiple levels of "nice guy". There's the supplicating ass who has no desire to be of real value & is just faking it best way he can. Then there's the increasingly brainwashed, woman-only-raised, lied-to, fully-in-the-Matrix male who would be just fine on instinct if he hadn't been lied to constantly from birth about what women want, lied to by feminists. For that "nice guy" I think there's a lot more opportunity, a lot less struggle to get things right.

13 upvotesKilligraphy5 years ago

It's a bit short sited but I see what its getting at. Ultimately, you have to act like you don't want pussy to get pussy. Nice guys think "courting" still works...it doesn't, your job is to either get her drunk or get her interested enough to want to know more. Funny enough being upfront has hindered not helped, a man get laid.

Nice guys put all their cards on the table, and they're cordial about it...forgetting that trying to hook up is a long game of texas hold'em.

The problem with the quote, is that people love sluts, give a guy a loose slimmy at any situation and he's going to crush that pussy with zero problems. The rephrasing should be; No one wants to marry a slut.

1 upvotesprocrasturbationst5 years ago

When I like a girl, I tell her in no uncertain terms: "Hey, I like you and I'm attracted to you." Something like that.

A few years ago, I went on a few dates with someone who, for whatever reason, saw me as a "nice guy" – no real romantic interest in me, but enjoyed my company. Taking this approach, I wasted no more romantic time on her.

Trying to figure out clues would have been impossible – I still don't know whether she wanted to fuck me when she invited me over after we had been drinking on a night out (I had showed up with two other girls who I had to take home, so I declined), and I really don't care.

Instead, I had a clear answer ("not interested") and tossed her hook right back into her boat. Only wasted 2 or 3 weeks pursuing that. In retrospect, I'm really glad that panned out the way it did – her insecurities would have made me insane and I would've dumped her. Props to her now boyfriend (who's actually a really awesome guy). And we're still friends – she's just kept at arm's length.

Point is that if your goal is something more than meaningless hookups, you may be better served by just being honest about your feelings, instead of "you have to act like you don't want pussy to get pussy." Girls love that shit. Though, I guess if meaningless hookups are all you want, then you'll probably need to be coy bordering on douche.

1 upvotesKilligraphy5 years ago

Unfortunately, women will hamster regardless of a one night hook up or a long lasting relationship. It's a dreaded game of "find out what I'm thinking" till you're both dead...one of the many reasons marriage fails, and why people get divorced. Women, regardless of who they're with, will always have something to hide, and will always provide shit tests.

I'd like to believe that all women aren't like that...then again I'm not in a utopia where everyone lives forever and there's no crime. The truth is a sad one, manipulation is key in every relationship.

1 upvotesprocrasturbationst5 years ago

It's a dreaded game of "find out what I'm thinking" till you're both dead

My ex was like that. That was a big part of the reason I was terribly unhappy in the relationship – if your happiness depends on me being good at guessing what you want from me, you're in for a pretty miserable time (and you'll make me miserable in the process).

They aren't all like that, though. My present girlfriend doesn't do this.

As for shit tests, everybody does "shit tests." Men and women. I did, without even realizing what I was doing or why I was doing it. It was just "well, my needs and thoughts come first! always!" Now I realize that I behaved that way because I need an assertive woman with strong boundaries – if you let me walk all over you my attraction will fade. There's probably a reason for this. Over time, though, both my girlfriend and I have grown to trust and respect each other. Our boundaries have made each other stronger, better, kinder people.

Nobody worth dating does that shit intentionally; it's just a process of figuring out how to understand your own needs and communicate respectfully with each other, and it's fucking hard.

1 upvotesoldredder5 years ago

Depends. Now and then the guy astutely looks at his hand like it's maybe good, maybe not, turns one card around to face her & on it is written "back room. Let's fuck. Now" followed by smirk. Game's won then :)

0 upvotesthe_optiomal5 years ago

Oh, courting works alright. Courting alone is not enough though

42 upvotesDreadnark5 years ago

The more abundant something is, the less demand there is for it. This applies to almost everything in life.

The problem with this generation is that we're being raised not to have a fucking damn sliver of self respect and a sense of well being. We wouldn't even need the red pill if guys treated themselves half as well as they treated women.

12 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

The self-respect has been replaced with narcissism, or at the very least, egocentrism.

0 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

Rather the value decreases. Demand will not change.

1 upvotesThePrince_5 years ago

I think from an economic standpoint, if you consider women a luxury good - then yes, it would.

2 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

Not just an economic standpoint. Masses of horny attractive women would not result in less chicks getting fucked.

