"I like you because you make me feel good"

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February 2, 2019

After having sex with a plate of mine, the oxytocin and dopamine rush made her tell me that she really likes me. "Really really really" likes me.

"Oh yeah?", I asked acting surprised, "Why is that?".

"I like you because...", she made a pause to think about the reasons. Finally she listed them:

  • I like you because you made me a good breakfast.
  • I like you because I sleep really well when you're next to me.
  • I like you because you make me feel safe.
  • I like you because you fuck me really well.

Fun fact: On multiple occasions I saw spicy text notifications on her phone from a guy named Raphael. AWALT, but that's not the point of this post.

Before TRP I would be head over heels, because a girl appreciated my efforts! See, there are so many reasons why I earned her appreciation! So obviously the more I please her, the more she's gonna like me!

However after learning about TRP, here's what I actually heard:

"I like you because you make me feel good".

She didn't mention my character traits, my passions, my actions directed to anything expect herself. She likes me, because I make her feel good. Soon, I will become familiar and thus giving her less intense emotions. My turn will end.

The more I will try to please her to gain her affection, the less she's gonna like me. That's how it works. Thank you TRP for helping me recognize that.

Stay safe, brothers.

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Title "I like you because you make me feel good"
Author BlueEstee
Upvotes 816
Comments 118
Date 02 February 2019 08:56 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit TheRedPill
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/218343
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/amiawz/i_like_you_because_you_make_me_feel_good/
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[–]graceful_aggression170 points171 points  (2 children) | Copy

A good reminder that TRP allows a more conscious awareness of common AWALT behavior; over time, occurrences such as these becomes less of a surprise, and you gradually build amused mastery.

[–]dirty_ja_galis335 points336 points  (25 children) | Copy

Yep. She likes you because you validate her.

You validate her simply by being a great catch and she being the lucky girl to suck your dick.

Continue being a great catch.

[–]dev_blockchain_ai53 points54 points  (23 children) | Copy

Yeh dude her reasons for liking YOU were literally nothing about you

But honestly those are the best you’re gonna get from a woman in the modern world for now. Only guys can respect your skills and hobbies and character traits about YOU and how they make you self sufficient

Evolutionarily she’s in love with you precisely because she knows you can knock her up and give her babies and they’d eat well, sleep well, and feel comfortable and low drama around you. So in a way you got the highest compliment possible women are capable of. :/

They just can’t do better. IF you decide to lock this down just warning about Raphael. You better make sure that isn’t going on 100%. Or you’re just gonna get cucked.

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (20 children) | Copy

I don't think you understand, bud. The thing is, she isn't LTR worthy. Go read the studies of what happens to most women after around the 3 or 4 year mark in relationships. Attraction plummets. So really, optimally, you should at most be looking for an MTR that you switch up every now and then before it sizzles out...

[–]dev_blockchain_ai31 points32 points  (11 children) | Copy

Well I wouldn’t touch her if she’s had too many past ex’s

I married a virgin (first wife was not a virgin and it got me to trp and I figured shit out) and have kids now because I don’t want the entire globe to be Turkmenistan or Zimbabwe in 30 years but if an orgasm with a banging chick keeps the dopamine flowing more power to you. I get more dopamine knowing my genes will live on forever. Dunno why. Also fortunately my wife still asks regularly for sex even at the 8 year mark (of us fucking not how long we’ve been married) and even complains I don’t have sex ENOUGH with her. Also AWALT still applies big league.. this is why I spend a ton of time in the garage building shit, at the gym, or with kids or literally fucking other women :(. If I didn’t I know she’d already be sick of my ass.

End of blog

[–]Scorchyy8 points9 points  (7 children) | Copy

So basically you cheat on your wife and admit it?

