What made you think differently?

xxtokyoxx7 · 2019-02-09T20:59:11+00:00

No, I never used to be like this. It wasn't until the age of around 20 that I started questioning things. The boyfriend I was dating at that time was thr complete opposite of redpill. After a while of dating him I just was miserable. He was very anti kids, lazy, had this very anything goes mentality. He was extremely beta. He also always said I was way too emotional and got annoyed anytime I tried to discuss things with him. He just went with the flow with everything. To him if you ever voiced your opinion about anything that was crazy. Once we broke up though I started watching videos on youtube from people like Lauren Chen, Jordan Peterson (read his book 12 rules for life, highly recommend that), Brittany Pettibone, Georgia Free, etc. And slowly learned more and more about this whole redpill thinking. I implement alot of it into my daily life and am sooo much happier. I have a healthier relationship with my current bf now because of it.

pink_cherry · 2019-02-09T21:35:30+00:00

I have never been attracted to the current mainstream feminism. I didn’t know why. Finding this sub put into words what I have felt for a long time. It’s funny how despite not being attracted to feminism, absorbing their ideology was something I unconsciously did without knowing! So there are a lot of things I need to rethink, and re-evaluate.

Theflowerswillbloom · 2019-02-09T21:35:42+00:00

Honestly - growing up, I looked at my family and wanted something different. Nearly all of my family have been divorced, the women seemed miserable in charge, and the men seemed miserable being bossed around.

I had never heard of the 'red pill', but knew that I wanted a traditional marriage lead by my husband. My husband I met in our late teens, and have the relationship that I'd dreamed of.

BePrivateGirl · 2019-02-09T22:30:30+00:00

Congrats on your sobriety!

I’ve been at this for 7 years or so. I remember reading the men’s red pill and thinking that it was so true. I immediately could pull up examples in my head of people that I knew acting how they described, whether it was relating to game, being flirted with, people cheating/getting cheated on, being a victim, being too nice. I thought it was fascinating, and offensive, and hilarious all at once.

I’d been in a string of strange relationships, too immature, too nice, too shy. I just decided I wouldn’t commit to any of these boring people, I’d just kind of go my own way, only participate in relationships in a very superficial way, but at least be upfront about it.

I have long described myself as polyamorous, which made all these crazy relationship dynamics even more interesting to observe.

During this time I met, and began dating my boyfriend, so we both were absorbing the content of these subreddits and agreeing with most of the philosophy. I know I was a plate. We both knew. And it was fine.

But then all this time passed. And in my absorption of men’s red pill content about self improvement lead to its natural conclusion of both of us trying to be better people, complete people, who are interesting for more than just being “a couple” I started leaning in on the women’s red pill, doing some reading, etc. Interestingly enough, early in our relationship he asked me to dress femininely around him. At first it was fun to “dress up” but I ended up feeling really nice wearing skirts and dresses and started getting the positive attention from being more feminine very early on. I started experimenting with my own monogamy, trial and error at that, and now I am monogamous, and I’m not “a plate” anymore.

I’m still not fully on board with traditional marriage, but part of that is because I’m childfree. The red pill is a philosophy for me. It doesn’t address every single aspect of my entire life, but it has been a huge part of the last 7 years of my life. I’ve addressed my own issues with alcohol, I’m in the happiest relationship of my life and I often ask myself, how did I get here? But the truth is, it wasn’t an accident. I swallowed the pill and made purposeful decisions.

I want to get back to congratulating you again on taking a break from drinking. It’s a huge catalyst to launch you into so many positive things. I wish you peace and happiness and success. I can’t say enough about “This Naked Mind” if you haven’t already read it.

fourfivesix · 2019-02-09T20:59:15+00:00

Personally... I got really sick of the rhetoric from the far left here in the US surrounding the roles of women and men, and thought there must be a different way of looking at things. I’ve been a lot happier with my role as a wife and mother since thinking in a more RPW way.

Kara__El · 2019-02-09T21:19:00+00:00

I was 23 years old, newly divorced, and more than a hundred pounds overweight. My ex was a lazy sociopath with no goals or ambition. I knew something had to change. I found this strange school of thought online and read The Red Pill Room the way someone might stare at a car wreck as they drive past. It didn't seem for me, because TRP was developed for and catered to men, but I couldn't deny that there was some wisdom in it and I took some of the advice to heart.

I started wearing makeup and dresses. I lost 110 pounds. My whole life turned around and then I found RPW, which had a similar bent, but was substantially more palatable. I don't always agree with it, but the traditional perspective is refreshing.

