I went on a 2nd date with a woman much older than me (she is 57, I'm 27). The date was very strange and I feel like I got shit tested a lot. The date ended well (I think). Here is what happened:

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We had the date in a bar. At the beginning when she sat down, she said things like "it wouldn't work out with us" and she was planning to meet another man she used to know from her past. She said she wouldn't have enough in common with me, given the big age difference.

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She then said I lacked understanding about her illness (I'm still not sure if she genuinely has an illness or it's just a shit test to see if I care about her).

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She started commenting on my dress sense (mainly my shoes). My shoes were regular converse, but she nitpicked and said that I looked like I was going to the gym, not on a date.

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She then got angry at me because I didn't offer her a drink on either the first date or this date. She had an argument with me, saying men are "supposed" to offer a drink and other men have done this for her. I don't remember exactly what I said, but something along the lines of "you can get a drink if you want, but I don't offer drinks to people I just met because I don't want to feel used".

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She said "you know what, I've had it with you" and abruptly stormed off to her car outside. I followed her and we then started talking while she was sat in her car and I was standing outside.

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We had further arguments along the same lines (bringing feminism into it, past dates, whether men should pay for women etc). She seemed close to tears (not sure if they were genuine tears or crocodile tears) and she threatening to drive off. Until I gave an apology, said I really liked her and offered to take her out for a meal next time.

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Once I offered to take her out for a meal next time, she stopped being angry. Then amazingly, she moved in and we kissed for a good 20 seconds. She started complimenting me, saying things like "are you really 6 foot tall? you seem at least 6 foot 2 or 3". She then said I needed to bulk up a little bit. I made her feel my biceps and I think she said they were nice (don't remember exactly). We kissed again for 10 seconds and then she said she got a text from her daughter and drove off.

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So, that's pretty long. But I'm wondering how much did I get shit tested? And does she like me or just using me?

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Didn't realize a 57 year old woman could act this - dare I say it - immature and childish (if that's what you call it).