Women Get Bored With Sex in Long-Term Relationships

SophisticatedBean · 2019-02-16T14:24:18+00:00

Haha:

Two oft-cited German longitudinal studies, published in 2002 and 2006, show female desire dropping dramatically over 90 months, while men’s holds relatively steady. (Tellingly, women who didn’t live with their partners were spared this amusement-park-ride-like drop—perhaps because they were making an end run around overfamiliarity.)

What is likely happening here is that in an intimate relationship, the woman learns about the man's weaknesses and eventually he does not seem better than her anymore. The facade crumbles. He becomes boring and vulnerable, some of the most undesirable qualities in women's eyes because in the wild these are reliable signals of low status.

This perfectly explains why Islam keeps women in a separate world entirely. Hiding men's problems from women solves this issue.

Buss et al. explains women's dropping sexual desire as an adaptation to switch to a different high status partner in order to ensure a high status and healthy partner at all times and for genetic diversity of the offspring (mate switching hypothesis). Though I think the explanation above is also likely; basically a side-effect of hypergamy/choosiness when mixed with intimacy, not an adaptation in itself.

So intimate relationships are possibly a completely misguided approach to male-female relationships. Men mostly just want sex from women and the social status that comes from being accepted by a female and from having someone to care for. Romance actually comes from bromance. Women seem to be largely incapable of long-term romance. Their brains are all about securing resources, high status males, having babies, denigrating the reputation of other women, gossip etc., not about encouraging their partner, acknowledging his status directly; it's always more about what other people think and the man's confidence (which is a hard-to-fake signal of high status and status is negotiated by other people, so it's also about what other people think…).

eduardkoopman · 2019-02-16T15:02:11+00:00

Imo, that is totally natural.

Is the assumption, and aim. to be with a partner for a whole adult lifetime, or decades. Is that a natural aim? (imo, it's not natural innate)

Firstly.
Life-time long pair-bonding; isn't natural innate for humans (especially if one gets really old like nowadays. When the average age of death was still 30-something life-long pair bonding was easier). Also life long pair bonding, it's been a prety recent construct in the total history of humans (and largly became helpfull when it became possible to own things/land/etc. and let your children use/inherit that).
We are more seasonal pair-bonders, innate speaking. Like for a period of 5 years, which will make it possible to bring 1 child to and age that survival of the child is reasonably good.
Then after that period, it's evoluntionairy speaking better to pair bond seasonally with a another partner. So to have more genetical diversity.
(here some over simplified historical outline of pair bonding changes with humans: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NSD2WW8xieY&t=65s

Hence:
Women's interest in sex steeply declines in a relationship (while men's interest remains stable-ish). Within 90 months (7.5 years), the wife's willingness to engage often in sex typically reduces by ~66%.

https://i.imgur.com/78n2o6c.png

PHOENIX_THE_JEAN · 2019-02-16T21:01:42+00:00

That depends on the woman. I was previously engaged to an ex of 10 years. Lost my virginity to him when I was 18. He waited 2 years. When we became sexual, we were doing it 2-9 times a week, and it was like that (except period weeks) throughout the entire 10 years.

It really does depend on the person.

Fourth44 · 2019-02-17T09:14:40+00:00

please link the study

The_Semen_Jihadi · 2019-05-16T11:42:39+00:00

Title	Women Get Bored With Sex in Long-Term Relationships
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