Yvarle · 2019-02-09T23:57:11+00:00

I grew up in Canada with a stay at home Mom (Dad worked full-time) who told me I could be what ever I wanted if I worked hard enough. I grew up and decided I wanted to give my kids the same kind of phenomenal childhood that I had. It seemed natural to me that if I could choose to be anything I wanted; why couldn't I choose to be a SAHM? As I grew up I learned to keep my ambitions to myself though my parents have always been supportive and just want me to be happy. My personality is the kind that I enjoy taking care of others so keeping a home came naturally to me. Current political ideologies? I could never get behind any movement that hates men or labels everyone but white men 'victims'. I love my Dad, Brother, Uncles, Cousins, friends and now my husband.

Critical_Stress · 2019-02-10T02:18:49+00:00

Funny you mention politics, that's pretty much what did me in, this war against SAHMs and femininity. I've always been a tomboy and ever since I met my husband I feel such an urge to try to be more feminine. I want to have a large family and I have had many people, including my family, vocalize their thoughts on that.

silvernikki · 2019-02-09T23:48:07+00:00

I have always been pretty red pilled about relationships. My mom and dad had a perfect (to my 6-year-old eyes) relationship. She had a high-powered job, but quit to raise me and take care of the house. He continued to work to support us, and they ADORED each other. When he died, their marriage became the pinnacle of all romantic relationships to me.

So I've never been interested in casual dating, or sleeping around a la Sex and the City, or being a woman who orders her man around all day. I spent a lot of my life telling myself I didn't want to date, but I think that even then I knew that I'd probably end up getting married one day. And that I'd want a traditional marriage. Feels good to finally admit it to myself.

i_love_puppies12 · 2019-02-10T00:32:37+00:00

Growing up, I definitely wanted to have a very traditional family and relationship because my parents raised us that way. My parents are super religious and were raised in Mexico where things are still more conservative than they are here in the U.S. When I was in like middle and high school, though, my friends and teachers kept emphasizing the importance of having an education, being independent, developing a career, and all that stuff. Because of this and my lack of a boyfriend, I decided I didn't need a man; all I needed was a career working in a lab and a home filled with dogs because I had also decided that kids were not for me.

I managed to get a boyfriend in the beginning of college, however. We started talking about our futures. My aunt had a baby and I realized how cute they are and I might've developed some baby fever. I've started talking to my boyfriend about how we would want to raise our kids. We're already looking forward to living our lives together in a couple years. We know that once we get married and have kids, I'll be a SAHM. He's totally on board with that.

We moved in together this year for college and I learned I also like cooking and having a clean place and my boyfriend is really happy with the overall structure. I know that stuff can happen but even if things don't work out with my boyfriend for some reason, I would still like to pursue a similar relationship structure.

EliteBodSquad · 2019-02-10T10:22:19+00:00

I’ve watched my friends lead blue pill lives full of promiscuity, liberalism and man hating. I saw the result of those decisions (stress, pain, depression, anxiety). I’ve read the results of numerous peer reviewed studies into marriage longevity, the benefits of chastity etc. in short it’s all very red pill.

Before I came to a conclusion about the above and what I needed, I was close to marrying a beta guy. Despite him being nice, I wasn’t happy couldn’t quite understand why. Eventually when I thought about our future i felt I would forever have to be keeping him in check when I wanted him to lead.

I choose to live my life red pilled now and have vetted carefully to find the man I’m currently with. I am truly reaping the benefits of a red pilled relationship with my current partner, neither of us have been happier :)

lensneko · 2019-02-09T22:30:47+00:00

During middle school, I turned to SJW ideology to cope with my social isolation from my peers. I parroted those ideals yet questioned them. For a while, I was a fence sitter on social and political issues until about 2016.

I at first believed that progressives were very tolerant. But then, in 2016, progressives were beginning to show their true hateful nature. They said they supported gender equality but hated on men. They said no one should regulate a woman's life decisions yet shame traditional women. The list of their hypocrisy is almost endless.

After Trump was elected, I saw videos of anti-Trumpers crying about the results of a fair election and attacking conservatives. I thought they were the most tolerant people in the world. Why are they attacking conservatives?

I eventually discovered the intellectual dark web, consisting of red pill thinkers like Ben Shapiro, JBP, Lauren Southern, ladies at RPW, etc. At that point, I found that I was a conservative libertarian all along.

I have found that my application of conservative ideals such as hard work and gender roles in my life has given me motivation to reach my greatest potential and enhanced my relationship. I've never been this happy before :D

That's just a story on for why I'm a conservative libertarian.