17 upvoteswhatsazipper5 years ago

The nice guy is unattractive because it's not something women are attracted to. They don't care for nice. They want push/pull. They want to be teased. They want someone to take the lead. They want boundaries, and want them to be enforced.

A guy who gives attractive behavior to numerous women, can bang them all, and then use the pre-selection to sleep with many more. So no, nice is not analgous to slut. It's analogous to being a landwhale.

13 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

Being "nice" is a bare minimum requirement for a partner or even just being friends with someone. It's like passing an exam with a D+, sadly a lot of my generation (20-25) have that "everyone gets a trophy" mentality. These "nice guys" who have no balls whatsoever, poor diet + health, no career prospects, no talents, NOTHING. think they deserve a hot girlfriend just because they're "nice". Then when they don't get what they want they spout off on how all women are sluts and shit like that when they're jealous they're not the one fucking them.

Dude, are you gonna fuck that land whale who has a boring personality, no sense of fashion, no goals or aspirations etc? Because she's the female equivalent of YOU at the moment. You see what I'm saying? You don't want to settle for that!

To be frank, they're "player-haters".

I'm sorry, but I don't blame hot girls at all for not wanting to fuck your cheeto-eating fedora-tipping ass. If someone offers you a choice of one car or the other for free, and your options are a 2014 Lambo or a 1991 honda accord... What are you going to go for? Get motivated, and build your personality up to that metaphorical 2014 Lambo and you won't have to worry about a thing with women.

10 upvotesexit_sandman5 years ago

No, the problem is that excessive niceness in itself is an anti-quality regardless of all other traits. Being ok-looking, doing well at college and having a stable, reasonably well-paid job don't help you if you're a nice doormat; but will be a huge bonus if you're assertive.

2 upvotesprocrasturbationst5 years ago

Well I really can't afford the insurance on the metaphorical Lambo. Bring me the accord!

5 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

In the words of the great Patrice O'neal: "You are a Time Ho".

You are a Time Ho. You are a Time Ho. YOU ARE A TIME HO. You give your time away so cheaply to anyone who gives you any attention. You're a ho and women use and abuse you like men do sluts.

You're a Ho. You're a Ho. You are a fucking ho.

26 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

But this isn't true.

Girls don't want the nice guy because the "nice guy" thing has nothing to do with niceness and everything to do with being submissive and not assertive. Girls want a leader usually.

But the slut. Lots of guys want the slut. I actually prefer slutty girls because they are way more fun even when you aren't having sex. They're just more adventurous. But many people still cling to older more puritanical views about sex.

28 upvotesjoncho5 years ago

This has been said here a lot, women are the gatekeepers of sex, men of commitment. Most guys want to fuck a slut, but not commit to her, so she is falling. Same with the 'nice guy' but switched because he is off the oposit gender.

-5 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

Except that this is a false duality. This is what the brainwashing of society wants the situation to be.

But sans puritanial christian bullshit humans, in their natural habitat, never commit. Marriage doesn't exist. People live in polyamorous communities and the kids are raised mostly by the women, but everyone is provided for by the men, who work together for food. Nobody gives a fuck who's kid is who's, because the kids still need to be raised well regardless of who's they are.

Of course, the alphas in the situation get laid a lot more, but that's not the alpha's problem.

8 upvotesjoncho5 years ago

Marriage exists before Christianity. But regardless I'm not sold at all on the sociologist theories about communal living. If those were so great they would be prevalent today. There has to be a good reason why they did not develop. If they even existed more than anecdotically. Sociologists are highly ideological.

6 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

They're closer to proven fact than baseless theories from the records we have. But what you are saying has a logical hole. You are saying that if they were better then we would have them now, that's not necessarily true. Sociological norms don't work the same way that darwinian biological evolution does. Sociological norms have a lot more to do with how the alphas of society decide to shape it than it does with what is objectively better.

Marriage can be a very useful tool for society because it is a more fundamentally simple form of organization than communitarian forms. Therefore it is easier in a disorganized system with people who don't know shit to use it to build a society. But that doesn't mean it is the most ideal situation for an individual's happiness. Case in point? Marriage causes depression

The same is true for capitalism. Capitalism is very useful because by being highly individualistic it is very easy to assure the growth of society as a whole. But the same thing that makes capitalism a good system when you have no central controls is the same thing that makes capitalism a really shitty situation for personal happiness. It causes individuals to alienate themselves from one another and to be extremely selfish and mistrustful. It causes them to place all of their motivation and happiness in getting more money, instead of in developing a good community around them.