[–]dev_blockchain_ai-4 points-3 points  (6 children) | Copy

I have a life that would put you into a jealous rage

[–]FalconWrite9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh no. You were doing so well up until this

[–]Scorchyy2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Fuckin looser, those who say that are the most insecure and unhappy

[–]dev_blockchain_ai-3 points-2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I’ll show you how to use tinder if you apologize and watch my car so it won’t get towed

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[–]22oregon228 points9 points  (6 children) | Copy

My last relationship started to implode at around the 3 year mark. Less sex, blow jobs near non existent, GF lazy as hell, holding resentment about me pursuing a doctorate and not giving her enough time, etc. She broke up with me at around the 4.5 year mark because I was a bitch back then. Now she’s dating a more wealthy older guy because she is hot and can get away with whatever she wants.

Anyways, loved the write. Even though my example is anecdotal I see it all the time.

TRP changed my mode of thinking and quite frankly my life.


[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

Like I said man, don't take it personally. That's how women are wired. Wouldn't have mattered if you were Brad Pitt. Hell, look what happened to him...

[–]22oregon225 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

Absolutely. At 26, just starting my career, I’ll be that man in my mid to late thirties who is established financially with status and doing the same thing to guys like me at my age. Women can’t fight hypergamous inclinations— it’s biology.

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[–]22oregon221 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Haha well done my friend. At what city is this taking place in?

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[–]Incel98762 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go read the studies of what happens to most women after around the 3 or 4 year mark in relationships. Attraction plummets. So really, optimally

Women are meant to be getting pregnant on around a semi-annual basis. And if a man hasn't knocked her up after 3 or 4 years, then historically he was probably infertile and she should move on.

[–]mtriad3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree, except to the nowadays part. Women always been like this and it will always be, it is part of their nature and logically, I don't think there's anything wrong with it, just live with it.

[–]∞ Mod | RP Vanguardbsutansalt[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeh dude her reasons for liking YOU were literally nothing about you

The inverse is also true. So many times guys get wrapped around the axle because they got rejected, but in many instances it had no thing to even do with the guy. Could be anything from bad logistics, her dog just died, parents announced a divorce, whatever. My point is never take rejection personally.

A/B test your methodology and if you're getting consistent results and something of an outlier happens, you can lay even odds it wasn't something you did or didn't do.

[–]deterlaettis0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Am i the only one here who would feel rage to my stomach for hearing "her" spout nonsense like that. Reading it and internalizing it in my head just feels wrong to me, l just feel like saying some truth to her, give her some guidance, I embrace Patrice O'Neals wisdom in saying "guide the bitch" because it is what it is. AWALT and it's our job to make them housewives instead of hoes by giving them the proper mental stoic guidance. Do not sugarcoat nothing.

[–]syf3r68 points69 points  (2 children) | Copy

From Rian Stone, add "right now" at the end of positive statements...

I like you because you make me feel good right now.

[–]sebastianconcept7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly. Male mind wants to go timeless and her mind is deeply contextual and transient.

[–]MrAnderzon5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's the best response to this post

[–]Andgelyo118 points119 points  (4 children) | Copy

Underrated post here. This is a great reminder that women only like how you make them feel. Feels before reals. We must continue to shoot “feel good” bullets at them to succeed with women.

[–]bouncypoo0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

intermittently of course, as too much feel good leads to Mr. Nice guy aka Mr. Friendzone. As long as you make them feel something

[–]ChesterRickman0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I don't think he means the blue-pill idea of feel good bullets, rather the red pill ones, which involve red pill behaviours.

[–]Andgelyo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah I meant the drug inducing euphoria like bullets from us, not the fake, insincere bullshit blue pill subhumans pull

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[–]sebastianconcept5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

Link to that 2/3 golden rule?

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[–]sebastianconcept0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oh nice. Good to keep frame and for ongoing plates.

[–]nicktesoriero38 points39 points  (0 children) | Copy

Great post highlighting something many guys and myself used to not understand

[–]5Imperator_Red58 points59 points  (19 children) | Copy

I like you because I sleep really well when you're next to me. I like you because you make me feel safe. I like you because you fuck me really well.

Haha wow. Got these exact 3 from my LTR.