ObedientLittleWife · 2019-02-09T22:37:20+00:00

I always wanted a dominant man to lead me, it was very natural to me.

ANIKAHirsch · 2019-02-10T00:26:12+00:00

Jordan Peterson's lectures did this for me. His talk about masculine and feminine hierarchies really opened my mind to some of the realties of male/female relationships.

His big-5 personality trait theory is really interesting as well in the differences that it shows between men and women.

organicsunshine · 2019-02-10T00:32:24+00:00

Understanding what went wrong in my 20 year relationship and 15 yr marriage ending in divorce woke me up. When your man lays down for any circumstance and gives up, you have to stand up and run the family. The why doesn't matter, the fact is, it doesn't work. I never wanted to make that mistake again. I felt lied to. I choose poorly. Not again.

[deleted] · 2019-02-10T01:40:41+00:00

I like traditional feminine stuff and like when men take the lead. Always have been like this.

MissNietzsche · 2019-02-09T22:49:36+00:00

I was 18. I was suicidal. Was introduced to red pill by someone I met online, and I was hooked from the beginning because I'm naturally submissive and it made so much sense to me. It was at the same time I discovered Conservatism as well because the arguments from the right were much more rational than the arguments from the left. RPW and my newfound political views kind of just went hand-in-hand. All blue pill and liberalism brought me was depression. The right and red pill have helped create me into a much more dignified woman (though I still have lots of work left).

lieutenantdonut · 2019-02-10T01:01:25+00:00

Always been this way.

Tarathorne · 2019-02-10T14:48:36+00:00

Growing up until the age of 10 my family was very traditional. My dad worked, and worked hard. My mom was a SAHM and it seemed the right thing. Unfortunately, I feel like that was about the time the feminists started up once more and my mom was reading those magazines with all kinds of feminist propaganda. She divorced my dad for the weirdest reasons and tried to bring me up in feminist ways too. I always thought it felt weird, but everyone else was doing it too.. so.. I’m probably the weird one for thinking differently right? For wanting to be a mom and not caring much about high education or making a career.. it made me feel really out of place and insecure trying to go along with the feminist fad. Dressing boyishly and all that. I was a total punk short hair feminst combo in my teens!

I was dating a very beta male for 8 years and we weren’t doing so well. In our darkest hours I stumbled upon TRP and RPW and everything clicked. I ended up breaking up with this guy. But I’ve never felt more in tune with myself than I do now. I dress and act exactly how my soul wants me to instead of how society tells women is right. I love it!

Through this I also met the most amazing man ever who is truly a captain and I couldn’t be happier

So I guess you could say it’s always been inside of me, but because of society it didn’t really get a good outlet until now :)

trumpolina · 2019-02-10T08:00:10+00:00

I am sorry you had to go through such an experience to get to this point <3

For me it was when my stepdad came into my life.
He is a wonderful man who went through a terrible, terrible marriage with a borderline woman that ruined his life.
Up until that point, due to my experiences with my father, who is a narcissist, and other not-so-great men, I always looked at women as victims. It bears mentioning that I was 22 when things started to change. Being surrounded by women who never took responsibility for their actions and situations helped worsen my view of the world. I looked up feminism on YT.

I first stumbled upon a video of TJ (The Amazing Atheist), who I had followed for years, talking about not being a feminist and remember thinking "He is not anti-woman, is he?". Then, as ridiculous as it is, I started watching the "Rekt feminist videos" since some were funny, then came across The Red Pill documentary and when searching on Reddit about it, found the TRP sub, which helped me realize some of the behaviors of myself and women around me, who did (and do) often behave like toddlers and victimize themselves to the point where it borders on brainwashing.
And that brought me here.

It's been nearly 3 years now since that "discovery", I've lost friends over it as ridiculous as that may sound.

Besides, I have a brother whom I love deeply and I couldn't imagine him being used and abused by women under the guise of being a "gentleman" as the women around us would always remind him.
I have eased him into Red Pill also. He was naturally that way, despite being 14 at the time, as he borders on MGTOW, which I fully support if that's what he decides for himself.

putinista · 2019-02-11T01:40:59+00:00

I have always been conservative but seeing the radical feminazis during the trump era pushed me over.

Thus, thinking big picture, I see how feminism has damaged women. Having a woman running household while the man makes money benefits all of society. Feminists are usually fat, at least bicurious, and never get laid by their captain because they hate themselves.

Title	What made you think differently?
Author	revengeofthesweets
Upvotes	52
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Date	February 9, 2019 8:40 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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