Things are more complicated. Things like marriage and individualism were useful for bringing about the technological evolution, but if we want to become happier as individuals it is time to use that technology and philosophy to try to figure out how to structure things in the way that will create the most individual happiness.

And I can tell you right now, from my experience, the experiences of many people I know, and from science: Marriages don't last because marriage is a system that goes against mankind's natural instincts. We need to either genetically modify those instincts, or align ourselves closer to them. That or deal with the crazy bullshit drama, anger, and depression that marriage creates.

2 upvotesjoncho5 years ago

Thanks for confirming that sociology is highly ideological and low on science so it's not too be trusted.

1 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

It is, but what we know about how societies worked in the past isn't sociology. It's just history. It's based on writings and records that we find.

The difference is that with sociology you have someone taking an incredibly complex system and doing an overly simplistic experiment with no control group.

But with the history stuff what we have is the equivalent of some greek farmer's journal talking about how at last weeks congregation of the sacred feminine he and his buddy banged four chicks but two weeks before three of those girls banged his neighbor joe instead.

It's just historical accounts, not sociology. And it's fact, not theory, because we have the records and we can date them using scientifically proven methods of dating shit.

6 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

Same page here. Hanging out with sluts and doing shit is usually pretty fun cause they're not too uptight or boring. Plus you can fuck without it "leading to something".

That being said, I would never commit to a slutty girl. Been there done that. No thank you.

I guess that makes me no different from the girl who banged the bad boy who cheated on her, now she wants a nice guy.. But deep down she still wants to fuck that bad boy.

Like everyone else, I'm just another person who wants what they can't really have (or haven't found yet). An adventurous badass woman who fucks like some BPD psycho with the morals and personality of a good girl.

2 upvotesprocrasturbationst5 years ago

An adventurous badass woman who fucks like some BPD psycho with the morals and personality of a good girl.

Hold out hope. I have that, and she's awesome. And her family, with whom she has a great relationship, is also awesome.

Just screen out the people that have families you wouldn't want to marry into, and then from that pool find the fun exciting ones.

1 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

What you need is not a good girl. You just need a fun girl who is ready to settle down.

Or, you could be true to your human biology and just have an open relationship when you do settle down.

0 upvotesoldredder5 years ago

That's flat out against my biology. Open relationships are poison to me. It's one thing to be fucking with no exclusivity, it's another to claim emotional bonding of a boyfriend-girlfriend type or marriage-type. That's a pair-bond & there's no room for a 3rd. Ever.

My core truest human biology is if I'm committed in a pair-bonding relationship I'll stab the guy who gets in the way of that. Period.

No 3rd, not ever, never open.

Don't get me wrong, I've learned a lot here & I might just leave it as a sting & if she gave in to him, buy him a beer for helping me see the light, cut her to the curb, and then move on. But the pair-bond relationship is the only emotional goal of actually having an emotional relationship. I can be realistic & say "Women will not so I won't seek the impossible. Sex-only it is". That's fine by me. That's me relating to real terms of life & picking my path.

I'm not going to fall for the stupidity of loving a woman who claims to love me and her other boyfriend equally. That's nonsense bullshit & it doesn't belong in my life. It's so wrong it's like stealing food off my plate.

1 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

I don't think you understand how biology works

1 upvotesoldredder5 years ago

I do very much indeed.

I think you like to tell people they don't understand when you know very well my understanding is robust. If I am committed to a woman & expect it of her I have an immediate violent need to do harm to a man who interferes with that. No words can describe it: it's as natural as breathing. He interferes, I snap his arm. Just like that. No hesitation. It's normal biological activity for a male. Males of many mammal species are just like this.

You know this. You are in verbal denial but your own mind knows you've seen this and felt it.

My solution to the chain-reaction of problems that will result is that I refuse to commit. Men will interfere, women will invite it because they have no loyalty and I will be smart enough to avoid the conditions that force me to violence as per the required hormonal reactions of male human biology.

0 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

Again, you clearly don't understand how biology works. You also clearly don't even understand your own psychology.

Go see a therapist. Trust me. I'm not being mean btw, I see a therapist too. It's not bad to admit you don't know what you're talking about. It's good. Keeping yourself in a state of knowing that you know nothing is how you truly learn and become wise.

7 upvoteslemonparty5 years ago

Huh? Analogy still holds. Girls want the beta orbiter / nice guy when they need a shoulder to cry on. Guys want the slut when they want fun.

Girls don't want the nice guy for anything else, guys don't want the slut for a wife/mother of his children.

-10 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

You're not understanding. I would rather marry a slut. I don't want anything to do with judgemental boring good girls.

