My husband and I are in the process of rebuilding our relationship. It’s been a rocky, stressful 18 months or so. Outside of buying our house 2 years ago nothing significant has happened that cause where we are - just life, really.
So today is a good example of where I need to shut my mouth because I “go off of my paper” and end up disrespecting my husband...
I was making breakfast as he was getting ready to leave for work. The dog was in the kitchen (on a leash... she is in the process of being housebroken still). My husband was getting snippy because the dog was jumping on his legs. He walked out to the other room and he asked if I would give him a kiss. I said,” she can still get you there”. He replied that he knew and he felt like I was calling him stupid in a way. I could have just stopped there and said “sorry” or just given him a kiss and sent him on his way. But nooo I needed to be right. I had to get snippy and say “well you were all flipping out over the dog” among other things. At which point he turned around (without a kiss) and left.
So replaying it - I can see where him getting annoyed by the dog is “his paper” and I didn’t need to concern myself at all. And I just should have given him the stinking kiss and not said a word.
I feel like I just spit these things out and I’m so frustrated because it doesn’t help our marriage at all and even pushes my husband away (which isn’t my goal).
How the heck do I remember how to shut up?!
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