Not my marriage of course - I don't want to get married especially after hearing about this situation. It's between the parents of a girl I've been dating for almost a year.
They have been married for over three decades. Conservative, traditional, Catholic family. They have four kids together. The father is a hardworking, respectable man; he literally built their house.
Recently the mother admitted that she has been cheating with another guy for a few years. The father handled everything very well; remained stoic, decided not to hold a grudge, and let her take as much time as she needed to get her shit together.
She eventually moved out of the family's house and in with her boyfriend. Now they're going through divorce proceedings, and it's as bad as TRPers claim. She wants money for half of the family's property (worth about $400k, so she would get ~ $200k). Plus she wants a portion of the father's retirement, which would cost a massive fee because he is not retirement age yet. Apparently she suggested that if the father cannot afford to pay up, he could "work it off."
Fucked up on so many levels. If there was any doubt in my mind before, I am now fully convinced that marriage is a sham.