You're still just bought into the idea that sexual promiscuity is inversely correlated to responsibility and maturity. That's not the case in the real world, they are independent variables.

Girls don't like nice guys because nice guys are losers. It's not a societal brainwashing thing, they really are losers, objectively. But sluts are just on the wrong side of a lot of puritanical brainwashing and jealousy.

10 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

You need to read more. This sub is objective on the reality of relationships and there have been numerous studies that would tell you marrying a girl with a high partner count is the worst thing you could do. Like 90% unhappy marriages and high rate of infidelity. If you don't want to look into it go ahead and find out for yourself.

-3 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

I've been reading this sub for like 4 years dude.

You guys put way too much stock in studies and too little stock in your own real world experience. Sociological studies are bullshit by definition because it's impossible to account for all of the variables.

7 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

Like I said go ahead and find out for yourself.

-2 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

Again, I have. I've been around the block more than half of this sub combined. That's exactly why I have the opinions I do.

1 upvotesphaed5 years ago

This is either a rationalization you just made up to be "not-wrong" or a pretty dumb thing to say, you cannot discount all sociological studies in the way you just did and then pretend you are having a rational argument.

1 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

You can. You can because science does. In order to have a scientific test you have to be able to isolate variables. You can't do that with sociological experiments, so they experiments never render data that is accurate. We have the same problem with economics. It doesn't mean that you can't come to conclusions about sociology, it just means that you can't use the same kinds of studies you would to test whether a drug worked, for example.

0 upvotesoldredder5 years ago

My real-world experience matches the studies. High partner count=low ability to bond emotionally or to be trusted. Betrayal is inevitable. It's a waste of time, maybe even years, to go that path. Total waste.

2 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

I completely agree with you about your first point. It's not about being nice, but all about being the benevolent yet firm leader in the relationship.

As for wanting sluts, yes we all want to bang sluts, but we don't want them for anything other than sex. I think that's what the quote is referring to. And I learned a long time ago not to equate sluttiness with better sex. Some of the biggest hoes I've been with were dead-fish in bed.

3 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

Your misundersanding. I am saying that sluttiness has nothing to do with maturity or responsibility or fun in bed.

Because of how our society works a lot of those variables occur in the same place, but that's just because of societal brainwashing. Girls get the fun girl beat out of them by a judgemental society, and the fun girls get sucked up to by all the losers so their personalities are not always as great.

But not everyone is controlled by that. It's possible to find a fun girl who is also mature and who is a hard worker.

1 upvotesReflektorFilm5 years ago

Ding Ding Ding. Person actually living in reality here. ^ You guys keep enjoying your woman bashing Matrix.

6 upvoteskorewarp5 years ago

I was waiting for a reply like this. I agree - I'd totally want a slut. But women do not want nice guys at all.

Don't get me wrong, being a nice guy = No fucking way josé. But you can't say that 'Nice guy' = 'Slut'. Simply can't. Men still want sluts.

29 upvotesjmottram085 years ago

Men still want sluts.

Men want sexual slut females.

Women want emotional slut males... because they give them what they want, commitment, for free.

You are forgetting that the currency isn't the same. Men want sex, women want commitment. Being a slut is giving whichever away for free.

Women love having betas around. They can use them for whatever they want. They get the commitment without giving the sex.... or put another way, the "slut" beta male gives away the commitment without getting the sex, much like the female slut gives the sex without getting the commitment.

3 upvotes • [deleted] • 5 years ago

And that my friends is the male equivalent of a slut. As the slut gives every guy what she is the gatekeeper of (sex), so to does the beta orbiter give what he is gate keeper of (commitment) to every girl he sees.

4 upvotesanonlymouse5 years ago

It certainly won't make her feel special if he treats everyone as well as he treats her.

2 upvotesWesleykin5 years ago

Good quote. Immediately made sense.

2 upvotesTheEntgineer5 years ago

Thank you for not writing a book about something that only needed to be said in one line. Good on you dude.

7 upvotesmobilus5 years ago

She rejects him because she knows he's been socially engineered and is not in his natural state.

16 upvotesitsarusko5 years ago

Literally every existing person in this earth is socially engineered. This is how humans learn. Even the smallest tribe in Africa socially engineers their members. You are socially engineered by this sub

1 upvotespowder15 years ago

Wow I never thought of it like that. Good point.

1 upvotesTigersMaw5 years ago

Agreed. The nice guy, like a slut, is a leach .. latching onto any girl that will give him the light of day. His neediness eliminates any chance he had.

-1 upvotesJulkKash5 years ago

I feel like this is befitting, http://youtu.be/p37_Ux1G_BI

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