[–]rygy387 points88 points  (3 children) | Copy

Looks like you gotta step up your breakfast game

[–]dev_blockchain_ai6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

lol I’ve never once made breakfast for LTR, but she makes me crepes or eggs or oatmeal literally every morning. I made myself a giant bacon omelet several times and only offered her some when she sat next to me. guess I need to step up the breakfast game too :(

[–]Shtafoo8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Wow dude you actually transcended being a human being and are now a god in her eyes. Congratulations your life and omelette must be great.

[–]dev_blockchain_ai-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

My life is so good you’d go into a jealous rage if you saw it

Don’t worry I don’t visit here to argue w jealous ppl like you

I’m here to see how close we are to a full collapse of civilization

[–]redvelvet_oreo13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m in a LTR but still game other women for fun. Recently some young chick told me “I like you. Your like the cool guy from a TV show that says ‘come here dumb slut, go and do this’” (I didn’t call her dumb slut. I just a nick name I made up for her and started calling her it)

The stupid shit that attracts women. Gotta love it.

[–]hidemyface12344 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

She said them to every guy before you too

[–]FractalNerve2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Exactly the same 3 from my Ex.. Wow

[–]Gr0o0vy2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

you guys sure you were not banging the same girl lol?

[–]ethical_pa0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

Hmm... I will try asking my FB why she likes me.

[–]5Imperator_Red18 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

I've heard the sleeping better thing from multiple girls. It's probably a primal instinct. In prehistoric times they were actually safer if they were sleeping next to a man.

[–]Shako121 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Same. I wonder if there has been a study on this.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Better not bring it up, makes you look insecure.

[–]sebastianconcept2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m not sure about it. Depending on how you ask it can, but you could do it very securely and in a tone in which you subcomunicate that you know what works on you but you are either playfully testing her or curious about what in your arsenal worked on her. I ask this to every plate. For example I show the girl a bunch of my pictures and I ask which one likes more and why? They reveal a lot. And with Instagram, many times they take the initiative reacting with emojis of hearts eyes, kiss or fire

[–]ethical_pa1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nah. I can say whatever I want to her. Insecurity isn't in what you say it's in the place it's coming from. I'm fine.

[–]Flying_Wingback28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yup, I’ve heard the exact same things from a recent LTR but I think I finally arrived at that point of too much familiarity and a slight loss of frame this weekend. All that talk seems to be a thing of the past now and shit tests were off the charts just last night. Time to look for some new challenges.

[–]Lubomir199418 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

Underrated post. Simple but of eternal wisdom.

[–]JimiJons16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy

Always remember: Familiarity breeds contempt.

[–]TheTrenTrannyTrain36 points37 points  (5 children) | Copy

Women love opportunistically; they love you for WHAT you can do for her.

[–]Scorchyy-3 points-2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Men do too, if the girl wasn’t giving you sex you’d get rid of her

[–]toobass9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

Have you ever heard of an orbiter?

[–]Scorchyy-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah, the moon is an orbiter of earth

[–]Snowaey4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

and so are beta men around girls they are interested in

[–]Nov5160514 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

It doesn't get any more rational male than that. As real deal men, we have to be just as icy as we are seductive and passionate. This is prob the point where you wanna do a massive week long pull back / ghost just to stretch things out. seems like it would be good timing

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

I really really really like this post

[–]beachbbqlover10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

I unironically just texted my LTR something kind of similar because her parents are separating - telling her that her cooking and cleaning for me is actually just icing on the cake. That the big thing is intimacy, and I think we'll be alright.

Im not saying itll work for any of you, but for some reason she ate that up.

[–]oooKenshiooo24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep. Right on the money.

Hence, when vetting for LTR material, ask her what she likes about you. If has not figured out the positive sides of your character well enough to turn that into a compliment, she is no more than a plate.

[–]metallicdrama10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

In the end it's all about her. If you serve her needs you're still relevant. Women always resent you for having to be loyal when they're locked into marriage and family.

[–]redvelvet_oreo15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lol anytime a plate or LTR tells me this shit I just acknowledge it with yeah I know I’m awesome. Haha the irriational self confidence makes that pussy wet.

[–]5Imperator_Red2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

In earlier times irrational self confidence would get your head caved in by superior men, so a woman observing such self confidence could be reasonably certain that it was not irrational and he was a high quality male. Now there are no penalties for irrational self confidence. Their brains are tricked.

[–]redbearsociety7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

To be fair, you have complete control over how you make her feel. Girls get bored of guys because the guys stop engaging with them, they just think 'I have the woman part of my life ticked so I don't need to do anything now'. Trying to gain affection doesn't make her feel good so don't get stuck in that validation cycle. But you can 'own' a girl so to speak by keeping her excited.

[–]piggiebiggie7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why shouldn't she like you because you make her feel good though? This is a serious question. The reasons she listed, did you ask why those things made her feel good? You say that she didn't mention your character traits, but look at the list of things you provided.

breakfast, sleep well, feel safe, good fucks

The things she listed speak to what she thinks of you at a deeper level. It may be good to ask.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Appreciate it for as long as you can, then let it slide away. Some gals will be done in a week, some may last many months. Stay aware and observant....you're know when it's time to move on.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Before I found trp, a girl I was seeing wrote me a list of 150ish reasons she loved me.

At the time, I was pleased as I viewed this as proof that I was appreciated - however reading this list now, I realize that, without exception, every point boiled down to:

you make me feel good, because you are a high value man whose validation is important to me

Seriously. That was pretty much it. She's now one of my most obnoxious widows, and bounces wildly back and forth between 'you're such a great guy I wish we'd worked out' and 'you're a literal psychopath and I'm well rid of you'.

(And before any of you tell me I shouldn't be responding to her: I don't, unless she's in my town and offering a 'catch up over coffee' which is her code for 'the best goddamn blow job you've ever received'. Sue me, but even with the enormous amount of women I've bedded, her head skills remain completely untouchable, and I'm more than happy to benefit from that every so often when she's in town without her husband's oversight)

[–]fryhldrew2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Man, I would give you gold if I had some

[–]ExpresssMess2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I love you because I need you < I need you because I love you

[–]Razkolol2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Turn on some negative emotions, you’ve left that whole part untouched. Drop in some dread, ignore some messages/calls, small negs, etc. She’ll like you because you make her feel good/bad/anxious/etc., give her the whole range, especially since she’s already talking with some other guy.

[–]TheCookShow2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You make, you fuck, you make... All things that you do, not something that you ARE.

A sad truth that I accepted only recently... Thank you for sharing.

[–]foxhound5251 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I learned this lesson the hard way many years ago. Men love women for who and what they are, women love men for what they can do for them. We're simply tools to them, and worthy of no more consideration than that.

[–]Crixusgannicus1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

True Red Pill will have you realize there are only two reasons ANYONE likes ANYTHING or ANYONE ever.

  1. You like the way it/someone makes you feel.
  2. You like it/someone because it/someone prevents you from feeling some feeling you don't want to feel.

That's why you like your car, your food, your clothes, your significant other, your dog. Think it over and realize I'm right. Try in vain to think of one thing that you like that doesn't either fall under number 1 or 2.

[–]Lieisnotreal1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Soon, I will become familiar and thus giving her less intense emotions. My turn will end. "That's not necessarily true you can maintain the intensity of her emotions by creating mystery or just generally making her idealize yourself.

[–]juanwonone10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just exactly like a bitch....me me me.

[–]HarringtonHouseGuy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm browsing this Sub because I'm post-breakup and trying to motivate myself, and I guess it's doing that in a way but damn...It's also just really depressing, eh?

[–]scorpionkg0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ok, after you telling that, what are you going to do? Use TRP in your favor, maintain the frame, go cold e make her start to feeling mix feelings!

Game her, dont match all her needs!

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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